I think we're very close to a point of agreement.
I'm not talking about the rare cases where someone needs to put getting laid waaayyyyyy down the priority list because of some other obviously far more serious and immediate issue. I'm talking about the 99% of cases where there is no such other problem. The overwhelming majority of young men should be quite capable of maintaining a basic level of physical fitness and developing confidence, charisma, conversation, flirting skills etc by the age of 18.
If any man has not managed this, I really think there is something there for them to be concerned about and a problem to address.