Hey Faith, since you at least skim the boards, A++ great job getting free, getting on meds, therapy, and getting your life together! Looks like you're on pretty solid ground now, very awesome.
I'm not sure about VA laws wrt underage alcohol BUT I do know, for it to be a legal adult supplying the alcohol, he had to be your LEGAL SPOUSE, or parent/guardian. As neither him nor his mother was, make sure you tell the prosecution you want to press more charges on that (and/or have your parents press charges, again, I'm not sure on the VA technicalities ask real lawyers) especially since you can further argue it led to the abuse, and certainly sexual assault. You can also open a case up against May since you have the texts, and honestly, probably some video of the bullshit, should you ever decide to pursue that route, and it might be a good idea. Not asking for deets on here, don't want you to fuck up your own case, but good luck! Stay sober and cool!