For the life of me I'll never understand what draws grown men in their 30s to this type of lifestyle. Younger men, impressionable, confused, trying to forge an identity, sure.
Jim is a fully grown biological male. To just decide one day "hey I'm female now" is a logical hoop that's very hard to buy as anything but an attention seeking, misguided effort to garner recognition by a very mentally ill person. At some point though the whole thing just gets beyond the pale.
I like to consider to be myself pretty progressive. I don't care how people choose to live their lives. Gay, trans, bi whatever. Be or fuck whomever you want.
I have a ton of progressive friends who feel the same way. They don't understand it, they don't even try. They just go along with the farce and call them w/e pronouns they're calling themselves this week. "Oh they're they/them now. Ok". Because they now they'll face ostracism if they don't play along with the charade.
I think as I've gotten older and spent more time around women the thing I've learned is, theirs not universal acceptance in the "cis female" community for this shit. I've talked to alot of women who don't want to share space with trans folk. They know they're mentally ill, unbalanced and frankly to force girls to have to use the same bathrooms as biological men with fethisim issues isn't right.
I've always looked at it like this. Black people have complained for decades about appropriation. Wether it be music, clothes, culture etc. How is this any different? Jim Sterling was a biological male his entire life. He enjoyed all the benefits that came with it. He just decides one day "Oh ya I'm a girl. Acknowledge me or your a bigot". How is that fair to women who've lived their entire lives that way through no choice of their own?
Jim won't experience the pains of being mocked for developing breasts in middle school, getting his first period, carrying that medical burden his entire life, the biological weight of child bearing, having to fear for his safety and feeling weak in a physical situation where he's completely at the mercy of the men around him.
Hes a fucking tourist. He showed up 30+yrs into this thing and decided "That's mine now. Im that!". Like a child jealous of a friend's toy. He's not an ally. He's an interloper. And i completely understand why a ton of women outside the echo chamber of the internet see him that way. Why would i want my partner to be forced to share private space with a mentally ill pervert? God forbid my child? Tumblr can call those women terfs all they want but at the end of the day, theirs acceptance and theirs forced interaction through coercion. Jim's case like alot of "trans lesbian fethists with auto-gynophelia" appears to be the latter. I'm not sorry and I'm tired of pretending to be.