I dunno, excuse my power leveling here, but it feels weirdly relevant in that it might add a little hope. My other half doesn't play, but my boss and I do. I enjoy his long spergs about Da Boyz, fills out a good hole in my lore knowledge. Plus I've picked up loads of model modding tips from him. If we were of a similar age and both single I'd probably give him a chance, he's passionate when he spergs out and that's a quality that trumps looks for me. The way he holds himself and speaks changes, he becomes a fired up, better version of himself. Even if he looks no different he looks more attractive in a bizarre, head-scratchingly-complex kind of way. It might be weird but I'm far from special, I'd put good money on there being loads of other chicks like me, they just happen to also be on the spectrum and, in typical female spectrum fashion, spend most their time masking and keeping their heads down like the nervous retards they are.
We're rare but girl 40Kers are out there. It's a seller's market out there for us for sure, but your competitors are other spergs at the club and not one of em are don Juan. :p