Oh awesome! Do you disagree with any of my wording in the first post? I'm not a lolita, I'm in it for the drama and saw a few of my friends get fully into the fandom so I saw their dive in sanity. There's really something funny about adult women wearing bows and bonnets and frilly dresses crowding around a laptop to see who's talking shit.
I've considered making a topic like this here before, but I didn't mostly because so much of the drama relies on teminology and stuff I think non-lolitas might not understand so well, and what's funny to me wouldn't be so funny to other people. But now that it's here I'll try to contribute
I think a lot of the perception of lolitas being salty is overblown. Like, for example the muslim lolita thing. Probably 95% of lolitas support muslim lolitas or don't care because there are a ton of SJWs in lolita fashion as well as people think it looks nice or simply don't care. My facebook has been flooded with articles about muslim lolitas the past two weeks. But then you get one salty /pol/-chan (they are there) and give her an anonymous platform and suddenly there are 4 secrets about muslim lolitas and it looks like lolitas hate muslims. Also a few months ago some /pol/-chan flooded BtB for a couple of weeks with I HATE BLACK PEOPLE, SO UNKAWAII secrets and of course everyone lost their shit. Sooo many secrets are trolls. I've submitted troll secrets myself lol, nothing attacking a group or anyone in particular just dumb shit to rile people up. (before anyone gets the idea to cool guy you kind of have to know something about the community to do this successfully, there are fail trolls every week so just stop)
A lot of salt comes from newbies and people who don't even participate in communities. I've been part of a few IRL communities and they are all pretty awesome but every once in awhile you get some girl who doesn't feel like she gets enough attention so she flounces with "waaah, lolitas are mean elitists!!" it attracts a lot of tumblr snowflakes and like I mentioned before girls with huge princess complexes. These girls cause a shit ton of drama.
But of course there are hardcore veteran lolitas who cause salt and drama as well (like me
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The secrets communities fuel a lot of the fire. It's actually kind of a coincidence why they even exist when they don't for other fashions. Lolita secrets came about in the era of postsecret, when every fandom had it's own secrets comm (fandom secrets, sailor moon secrets) and it just kind of stuck around. It was originally meant for unpopular opinions and more banal stuff but quickly became a haven of vendettas, shitposting and trolling. Add on to that the fact that moot just happened to like lolita fashion enough to give us a board along with cosplayers so there's another anonymous platform for all your sodium needs.
Overall I really enjoy being part of the community. I've made some great friends in it who aren't drama whores, and don't really get involved in toxic/personal drama. Ofcourse I enjoy watching it though
it's one of my main entertainments outside of kiwi farms
