Update : my friend who trooned out, initially with a self awareness that it's a fetish. Finally convinced it's the "authentic self" and now recieving asspats on Facebook for outing.
The thing is, I am actually envious of troons now. They have can come out being true to their "authentic self" and all their spirituality that goes against the constraints of nature... a modern exemplar of self actualisation.. Regardless if those things are true or not. They seem to be universally celebrated for what is actually identity issues, fetish and body dysmorphia. Sometimes that doesn't seem to require efforts or any real sense of work. Everyone will love them for it regardless of how insufferable they can be.
But sadly I see through all the lies... And i really cant convince myself any of this is real. Is there any bad thing about trooning out at all?
For one, you live in fear of the community even if you tow the line. People in sjw crowds can AND will do it with little provocation. Some of our long term thread troons have been such (like Kevin). Only some cluster b types escape from it because they thrive on being bastards.
Second, you'll meet a lot of boring, autistic, unstable, and deranged people when trying to find other enlightened individuals. Boring people who talk mostly about being lgbt to an annoying degree, autistic people who aren't bad but can be repetitive in interest and harder to communicate with, people going through struggles of mental health who can be harder to handle if you don't have the energy for it, and deranged fetishist and manipulators because troons. The first 3 people aren't bad, they can just be exhausting to make friends with. Your normal friends will be mostly cis and your strange friends will be mostly trans - it just comes with the territory.
Trooning also cost money if you put effort into it. And at least half do - "I'm not going to take anything, just socially transition" goes to "Ok, just hormones and THEN I'll feel better", then to "All I need is this last surgery and THEN I'll stop having dysphoria." This usually happens because people are influenced by others in their friendship circle, on accident or by on purpose grooming.
And this leads to the final problem: you reach the last step, but... your problems aren't fixed. You would still hate yourself and or your body, or you would still have mental illnesses like depression and anxiety, or your parents would still dislike you if you were honest and stayed a gay man/lesbian, or you would still be chasing after that autogynophilia/autoyaoiphilia high. I talk about destructive transitioning, and when I say it I mean it: you try to escape and ignore your problems, but they don't go away because you're not actually addressing them. This is one of the most destructive things about troons and its hard to convey to outsiders looking in and to people swept up in the transitioning craze. Mental health is no joke, and this is why the suicide rate is how it is with trans people - they're banaiding their big gash. (second highest is if they get botched surgery causing them pain or disability which is upsettingly common as most are experimental procedures - also a big gash if male [thank you, thank you, I'll be here all week]).
You "win" because people outside of the cult humor you and give you praise because they think you're taking steps to keep from killing yourself. You "win" on websites, college campuses, hipster communities, creative circles for turning your cis privilege in. You "win" by getting past sins washed away and forgiven. You "win" by getting a lovevombing support group that hugboxes you and devolves into self destructive behavior and fetishism half the time. You "win" small burst of confidence that fade away due to nagging realizations.
You'll also fear not presenting as "male/female/nonbinary" enough. You'll gain so many insecurities - does she realize I have an adam's apple? Do men still stare at my hips even if I have a beard? What's the most masculine way to phrase this? Which color is more feminine?? It's maddening.
Your gain in the short term, you lose in the long term. And it's fucking heartbreaking for those who were just trying to stop hating themselves.