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- Oct 21, 2016
Where I'm from we call this being a female-exclusive bisexual, or febfem. IIRC there's still discourse over whether febfems can claim being lesbians, but since the original definition of "lesbian" meant simply "women who love women (sexually)," whether or not those women had previously been with a man or are still attracted to men, it seems fine and clear to be reclaimed.Let me try and explain what he means in a nonretarded way: If you're a woman in a relationship with another woman it's fair to call yourself a lesbian, even if you're interested in men to. Thus it's possible to be a bi lesbian. The phrase "lesbian can't like men" is transphobic because it's been historically used to mean that transwomen can't be lesbians.
But to call yourself a "bi lesbian" is contradictory and nonsense. You can freely use one or the other, depending on which you feel best describes your current situation.