- Joined
- Jun 28, 2019
A lot of victims/survivors of abuse simply didn’t know any better and once they are in an abusive relationship, it can be very difficult to get out, especially with children involved or other kind of entanglement.. The ones who did know better can still be manipulated if the abuser is a good/patient enough con. Many survivors of abuse blame themselves enough as it is and pointing fingers at them only makes things worse. Calling them “retards and fuck-ups” does nothing but assist abusers and honestly, attacking the survivors is an abusers wet dream.In most cases I would argue that it less people being "tricked" into bad relationships and thus conveniently avoiding accountability for their bad decisions, but it is rather dysfunction seeking dysfunction (combined with other factors such as denial, sunk cost etc.) which is equally true for both men and women. If you're a retard and a fuckup, chances are you'll end up with someone who either wants to take you for a ride or has completely lost their marbles as much as you.
I’m not saying survivors shouldn’t be held accountable for their actions/choices, but they are in NO WAY to blame for an abuser’s actions/choices.
But, yes, it’s better to be alone than in a bad relationship.