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And this is why we say archive (or screenshot) everything.

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Unfortunately none of the archive sites I used captured it either.

Edit: OK I'm retarded. It was picking up the some after the forward slash. Here are the screenshots anyway.

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So we decided to date others in hopes that I would be able to find a partner who wanted to have children in place of him.
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To normal people that's called breaking up. You have come to a point the relationship can't move past so you break up and go your separate ways. You don't say "well we'll stay together while I audition for a replacement".

But what works in theory, does not always work in practice.
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Yeah, like everything the modern left believes.

He wanted to be open-minded and accept this was now our life, but in his heart, he didn’t want me to see other people, and it wore on him.
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Almost as if humans have emotions they don't have logical control over.

I knew it wasn’t his fault he’d changed his mind, but I felt that now, he owed me this.
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No one owes you shit you entitles harpy.

It hurt me to see him in pain. I wanted to have a healthy polyamorous relationship like the people at that meetup seemed to have.
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Key word, seemed. Either their lives are clusterfucks or they're part of a hive of low EQ people you should not be expecting a real bond with.

But at that point, I needed my autonomy more than I needed my relationship to survive.
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Cool, break up like a normal person would of they feel this way.

It wasn’t that I cared for either of these new men more than I did my partner. But I’d tasted that excitement.
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So you agree it was just the excitement of something new that won out, not say a long term connection.

So finally, I put my foot down and broke up with him. And it was the hardest decision I’ve ever made.
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Took you long enough. This created so much more pain and drama for everyone involved than if you just parted right at the beginning when you decided you were incompatible.

For a while, I thought that because I was the one who wanted to date others, the breakup was my fault.
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The break up might not have been but all the drama and pain sure as hell was.

All he wanted was what all of our movies, books, TV series, family, and friends hammer into us multiple times per day that we should all want: a “normal” relationship with one person.
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What a monster, I hope you reported this evil to the authorities. He wanted a relationship that actually functioned and not some shitshow? I can't even.

And ultimately his pain came from me doing what makes me happy. I don’t need to feel guilty about that.
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Yes you do you fucking psycho. What the hell with this logic "it makes me happy so who cares about other people?"

I loved Phil, and I still love him.
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Just not as much as getting yours right?


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I don’t need to own the person I love. I don’t need to limit the connections or love they can feel with others in order to feel secure about myself or my relationship.

We broke up because I wanted to see other people. It’s not his fault, but it’s not mine either.

A longterm monogamous relationship structure doesn’t work for so many of us. And our society still doesn’t recognize that.

But it can and will one day. And that starts here.
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And of course we need an evils of monogamy lecture at the end because even though this started as "I need to find a replacement" it ended up as full on cult membership with all the "correct" talking points and everything.

This entire thing reads like some sadistic manifesto from someone who is found with a basement full of corpses. Who the hell thinks their partner owes them being OK with sex with others and that hurting others is fine as long as they get pleasure?
 
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They should've broken up the second they realized one of them wanted kids and the other didn't. The author overthinks. She blames this all on her being polyamorous but the real issue is that the future she saw with Phil died when he revealed he didn't want kids. A lot of women aren't only in love with the man, but the future we see with them. The second a man she likes wants to start a family with her, she'll suddenly love the "long-term monogamous structure."

Phil shouldn't have tried to dangle a 'wait! what if I want kids in the future' in front of her. If she was dumb enough to buy that, they would've been miserable for the rest of their lives because she would've resented being tricked into a childless life. Fuck off, Phil. Let your retard be free. You'll find another one.
 
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hash-slinging slasher said:
Phil shouldn't have tried to dangle a 'wait! what if I want kids in the future'
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He definitely shouldn't have but it was a desperation move to try and revive the relationship while they were both deep in denial about it already being over.

Once such a big incompatibility becomes apparent its time to have an adult conversation and end the relationship there, not start auditioning for replacements. Still I suppose props for being so honest about it rather than the "he's just a friend" monkey branching that's not uncommon.

Who wants to jump on that one "I'm still with my long term partner but he won't get me pregnant, who wants to replace him"? Every guy loves the idea of getting a woman fresh out of a long term relationship pregnant asap right?

Then after that decide "wait I don't need to decide, I can have both" as if the conception part of the deal was the problem Phil had with it.
 
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PresidentTerf said:
I have had 3 or 4 encounters or experiences with poly people.
One woman lost her mind at me cause I said I didn't want to date a poly, another is an acquaintance and currently has 3 boyfriends and a girlfriend.

And the last one was a housemate who was poly and had caught herpes....from whom I'm not sure.

And I'll add that when I was single, lesbian Tinder was probably more clogged up with polys of some capacity (looking for a 3rd, attached bi women looking for a plaything etc) than trannies.
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Ding ding ding! Here it is! The L in LGB is the one that suffers most from bi people's poly madness. Nine times out of fucking ten on these boards, it's bi women and their cuck husbands turning poly to save their marriage, and preying on lesbians.

It's even gotten to the point where it's "biphobic" to NOT want to join a throuple. It's actively hateful for a lesbian to not want to share a pussy with a penis. And it's "transphobic" for a lesbian to not want to have sex with a penis either. God help lesbians, to be honest. They're always the punching bag of these mindgames.
 

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Good old leftists doing the standard "you owe me your body" then screeching -phobia/ism when rejected. Over on the relationship advice reddit you see some guy who's gf has come out as bi and wants to open the relationship to some other girl at least once a week. It just doesn't compute with some people that bi capable of attraction to both, not needing to be with one of each.
 
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Ding ding ding! Here it is! The L in LGB is the one that suffers most from bi people's poly madness. Nine times out of fucking ten on these boards, it's bi women and their cuck husbands turning poly to save their marriage, and preying on lesbians.

It's even gotten to the point where it's "biphobic" to NOT want to join a throuple. It's actively hateful for a lesbian to not want to share a pussy with a penis. And it's "transphobic" for a lesbian to not want to have sex with a penis either. God help lesbians, to be honest. They're always the punching bag of these mindgames.
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Sadly, oftentimes lesbians end up as the eternal playthings of bisexual women who will always favor a future with a man as opposed to a future with a woman.
 
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Once such a big incompatibility becomes apparent its time to have an adult conversation and end the relationship there, not start auditioning for replacements.
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Oh I agree 100%! She overcomplicated the hell out of it. She's lost in the 4th wave feminist sauce.

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also there are examples of giirls wanted to open the relationship and then the dude starts fucking around and the girl gets angry? i want to read some trainwrecks
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Ding ding ding! Here it is! The L in LGB is the one that suffers most from bi people's poly madness. Nine times out of fucking ten on these boards, it's bi women and their cuck husbands turning poly to save their marriage, and preying on lesbians.

It's even gotten to the point where it's "biphobic" to NOT want to join a throuple. It's actively hateful for a lesbian to not want to share a pussy with a penis. And it's "transphobic" for a lesbian to not want to have sex with a penis either. God help lesbians, to be honest. They're always the punching bag of these mindgames.
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Anyone can refuse to fuck you for any reason they want and there's not a problem with it, and the fact people can't accept this is why we can't have nice things
 
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Recently I got on a kick of watching documentaries and YouTube videos on the many many Mormon offshoot sects. TL;DR When the Mormon church decided that polygamy wasn't cool after all, the Mormons that were deep believers of "plural marriage" broke away and formed their own True Mormon Churches™ which is why we have things like the FLDS.

Many of the documentaries specifically use "why polygamy is predatory and dangerous" as the backbone of the doc or it is a main talking point at least.

I couldn't help but wonder how we are going to reconcile our society's longtime disapproval of polygamy with the new woke push for "poly is progressive uwu," but then again we have reached the point where not thinking its OK for parents to chop their toddler son's dick off is the "wrong" opinion to have.
 
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