Your reaction to Bekkah's picture is exactly why women post their body hair on the internet as an act of empowerment and feminism. Because people get ridiculously upset and offended by them doing it and thus it makes them feel empowered and it gives them attention.
LOOK AT MY HAIRY PITS! LOOK AT THEM!!!! DO THEY MAKE YOU ANGRY!? BIGOT!!!!!!!
Bekkah feeling empowerment by growing out her armpit hair is the least of her problems.
I see Bekah growing out her armpit hair and I think, "That you're too depressed to manage normal personal grooming doesn't make you a rebel against the patriarchy." And even if it's not due to depression, it's a real Baby's First Middle-finger to the Patriarchy sort of thing. Young women have been doing it for over 50 years, at this point; she's hardly doing anything radical, which she would know if she looked beyond her own (deeply-inverted) navel.
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Physics is fat phobic.
It's a trap for sure (that's why we bitch about her on Kiwifarms and not on her sad Instagram). Her wall of text was fucking ridiculous. She's not being oppressed because she's a woman or because she's fat and I have a hard time believing she was raised to "not speak out".
Bekah has a law degree. A LAW DEGREE, and from a well-regarded program. That's not a course of study women pursue when they've grown up internalizing messages against speaking out.
As far as I can tell, she's doing fuck all nothing with that degree, but she lives in a society where she was simultaneously encouraged to pursue it, and at the same time is largely above criticism for not working in the field because she's too emotionally delicate. She gets all the benefits of being treated as a competent woman
and as a fragile infant.
Choosing the fragile infant path is only going to come back and bite her on the ass later in life (and its doing her no genuine favors even now), but that's not the patriarchy's fault; it's the fault of the strain of feminism she's infected with, in which women are to be regarded as strong and worthy of respect even when they've slipped into the comforting trap of weakness, fragility, and dependency.
Social media has been a disaster, but especially so for young women like Bekah who are bright and capable of making genuine contributions to the world—only to get mired in an online community that preys upon their anxieties about (and childish dissatisfactions with) assuming adult responsibilities, that makes weakness their source of power, that encourages their most self-defeating habits and inclinations, and that allows them to cultivate an unwarranted grievances and imagined oppressions.
I still find it absurd how fatties whine about bmi requirements for surgery. How do you not understand that trying to do surgery when you have several inches of excess fat covering the organ just makes things exponentially more difficult to perform safely? You don't need to be a doctor to understand this, it's a pretty intuitive concept.
The one that gets me is when they're refused joint-replacement surgery. Here they are, having destroyed the original joint by overloading it and forcing it out of its natural alignment, and they expect they will get fine and dandy results from the replacements?
They create their own troubles and misery, and expect others to willingly undo it for them, without judgment and without expectation they will change the behaviors that got them there in the first place. And then they claim oppression when others refuse? Yeah, that's going to gain you loads of sympathy.
What I don't understand about this type of person is the notion that "self confidence" always means "being half naked in public".
A trend I've noticed since this kind of shit took over the internet back in 2015 or so: the fatter and more lumpy you are the more likely you are to be walking around with your tits and ass hanging out. Oh sure, I see plenty of hot women walking around scantily clad. But they are dwarfed by the numbers of actually gross hambeasts who walk around in public essentially naked. I really don't understand this. This isn't being confident, it's being lewd for the sake of being lewd. Nobody wants to see your ass. Like if I went into the store with a banana hammock the guy behind the counter would probably tell me to get the fuck out.
I'm an oldfag, so I've seen the long shift in feminist thinking from "women don't have to dress to please men!" and "I am not a sex object!" to "I can dress as slutty as I want, and you're still supposed to respect me!"
That said, I can get why young, hot women go around in skimpy clothes. They get something out of it, and for a brief time in their lives it gives them a certain kind of power, so hey, if it works for you, go for it.
But fatties doing it? I swear, it's a childish thing of, "Well, if you get to do that,
so do I!" Childishness seems to be the mental hallmark of deathfats; they're perennially stuck in "I want!", all appetite, with no ability to understand consequences, or how others might view them. If all the skinny girls get to wear cute clothes, then they should, too. If those same skinny girls attract hot men, then the fatties shouldn't have to settle. If the occasional skinny person they encounter puts away a mountain of food in one sitting, then fats should be allowed to do the same thing.
Now that I think about it, most of the entitled deathfats we discuss here grew up during a period (still ongoing) where all the kids in a class or other social grouping had to be included in everything, as equally as possible—nobody could be excluded, and nobody could go home without a prize. If you had a birthday party, you had to invite all the kids in your class, even the ones you didn't like. There have been abortive attempts in some schools to forbid children from having best friends, because that relationship is, by its very nature, exclusionary, and might make some kids feel left out. The key thing here is that nobody was to be left out, for any reason; it's the mindset behind participation trophies.
It's a shit way to bring up kids because they never have to learn to deal with exclusion and rejection, or being on an unequal footing to others. It allows kids to keep on with whatever annoying and repellent traits they may have, without social consequence, so they never learn, "When you do that, people don't like it, and don't want to be around you." It also buffers them from knowledge of what they need to improve, if they are to be well-liked and wanted.
Granted a school or social setting can't completely shelter kids from being left out, but if the dominant message coming from adults in authority is, "Everybody is just as good as everybody else, and leaving them out is unfair," kids are going to internalize that as the way the world ought to work—especially the kids who are most likely to be left out. Which is, I would venture, how we have ended up with so many entitled incel males and entitled fatty females, who cannot accept that life is not fair, that you might have to work really hard for what you want, and that if you want others to like and accept—or maybe even desire—you, you have to bring something worthwhile to the table.
And then of course you get the social media echo chambers for these teenagers and young adults, disappointed and dismayed that there are no more participation trophies and enforced social inclusion for them once they graduate middle school, and that once they're out of high school they're completely on their own, with nobody to call upon when somebody calls them a spaz or a fatty, or otherwise doesn't keep up the pleasant illusion that everybody is just as special as everybody else, and deserves just as much respect.
Yeah, nobody should be made to feel like shit because they're overweight. Americans load everything with trans fats and corn syrup, of course we have a fucking obesity problem. But that doesn't mean you need to go in the opposite direction, give up on the idea of being healthy, and then let everything hang out because "fuck you, I'm sexy!".
I'm all for granting social politeness to fatties out in public, or in superficial relationships, because I try not to be an asshole, and there is no good that comes from being gratuitously mean to people. If you find being openly mean to people just because they're fat satisfying, there is something really fucking wrong with you. A favorite video on v/fph was a guy who followed fat people around in public while playing a tuba—that guy was an asshole. The world is cruel and hard as it is;
don't be an asshole. We have too goddamned many of them as it is.
But you can also make it clear to fatties you know well that you have no interest in enabling them or entertaining their excuses, when they try to enlist you in that. They're responsible for everything they put in their own damned mouths, and you're not doing them any favors by pretending that their consoling fictions are anything but that. You can still draw that boundary and hold that line without being an asshole.
