How is it psychological abuse? They met online. She advertised herself as a party girl cum-dumpster not looking for a relationship.
This is exactly right. Hey guys, wanna fuck? I don't need no stinkin' relationship, I just want to fuck and par-tee! That was how she wanted to present herself to the world.
If anything, she is abusing
him. She catfished him, lied about her motives, nicknamed him in honor of their sexual escapades, moved the goalposts, badmouthed him on the internet, doxed him, dumped his laundry on the street, got retardedly high every visit, boasted about the sex constantly. Now, after the handwringing ninnies in her hugbox are using the word "abusive", our low-IQ fatard has glommed on to the word? Fatso, please... It is just one more negative thing she can brag about being addicted to. Such drama.
I suppose it could be considered abuse in the way that banging a legitimate true-life short-bus retard would be abusive. Taking advantage of the mentally and emotionally deficient, you could call it. But is she a bona-fide retard? No; her IQ, as low as it is, is still on the lower fringes of normal. Her emotional intelligence is much lower, and probably is literally retarded, stunted apparently twice (around age 3 and again around age 12; a third stunting event may have occurred at age 9, I still can't decide on that one). A manipulative person can certainly take advantage of emotional immaturity, but that is also a lot more common in relationships than people realize (which doesn't excuse it)
Clotso is remarkable in that she has managed to brainwash herself. Nobody had to do it to her. Something is very obviously wrong with her. Memo to the Clot: If it is so abusive, then
leave; you've already broken up half a dozen times. If she is 'tarded enough to go back, give him money, and bankrupt herself on drugs at the same time (while discontinuing her medication for potentially life-ending chronic illness), then is she really being abused?
I refuse to entertain the notion, simply because she
wants us to believe she is abused. It's the oldest trick in her book; cry about her own misfortunes that are never her own fault, get sympathy and money. I'm just not gonna play ball with that any more than I accept she is a victim of the fast food industry or that she snorts coke because she has a disease. Nope.
Nader may very well be an absolute scumbag (although we only have her convoluted stories to judge him by; his online presence and card tricks seemed benign enough). He may get rough during sex. He may have gotten her hooked on drugs (although she probably presented herself to him as someone experienced who could handle her drugs). Does all this count as "abuse"? Depending on how you define abuse, maybe. But is Chantal an abused woman? Her worst abuser is herself.
Rather than saying she's "abused", I'll just call it "fucked-up" and leave it at that.
Not saying Nader isn't taking advantage of her (to me it's pretty obvious he is) but I would take the word abuse with a grain of salt knowing she tends to exaggerate at the best, and tells straight lies at the worse.