Trainwreck Alex Dacy / Alex Dzimtowicz / Wheelchair Rapunzel - 50% wholesome disability influencer, 50% that cash me outside girl

[TheCakeIsALie]

I don’t know if anybody truly understands motherhood until they’ve had a child, but she seems particularly…detached? Unaware?

She wants to see a cute baby that looks like her, only healthy.

Then what? The 40 minute feedings every hour all day, the crying all night, diaper changes, rocking, soothing, bouncing to sleep? How is she going to handle that? Her boyfriend is going to do it? Her parents? Her $15.00 hour paid caregiver? Then the crawling walking stage where they need to be protected 100% of the time, the two year stage where everything is no...on and on. It’s more work than she imagines and is capable of, and add in any problems a preemie might have. We ought to take a poll to vote on how many days it takes her to cry and say she can’t do it.

I don’t know how much is ignorance and how much is selfishness but I’d say a good dose of both.

Being disabled shouldn’t mean wanting to do everything that an able-bodied woman does. It means living a good life within limitations, without hurting others, and every one of us has to do that. She’s so immature, she’s let the idea that disability is not really disability and she can do everything take over.

I’d love to see her parents reaction and hear what they said when she told them she was pregnant. Unless this family is super wealthy and can afford a full time nanny, they are going to have to take over.

As if Princess McGee is going to actually be up at night to feed the baby. Yeah right. She’s going to make someone else do it.

 

[often puzzled]

She's not showing any of the new parent fear. None of the what if my baby X, what if I can't Y, what if I fail at Z? All of those questions (and more) are typical pre-birth fears for new parents, disabled or not. She's not reading Dr. Spock or What to Expect (though I guess those are of somewhat limited use for her), not nervously scanning parenting blogs, not pumping fellow new parents for information. She's ill-prepared on all levels, and it's got to be willful. She's got her head in the sand.

She's occupied with the medical implications of the birth, and it makes sense that she'd be tied up with that. It's going to be a logistical and physical nightmare. She also seems (to me, at least) awfully cavalier about knowing her kid is in for a long NICU stay. I suppose her mindset is that the NICU will hand over a perfect little doll for her to pose with.

I wonder if her parents are studying the infant care books, scanning the blogs, and all that? There's no way that they don't realize that they'll be raising this baby. If she stays in the relationship with the user-and-loser father, that will give her parents ammo if they decide to go to court and make an adoption legal.

 

[A tree]

She wants to see a cute baby that looks like her, only healthy.

Not even necessarily that. She's made a few posts along the lines of how people shouldn't judge her kid if it comes out disabled too. She's apparently being realistic that she might well plop out a spudlet due to prematurity etc but hasn't considered what that's going to mean in terms of how the fuck they're gonna care for this kid.

Maybe there's a tiny scrap of a fantasy world where Noah and the carers can cope with a perfectly healthy baby but she seems to think that there's a possibility she can birth a child with complex needs like herself and things will be hunky dory.
I'd be worried in that case that it's even going to be too much for her parents as they get older.

 

[glass_houses]

Not even necessarily that. She's made a few posts along the lines of how people shouldn't judge her kid if it comes out disabled too. She's apparently being realistic that she might well plop out a spudlet due to prematurity etc but hasn't considered what that's going to mean in terms of how the fuck they're gonna care for this kid.

Maybe there's a tiny scrap of a fantasy world where Noah and the carers can cope with a perfectly healthy baby but she seems to think that there's a possibility she can birth a child with complex needs like herself and things will be hunky dory.
I'd be worried in that case that it's even going to be too much for her parents as they get older.

What is the mark of a high grade lolcow? What separates them from your average brainless twat posting TMI online?

Narcissism.

They're all raging narcissists.

And they either see children as extensions of their own body and mind, or else as toys.

Alex doesn't expect a human being to come out of her stomach, she expects a pretty doll that will look good in photographs. She's never even looked after herself; it'd be inconceivable to her just how much work it is raising an infant, let alone an infant with special needs. It's literally someone else's problem. It's like your standard animal hoarder letting their cats have litter after litter because kittens are cute, and then completely losing interest once the kittens have grown up and aren't cute little fluff balls they can post on Instagram anymore. Alex feels about her baby exactly the same as Polissa Campbell feels about her cats: they exist purely for narc supply. They're soulless props, not independent living beings.

Alex is having a baby because she can, not because she wants a little baby to love and hold and raise into an independent, successful adult. That child will be taken from her very swiftly and raised by someone else. And I guarantee that if by some miracle it does make it into independent adulthood, Alex will be on its' doorstep crying that it must devote its entire life to taking care of her, because it owes her.

 

[Jimmy Dean Bowl]

With regard to the delivery, I went trawling for journal articles and there is very little out there so it's little wonder she is going to be written up.

Anesthetic management of spinal muscle atrophy type II in a parturient

We report the peripartum management of a 30-year-old wheelchair-bound nullipara woman with spinal muscular atrophy (SMA) type II, including severe restrictive lung disease and Harrington rods. At 38 weeks gestation, she was admitted for an induction of ...

www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov

This article from 2011 may be pretty old now, but it describes a woman with type 2 SMA where they managed to find the epidural space, but the catheter eventually went into a blood vessel so there had to be a crash induction using rocuronium.
Although she was extubated uneventfully after 12 hours, it took a week for her swallow reflex and other muscles to fully recover from neuromuscular blockade.
Anaesthetic drugs can have long term effects on SMA patients.

DEFINE_ME

This article is from 2021 by the British Journal of Anaesthesia, and is about anaesthesia and neurological disorders in general, but there is a section for SMA about halfway down.
If you can't be arsed reading allow me to quote a small section.

"The obstetric outcomes in women with SMA are poor, and almost 80% of patients will experience complications, such as preterm labour and worsening of muscle function, which may persist after pregnancy".

Isn't that fucking terrifying?

 

[Android raptor]

Wasn't her condition typically fatal by early adulthood until fairly recently? Makes sense there's not much medical literature about pregnancy/giving birth with SMA.

At least if she's getting written up by her doctors, maybe it'll help someone in the future with the condition who's less immature/in a relationship with a junkie/etc

I wouldn't be surprised if there are online support groups specifically for parents/expectant moms with disabilities, though from the sounds of it I doubt she's involved in any.

 

[UncleBlazer]

The new carer she got has really shown Noah up with how badly he was taking care of her. She's been looking much better and actually cared for the past little while.

I wouldn't be surprised if there are online support groups specifically for parents/expectant moms with disabilities, though from the sounds of it I doubt she's involved in any.

That's Alex's real problem. She's not like all those other disabled women! She can do whatever she wants! No consequences!
She really believes she's like any other woman her age when she so very clearly isn't. Most women in Alex's position would have discussed and planned extensively with doctors, their partner, family and friends to get an idea what pregnancy, birth and raising the child would even look like. You would surely go looking for other people in similar situations, trying to read as many real life examples as you can. But, not Alex. She'll just get knocked up by a junkie she barely knows and hope for the best!

 

[LonesomeDud]

I really am praying for her poor child to make it to 36 weeks and for God to guide the hand of the OB and slit her tubes in a roomful of people who know how to shut up.

 

[A tree]

I really am praying for her poor child to make it to 36 weeks and for God to guide the hand of the OB and slit her tubes in a roomful of people who know how to shut up.

I sort of wish I hadn't discovered this it's Archie all over again. I can't look away. Hopefully something awful won't happen and they'll both be OK. Lolcow or not nobody wants to see a tragedy.

 

[TheCakeIsALie]

Anesthetic management of spinal muscle atrophy type II in a parturient

We report the peripartum management of a 30-year-old wheelchair-bound nullipara woman with spinal muscular atrophy (SMA) type II, including severe restrictive lung disease and Harrington rods. At 38 weeks gestation, she was admitted for an induction of ...

www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov

This article from 2011 may be pretty old now, but it describes a woman with type 2 SMA where they managed to find the epidural space, but the catheter eventually went into a blood vessel so there had to be a crash induction using rocuronium.
Although she was extubated uneventfully after 12 hours, it took a week for her swallow reflex and other muscles to fully recover from neuromuscular blockade.
Anaesthetic drugs can have long term effects on SMA patients.

DEFINE_ME

This article is from 2021 by the British Journal of Anaesthesia, and is about anaesthesia and neurological disorders in general, but there is a section for SMA about halfway down.
If you can't be arsed reading allow me to quote a small section.

"The obstetric outcomes in women with SMA are poor, and almost 80% of patients will experience complications, such as preterm labour and worsening of muscle function, which may persist after pregnancy".

Isn't that fucking terrifying?

At the risk of sounding callous, Alex deserves what’s coming to her. The baby doesn’t, but Alex does. She never consulted drs about wanting to be pregnant, she never thought about whether or not this was a good idea, she didn’t contemplate the pros and cons or the risks.

If she wanted a biological baby so badly, a surrogate could have been an option. But there’s still fostering, adoption etc and other ways of being a parent that doesn’t involve risking your life.

 

[Jane Eyre]

So I decided to do a deep dive on Alex and see what she was up to before getting pregnant.

> She did Youtube for a while, even together with Noah as a couple's channel.

Spoiler: Thumbnails

> She had a podcast called Big Disabled Energy that was very short-lived. It lasted less than a month, but guess who one of the guests was - The Disabled Hippie aka Julian/Shelby.



> Between 2018 - 2020 Alex was a boss babe running an online clothing store where she designed the pieces herself. Unfortunately the store is offline now but there is an archive of it and it's Instagram is still available. And what do you know Shelby is side by side with Alex on the home page. I've added some screenshots of the archive in the spoiler.

Spoiler: Store screenshots

During this time period Alex also made an appearance on Good Morning America and on BBC Three with the scope of proving that you can be both disabled and sexy. In the BBC video her store also gets a mention at minute 5:37.

> As a bonus here's the Instagram of Alex's mom, Jackie Dzimitowicz.

 

[A tree]

Another positivity post from Alex. She's determined to represent any concern or criticism as people having an issue with what her body looks like.
No bitch, we're primarily concerned that you and little spudulika are going to die and secondarily that youre going to cede responsibility for the child to your mother the moment the going gets tough.

Despite her narcissism The comments kindly inform Alex she ain't so special and lead the reader to several other wholesome and capable disabled mom and abled dad accounts eg this lady who's equally disabled with a trach but obviously not a train wreck:

https://instagram.com/wheel.life.in.the.wheel.world?igshid=YmMyMTA2M2Y=

 

[cuddle striker]

I really am praying for her poor child to make it to 36 weeks and for God to guide the hand of the OB and slit her tubes in a roomful of people who know how to shut up.

fuck no, it should be a miscarriage for any chance of normalcy in this situation

however a live birth to this clown show will be more fun to watch play out. I'll feel bad for the kid though

 

[Jane Eyre]

Alex failed her glucose test



Speaking the truth means you're stigmatizing Alex and I guess holding the baby unassisted goes out the window if she can't even hold a book.



But forget all of this because the episode they filmed for Love Don't Judge is coming out next week

 

[A tree]

Alex failed her glucose test

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Speaking the truth means you're stigmatizing Alex and I guess holding the baby unassisted goes out the window if she can't even hold a book.

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But forget all of this because the episode they filmed for Love Don't Judge is coming out next week

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Love don't judge. That says it all for the modern age doesn't it? Do not use your judgment. Do not apply discretion. These things are now considered bigoted and bad. The important thing is that these two people get what they want and the inevitable fallout this is going to cause medically and onto the lives of others is irrelevant. Don't you dare use your critical thinking faculties to judge whether this situation is a net positive for humanity. Alex is getting what she wants.

 

[A tree]

Ironic post of the day. Apologies for double. Time to edit expired. How do you think they feel in the fucking NICU or when their mother is physically unable to hold them Alex? How you gonna attachment parent when your kid is guaranteed a NICU stay

 

[sorrycharlie]

So she’ll not only be forcing other people to raise a baby that isn’t theirs, she’s planning to make them do it AP-style. This fucking bitch.

 

[LonesomeDud]

So she’ll not only be forcing other people to raise a baby that isn’t theirs, she’s planning to make them do it AP-style. This fucking bitch.

You don't think teaching a child to treat her mom as a magical fetish for being calm and centered is an effective use of time or energy? Hateful!

 

[empty packet of crisps]

I'm not even bothered that she's disabled (now that we know the probability of her passing the disease on is minimal) it's how immature she is.
I can't think of a greater tragedy than to never be able to physically hold your own child but she is just waiving those moments away to caretakers. She hasn't actually thought about what being a mother is past giving birth.

Agree. It's not about her physical disability, physically disabled people can be very good parents.

It's that both her and her baby daddy are really awful people and also proper dumb.

If this moron fixes her nails instead of her goddamn grey tooth, I don't think she'll take very good care of the baby. I don't think she actually cares about being a mother. She just wants to prove to people she can go through pregnancy and labour.

 

[Jimmy Dean Bowl]

Alex says "...assuming a diet change?" about what she expects her Doctor to say re the failure of the GTT. It seems likely that she hasn't been giving two figs about what she's been putting in her body. This is consistent with what we already know about her from this thread.

She doesn't give a shit, as long as she can show off her pregnant bump for Instagram!
Look at how  sexy disabled pregnant people are! That is all she cares about, her photo opportunities. Look at her changing hearts and minds with how sexy she is!
Is anyone else as uncomfortable as me as to how hypersexualised this beesh is? It's really giving me shudders.
Maybe getting a few photos with the spawn for Insta once she's born but that's it. That's as far as her tiny selfish mind has gone in the thought process.