Today on Digg:
Fat Shaming Shouldn’t Be Part of Our “New Normal”
From The Walrus (lol)
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The article is about 70% the story of her own relationship with food, with the only COVID stuff being at the very beginning and very end.
About the author: Erika Thorkelson (
@ethorkel |
@ethor) is a freelance journalist and culture critic living in Vancouver. She teaches humanities and writing at Emily Carr University of Art and Design.
Excerpts:
oh wow this is so self indulgent, the navel gazing is incredible.
Also I understand that she’s writing about generational influence in regards to women within a family’s relationship with food, which is fine, I guess but like...who cares?
The way she writes wants to be confessional but it isn’t interesting.
This part about her grandmother being in a diet group for many years and having a charm and that says “TOO FAT” imo was meant to be tongue in cheek, like a joke.
I’m wondering if the weight loss group her grandmother was a part of was more of a social thing? The common goal of wanting to be healthier would probably bring woman together as friends. Things like that are effective, you’re the sum of the people around you sorta thing.
I’VE BEEN EMBROILED in diet culture my whole life. It was my inheritance, both figuratively and literally. In the jewellery box I got from my maternal grandmother after she died was a charm bracelet she wore on special occasions. Among the tiny silver plaques celebrating wedding anniversaries and Mother’s Days, there were several charms from TOPS—Take Off Pounds Sensibly—a weight-loss support program she had belonged to for many years. One of the charms was in the shape of a bathroom scale, with the words “TOO FAT” where the numbers should be. My grandmother had survived polio as a child and the decades of pain that followed. She had raised five children and fostered several more, and she could whip up fresh bread on a dime. But she could never celebrate her body’s marvelous strength because she wore the words TOO FAT as a symbol of shame.
I checked and TOPs, the aforementioned weight loss group seems like an interesting and wonderful opportunity for people who struggle with their weight that isn’t commercialized.
Take Off Pounds Sensibly is the short name for TOPS Club, Inc., the original nonprofit, noncommercial network of weight-loss support groups and wellness education organization. TOPS offers tools and programs for healthy living and weight management, with exceptional group fellowship and recognition. Established in 1948 to champion weight-loss support and success, we've helped millions of people live healthier lives.
e; found the charm.
And this next paragraph is the whiniest shit I’ve read this week. First of all the implication that women that aren’t working class don’t get pressured to diet. I can’t even, it’s just, very “poor me!” Blaming her weight on family, genetics, anyone other than herself. At least her grandmother tried and had self agency. It’s a touch sad but mostly just pathetic. Why give away your power?
Poor and working-class women, like those in my family, were often encouraged to look to their weight as the source of their problems rather than the larger forces of structural issues like misogyny and capitalism. If you had trouble finding a job or your husband was cheating on you, getting skinny was supposed to be the answer. Meanwhile, weight-loss programs like TOPS and Weight Watchers offered them a community where they could bond over their shared frustrations and trade recipes for zero-calorie whipped-cream desserts they might be able to trick their husbands into eating. Through these rituals, women who had very little agency in their lives were given an illusory sense of control over their own bodies and circumstances. When they failed, as they mostly did, it reinscribed the shame of living in a fat body.