Grandma always gave me the impression that she was financially comfortable. Not rich as Croesus, but comfortable. I assumed she was widowed and she probably sold a home and moved into a more manageable apartment; no worries of maintenance or groundskeeping. She probably augmented whatever savings and profits from a home sale with a pension and/or Canadian Social Security. Enough that she rewarded her granddaughter for doing what granddaughters are supposed to do. I have no doubt that she bought groceries, picked up lunch tabs, and flipped Chantal cash over the years.
Having said that, that's what grandparents do. Sometimes it is more insulting to refuse lunch etc... However, most people find ways to sneakily give it back without hurting feelings. Such as not doing your shop with grandma because you know she will pay, arrive with a take out lunch, buy her something "just 'cuz".
I have my doubts that Chantal ever did that. Relationships are on her terms and are transactional. Chantal doesn't do anything for anyone if it is an inconvenience and she gets nothing out of it. If she is by chance forced to do something (anything) she is resentful.
The term "palliative" usually implies the focus is on comfort rather than wellness. Rehab is focused on wellness. As others have pointed out, "palliative rehab" is an oxymoron. Either Chantal is an idiot ( yes) or her family are treating her like a child and are sugar coating the reality (also probably).
No matter; rehab, palliative care, or "palliative rehab", the outlook isn't good for an almost 80 yr old with what sounds like heart failure. Grans most likely isn't going to get better. Worst case scenario, she will have a slow painful decline over the next few months as her body gives out. It's kinder for her to go quickly.
I genuinely feel bad for Chantal's mom. Having to deal with her mother and a 37 yr old toddler. If Chantal goes to the wake, she'll be camped out near the coffee pot or hiding in her car. I can't imagine she'd mingle well with mourners (strangers) nor would do well in the family receiving line. She won't help mom. She isn't physically or mentally able. She'll also have to be appropriate for once. Ticcing, eating, cackling, and farting isn't good wake/funeral etiquette.
Addendum- Can her ass even fit into the pew at church? I'm going to say, "No". There's her excuse to skip the church service.
Edit- I fucking hate my phone's auto correct.
