- Joined
- Oct 8, 2018
Late and gay, but one of the outages happened before I could send this before:
As for what makes you seem so sexual is the public advertisement of sexuality. Other than my (extremely embarrassing at times) manic cycles I don't discuss my own sex life anywhere public. That isn't to say I'm some prude, I'm my own brand of deviant, I just know well enough to hide it. You, however, post yourself being overtly sexual while also connecting it to your transness. This makes it look like a fetish and makes you seem extremely sexual.
There's a few solutions to making it seem less like a fetish and less like you are overly sexual. One is to lean harder into the porn and call it branding. It might seem weird that would make you seem less sex obsessed but, it works since it just looks like you're working your hustle. Look at what professional pornstars do. They lean hard into the sexualization of the self as a brand, but it is kind of expected of them to do so, everyone knows it is a played up act. The other option is detach your public presentation of sexuality from your public presentation of transhood. Or you know, just cut out the sexuality near entirely. In both cases it is a matter of "Oh, I guess that Laura isn't that sex crazy", because you just aren't giving off that appearance.
It does seem you're someone who is attempting to have a notable internet presence, which, while I'm neutral on the idea beyond the fact it gives us milk, isn't going to go well currently simply because your self branding is fucking awful. I mean, I guess it's no surprise a self professed commie would fail at capitalistic business ventures like sex work and branding, but damn, your branding fucking sucks. You need to learn to curate which parts of yourself you make public. Online you have a lot of control over the image you put out, and while there will be no forgetting what you've done, you can drown it out through conscious branding.
Having seen you this forum, I personally don't think you're overly sexual personally, honestly you're pretty prudish compared to most our troons of note. You don't scream "pervert in a dress", you do scream "bat shit insane troon waving a gun and getting MATI" at times, and that is beyond the fact you just literally scream at a camera on occassion, but my first thoughts on Laura Hobbs is "troon who makes crazy YouTube videos and needs to make a big public show of apologizing to that poor KFC manager". Most of our other troons definitely put out big "pervert in a dress" vibes, though I can say, part of the reason we make that assumption 'round here, at least those of us who aren't just "TERFs", is we have a bit of a selection bias. We actively collect exceptional individuals, and among trans folk the exceptional individuals happen to often be coomers, sex pests, and perverted AGPs. You need to be a total retard to think that any demographic we have represented on this site is indicative of the larger community, no matter how many member we collect, unless you're in Community Watch of course.
Also while we like to call the UK "TERF Island", knowing a good number of openly transfolk in the UK, when asked about it they just keep telling me "It really isn't that bad here. The stuff I hear about in the US is way worse than anything I have heard of or experienced here", they also often tell me that apparently Sweden has a really bad TERF issue that gets completely ignored, but no idea what that is about. I think the difference is the UK just happens to have a far more vocal minority than in other countries, maybe because they are less likely to be cancelled for it and have their jobs ruined over the shit they say online, maybe it is only because they have more high profile TERFs, or maybe they just are better organized as a movement in the UK than elsewhere. I have no way to know that for sure.
It isn't so much a double standard as much as perception. You likely don't see it, but people shit on ciswomen being overly sexual as well. The word "thot" exists after all. It's an acronym for "that hoe over there". That should tell you enough
As for what makes you seem so sexual is the public advertisement of sexuality. Other than my (extremely embarrassing at times) manic cycles I don't discuss my own sex life anywhere public. That isn't to say I'm some prude, I'm my own brand of deviant, I just know well enough to hide it. You, however, post yourself being overtly sexual while also connecting it to your transness. This makes it look like a fetish and makes you seem extremely sexual.
There's a few solutions to making it seem less like a fetish and less like you are overly sexual. One is to lean harder into the porn and call it branding. It might seem weird that would make you seem less sex obsessed but, it works since it just looks like you're working your hustle. Look at what professional pornstars do. They lean hard into the sexualization of the self as a brand, but it is kind of expected of them to do so, everyone knows it is a played up act. The other option is detach your public presentation of sexuality from your public presentation of transhood. Or you know, just cut out the sexuality near entirely. In both cases it is a matter of "Oh, I guess that Laura isn't that sex crazy", because you just aren't giving off that appearance.
It does seem you're someone who is attempting to have a notable internet presence, which, while I'm neutral on the idea beyond the fact it gives us milk, isn't going to go well currently simply because your self branding is fucking awful. I mean, I guess it's no surprise a self professed commie would fail at capitalistic business ventures like sex work and branding, but damn, your branding fucking sucks. You need to learn to curate which parts of yourself you make public. Online you have a lot of control over the image you put out, and while there will be no forgetting what you've done, you can drown it out through conscious branding.
Having seen you this forum, I personally don't think you're overly sexual personally, honestly you're pretty prudish compared to most our troons of note. You don't scream "pervert in a dress", you do scream "bat shit insane troon waving a gun and getting MATI" at times, and that is beyond the fact you just literally scream at a camera on occassion, but my first thoughts on Laura Hobbs is "troon who makes crazy YouTube videos and needs to make a big public show of apologizing to that poor KFC manager". Most of our other troons definitely put out big "pervert in a dress" vibes, though I can say, part of the reason we make that assumption 'round here, at least those of us who aren't just "TERFs", is we have a bit of a selection bias. We actively collect exceptional individuals, and among trans folk the exceptional individuals happen to often be coomers, sex pests, and perverted AGPs. You need to be a total retard to think that any demographic we have represented on this site is indicative of the larger community, no matter how many member we collect, unless you're in Community Watch of course.
Also can we please point out and agree that most people accused of being "TERFs" aren't even TERFs? Like, TERF means "Trans Exclusionary Radical Feminist", most so called "TERFs" aren't radical nor feminists, they are just generic tranny haters. Can we all agree to be more selective with this term? K, thanks. I just like to have my tranny haters in one bucket and my TERFs in the other, as TERFs are more likely to provide milk than generic tranny haters.
As I always say, there never really was a properly unified LGBT community, and this is before we had it turn into LGBTQABCDEFG+, just four groups who agreed they wanted to have the right to not be fired for who they are, and the right to same sex marriage since it benefitted them all. The other LGBT issues were limited to one group or another, they weren't shared issues, and we already fucking hate each other. Adding more groups and trying to be more inclusive and accepting, which was driven by the trans elements, just made it all worse.
Also while we like to call the UK "TERF Island", knowing a good number of openly transfolk in the UK, when asked about it they just keep telling me "It really isn't that bad here. The stuff I hear about in the US is way worse than anything I have heard of or experienced here", they also often tell me that apparently Sweden has a really bad TERF issue that gets completely ignored, but no idea what that is about. I think the difference is the UK just happens to have a far more vocal minority than in other countries, maybe because they are less likely to be cancelled for it and have their jobs ruined over the shit they say online, maybe it is only because they have more high profile TERFs, or maybe they just are better organized as a movement in the UK than elsewhere. I have no way to know that for sure.
