


Victim blaming (for people who this applies to)
What you are doing is victim blaming for people whose partners/spouses do that to them. NO, it is not the fault of the person in the Covenant who is being cheated out of the help. It is the fault of the partner/spouse who has a DUTY to change their behavior to do the right thing.
I don't do "everything at [my] home", Marshall did plenty of the car maintenance like oil changes, brakes, etc AND child discipline, store trips, etc. He is okay with me being a SAHM without working an additional 40 hours outside of the home, and he doesn't complain about it (doesn't overload me with responsibility that way).