ActuallyBPD / ActuallyNPD / ActuallyASPD - People with mental disorders who think expecting them to be nice is ableist

[DatBepisTho]

"EatTV" is like the least distressing intrusive thought ever.

I imagine people who actually have them would rather experience random, but benign, nonsense. As opposed to standing on the southern rim of the Grand Canyon with their loved one and suddenly thinking about pushing them, or eating maltomeal one sunny morning and being bombarded with mental images of your loved ones flyblown and decaying.

But yes intrusive thoughts are just so "q u i r k y~" lol

 

[WW 635]

I completely agree with you there. I still have serious doubts as to whether or not as of these girls suffer from any mental illness other than being manipulative thots.

Retarded attention seeking thot is a far more serious disorder than NPD, ASPD, or BPD. If these whiny thots have anything it's histrionic personality disorder which literally means whiny attention seeking thot

 

[Meowthkip]

But yes intrusive thoughts are just so "q u i r k y~" lol

I always think of this when people start talking about intrusive thoughts.

 

[boat_rocker]

Man, sorry to necro this thread a little without bringing any good content, I didn't know this part of tumblr existed, but I'm not surprised. I'm kinda relieved to have found this thread though too and I hope it opens someone else's eyes if someone else behaves like this in their lives. As others have said in this thread before, if anyone, ANYONE, in your life claims to have BPD (or any mental illness really) and is toxic as fuck because of 'muh mental illness' just run. Run.

You can have a mental illness and not be an asshole. It's completely possible.

 

[WW 635]

You can have a mental illness and not be an asshole. It's completely possible.

Not with Cluster B personality though

 

[Bunny at Law]

Not with Cluster B personality though

Borderliners who commit to treatment have a surprisingly high success rate, but they're likely a small subset of the BPD population

 

[whitepumpkin]

Borderliners who commit to treatment have a surprisingly high success rate, but they're likely a small subset of the BPD population

Well the thing is with BPD, you're gonna be in therapy for a long time, either in group or one-on-one, and you need to be open to it. Sure, you'll have bad days, but you gotta stick to what you're taught so you don't fall into the common thought traps and recognize you're going off the deep end. Most of the BPD's I've met never knew they even had it until they were hospitalized, and that's when they realized they need to make amends. You know, like a human being should. It's a long process and it's really fucking difficult, but it's by no means a reason to treat others badly, and psychiatrists/doctors usually teach that.

That being said, "Actually BPD'ers" on tumblr tend to shun the notion of therapy, refuse to believe they have distorted thinking (or have any normal thinking at all), and say they cry a lot or are assholes for a reason. It's why I highly doubt a lot of these kids are, or they are BPD and probably need to wise the fuck up and realize what they're doing isn't cute or trendy and there's a reason people go 'Oh Lord, one of those' when you walk around promoting how 'Mentally Ill uwu' you are.

Also, putting on a public profile your flavours of mental illness make you look like a fucking hypochondriac. Its why its so easy to make fun of them.

 

[Bunny at Law]

Well the thing is with BPD, you're gonna be in therapy for a long time, either in group or one-on-one, and you need to be open to it. Sure, you'll have bad days, but you gotta stick to what you're taught so you don't fall into the common thought traps and recognize you're going off the deep end. Most of the BPD's I've met never knew they even had it until they were hospitalized, and that's when they realized they need to make amends. You know, like a human being should. It's a long process and it's really fucking difficult, but it's by no means a reason to treat others badly, and psychiatrists/doctors usually teach that.

That being said, "Actually BPD'ers" on tumblr tend to shun the notion of therapy, refuse to believe they have distorted thinking (or have any normal thinking at all), and say they cry a lot or are assholes for a reason. It's why I highly doubt a lot of these kids are, or they are BPD and probably need to wise the fuck up and realize what they're doing isn't cute or trendy and there's a reason people go 'Oh Lord, one of those' when you walk around promoting how 'Mentally Ill uwu' you are.

Also, putting on a public profile your flavours of mental illness make you look like a fucking hypochondriac. Its why its so easy to make fun of them.

Oh 1000% agree! BPDers on tumblr display pretty much every warning sign for 'never gonna get better.' They self diagnose and pathologize normal feelings to the point where they might end up giving themself a mental illness, but it's worth it for those sweet, sweet oppression points.

 

[drowssap]

Something kinda fucked about tumblr imo (but only a little relevant to this thread) is that the tag "bipolar" is blocked like this but actuallybipolar is not blocked and has many posts. tried to post image but it didnt show up when i posted so here is a link.

god forbid someone want to post about bipolar disorder without having it, or just without wanting to wear their diagnosis on their sleeve like some attentionwhore whose aboutme page is listings from the diagnostic and statistical manual.

 

[cuddle striker]

the best thing about cluster b is how easy it is to get them to swarm. especially on Twitter/tumblr/igram. look for any post by someone that was victimized or swindled by these people and there'll be a crowd of them commenting all kinds of crazy shit.

 

[taitoukous]

Something kinda fucked about tumblr imo (but only a little relevant to this thread) is that the tag "bipolar" is blocked like this but actuallybipolar is not blocked and has many posts. tried to post image but it didnt show up when i posted so here is a link.

god forbid someone want to post about bipolar disorder without having it, or just without wanting to wear their diagnosis on their sleeve like some attentionwhore whose aboutme page is listings from the diagnostic and statistical manual.

Looks like it's not completely blocked, just that there are some mental health resource links that come up before people can get to the actual tag. In your screenshot there's a button on the bottom for people to continue on into the tag. You're right that "actually etc" communities should probably provoke the same response, though.

 

[ResidentHousepet]

Imagine actively indulging your mental illness. BPD is literally the 'don't have a gf/bf' disease and the irony is we all know it but fuck me is it any wonder that everyone assumes we are sociopaths when you have people literally being hugbox sociopaths.

 

[Daughter of Cernunnos]

BPD is literally the 'don't have a gf/bf' disease

What do you mean by this statement? Are you saying it's a disorder where the best thing they can do is not have a partner or that they can't form attachments normally and do hookups instead?

 

[ResidentHousepet]

What do you mean by this statement? Are you saying it's a disorder where the best thing they can do is not have a partner or that they can't form attachments normally and do hookups instead?

If the condition is present or not in remission then ideally it's better for borderline individuals to avoid the axis of their issues - fear of abandonment. Hookups can be a dangerous game emotionally for patients however many show repeated promiscuous behavior. If you are dating someone with borderline personality disorder it's more than likely got high potential to become an abusive one.

Spoiler: Here's what the NHS page for BPD says about their difficulties in maintaining relationship.

If you have BPD, you may feel that other people abandon you when you most need them, or that they get too close and smother you.
When people fear abandonment, it can lead to feelings of intense anxietyand anger. You may make frantic efforts to prevent being left alone, such as:

• constantly texting or phoning a person
• suddenly calling that person in the middle of the night
• physically clinging on to that person and refusing to let go
• making threats to harm or kill yourself if that person ever leaves you

Alternatively, you may feel others are smothering, controlling or crowding you, which also provokes intense fear and anger. You may then respond by acting in ways to make people go away, such as emotionally withdrawing, rejecting them or using verbal abuse.
These 2 patterns may result in an unstable "love-hate" relationship with certain people.
Many people with BPD seem to be stuck with a very rigid "black-white" view of relationships. Either a relationship is perfect and that person is wonderful, or the relationship is doomed and that person is terrible. People with BPD seem unable or unwilling to accept any sort of "grey area" in their personal life and relationships.
For many people with BPD, emotional relationships (including relationships with professional carers) involve "go away/please don't go" states of mind, which is confusing for them and their partners. Sadly, this can often lead to break-ups.

Fortunately, whilst certain folk will go on to praise the intensity of emotions offered by BPD and refuse to change, those that seek treatment often find high levels of success and usually become cognisant of their problematic behaviours that arise due to affective dysregulation and limited distress tolerance. Hope that cleared that up o/

 

[Star Child]

im gonna powerlevel here but like

If the condition is present or not in remission then ideally it's better for borderline individuals to avoid the axis of their issues - fear of abandonment. Hookups can be a dangerous game emotionally for patients however many show repeated promiscuous behavior. If you are dating someone with borderline personality disorder it's more than likely got high potential to become an abusive one.

Spoiler: Here's what the NHS page for BPD says about their difficulties in maintaining relationship.

If you have BPD, you may feel that other people abandon you when you most need them, or that they get too close and smother you.
When people fear abandonment, it can lead to feelings of intense anxietyand anger. You may make frantic efforts to prevent being left alone, such as:

• constantly texting or phoning a person
• suddenly calling that person in the middle of the night
• physically clinging on to that person and refusing to let go
• making threats to harm or kill yourself if that person ever leaves you

Alternatively, you may feel others are smothering, controlling or crowding you, which also provokes intense fear and anger. You may then respond by acting in ways to make people go away, such as emotionally withdrawing, rejecting them or using verbal abuse.
These 2 patterns may result in an unstable "love-hate" relationship with certain people.
Many people with BPD seem to be stuck with a very rigid "black-white" view of relationships. Either a relationship is perfect and that person is wonderful, or the relationship is doomed and that person is terrible. People with BPD seem unable or unwilling to accept any sort of "grey area" in their personal life and relationships.
For many people with BPD, emotional relationships (including relationships with professional carers) involve "go away/please don't go" states of mind, which is confusing for them and their partners. Sadly, this can often lead to break-ups.

Fortunately, whilst certain folk will go on to praise the intensity of emotions offered by BPD and refuse to change, those that seek treatment often find high levels of success and usually become cognisant of their problematic behaviours that arise due to affective dysregulation and limited distress tolerance. Hope that cleared that up o/

Spoiler: powerlevel af

as someone that has BPD, if you date one of us, you just need to keep an eye on how we act and our symptoms. like not everyone with bpd is manipulative/abusive towards those they love, that's mostly just the people who have very untreated BPD or the types of tumblr kids who convince themselves that it's ok to be acting that way because "i have a disorder!!1." us normal folks with BPD sometimes engage in unhealthy behaviours, but i know that as someone suffering from a personality disorder, it's MY job to check myself and how i treat those i'm close to. idk it's just exhausting seeing people on this website constantly hate on us when we're not all like those cringy assholes on tumblr who use their disorder to excuse their abusive behaviour. people with BPD can 100% be rather normal, friendly people that you can have a relationship with, but it all depends on whether or not we check ourselves and keep an eye on our symptoms/how we act.

anyways done my sperging. just wanted to say that bcuz real shit; not everyone with a PD is a horrible evil person