If Rhys were smart he'd be out there giving no-cost speeches at high schools. He would be accepting every single interview no matter how insignificant the request. He could easily be the troon messiah if he just weren't so lazy. Just imagine an approachable, highly educated troon athlete out there riling up the allies. Rhys could be the head of a legit movement that pays him a fat salary from donations. Fuck the "dream job", he could make his own. The possibilities are limitless.
I don't mind if Rhys reads this because he will never do it, his narcissism won't let him. The man is such a fuck up that he is mentally unable to take advantage of this opportunity. He could be really dangerous if he was only willing to do a small amount of outreach. But alas, that would be work - and Rhys McKinnon is exempt from all work, even his own. I have never been so grateful to live in a world with NPD. Sure narcs are a pain to deal with, but a slightly less acerbic Rhys would be a real problem for the world.
Rhys doesn’t know how to see himself in relation to other people‘s needs (to paraphrase Mark Medoff), thus he does not understand how to play ball or in fact that there is such a dynamic. He cannot grasp give and take, he doesn’t get that in the circles he wishes to enter and ascend, you give to others so they will give to you. You give a lot. You praise a lot of others, you make a lot of others feel important, you boost the voices of others, so they begin to perceive you as a source of supply. You do this a lot. Eventually, others begin to treat you as if you are important, as if you are worthy of praise, as a voice to boost to make themselves look good and look boostable.
Rhys just cannot triangulate his own position in the multi-level marketing scheme that is modern influencer life. You must BE INFLUENCED and ingratiate yourself, and demonstrate value to others, thus showing you know how to play the game. Eventually the ball will be served to you and it is then your time to spike it.
Rhys wants to accelerate his path, though, and he doesn’t want to give. Anything. Ever. And he wonders why nothing ever works out for him and why he can’t get any traction. It’s because you don’t PROVIDE any traction to anyone. Why would anyone help you when you offer nothing in return? You just sit there and wait to be admired.
Rhys, if you’re reading here - and I know you are - I want you to try something, even though I despise you and shouldn’t be giving you useful advice. But Rhys, every single time you are tempted to insert yourself into a conversation trying to get attention by bragging about yourself, mentioning yourself, referencing your own work and “successes” going back to like what, elementary school? Lol. Anyway, when you feel this coming on, as you clearly do multiple times each day...make a different choice. Choose to brag about and admire someone else. Mention other people’s work, not your own. Again, see yourself in relation to other people’s needs. Do not ONLY extend this to people who don’t need you, like Kate Strangio, for example. Look around at the Rat King. See how you don’t really belong here? Because you try to benefit from the Rat King without benefiting it yourself. Identify others who need the serve, and serve the ball to them. If they are a good candidate they will return the serve. You keep doing this until better players begin to notice you. People care about what OTHERS CAN DO FOR THEM, Rhys, you know this because that is all YOU care about. You MUST PRETEND to admire others, you must demonstrate value. That is the path to the influence you seek.
But no, you’d rather engage with the AmHole, whose attention has negative value, because he’s willing to say admiring things without you having done anything admirable.
Anyway that’s your path, Rhys, if you choose to take it. Sadly, it is still not too late for you to become the important troon you wish to be. You’ve fucked up a lot, losing your platform as ”philosophy professor troon” is a big hit to take, you really shouldn’t have cashed that out in favor of trying to be sports-troon, but you’re a heterosexual white man from privilege who has trooned out, that means you will get chance after chance when others would not.
You want to be a woman? LEARN TO PERFORM EMOTIONAL LABOUR FOR OTHERS. Rhys, it’s a female superpower. Not all of us wield it well but when we do, we see success. What do other people want to feel about themselves? How do they want to be seen? Then actively work toward making them feel that way. Actively seem to see them that way. I cannot tell you how fucking easy this is. Now, when a woman is young and hot this can be dangerous because guys respond so strongly to it, but you are unfuckable by any measure, so you’ll be fine.
Isn’t it strange that Rhys seems to announces who is interviewing him and when it will be out?
