Trainwreck Alex Dacy / Alex Dzimtowicz / Wheelchair Rapunzel - 50% wholesome disability influencer, 50% that cash me outside girl

[Pudgy Bear Claws]

Ari could very well be living permanently with the Smiths but for whatever reason, is having a visit with her other grandma. I wouldn't read too much into anything Reddit speculates.

It would be stranger if the Smiths refused to let Alex's mom ever see Ari and if Ari permanently moved to Illinois while Alex lives in Florida.

 

[The Judean People's Front]

If that IS an actual ad that Alex put out there then she's just a lying sack of shit.

"Very independent" and "I do most things myself" my ass.

 

[LonesomeDud]

What does she do outside of 8-5? Lie on a puppy pad with her phone beside her and wait for the caretaker to come back?

 

[Trombonista]

What does she do outside of 8-5? Lie on a puppy pad with her phone beside her and wait for the caretaker to come back?

Obviously she drinks.

 

[Imp]

Maybe she uses one of those hydration backpacks and has her minder fill it with vodka/rum/tequila/drink of choice so she can simply turn her head and suck. Some of those have a 2L capacity or more, enough to keep her happy all night long.

 

[bliblblblbbllb]

Can Alex even transfer from a bed into her chair by herself...? She doesn't seem to have much meaningful core strength. Does she sleep in her chair? I wouldn't put it past her.

Caregiver from 8-5 really is kinda baffling.

 

[LonesomeDud]

Obviously she drinks.

Again, how? Most people mix drinks with their hands. Is she just chilling in her chair with one of those novelty straw hats with a couple Big Gulps filled with jungle punch? If so, this woman deserves some kind of Hellen Keller boss girl award, not scorn. That sounds pretty rad.

 

[often puzzled]

Obviously she drinks.

Again, how? Most people mix drinks with their hands. Is she just chilling in her chair with one of those novelty straw hats with a couple Big Gulps filled with jungle punch? If so, this woman deserves some kind of Hellen Keller boss girl award, not scorn. That sounds pretty rad.

Believe it or not, she's demonstrated how she does exactly this. Her caregiver-- whoever it may be at the time-- will prepare multiple drinks with straws and leave them where Alex can get to them. Alex has talked about this as one of her personal disability hacks.

As for lying in bed, with or without puppy pad: that's apparently more or less what she does. Hannah-- the caregiver who went public-- discussed it. Alex just lies there, with no assistance, unable to do anything. I believe Hannah insinuated that she does soil herself, so puppy pads might not be a bad idea.

Everything I'm about to post is old stuff. Alex went quiet for a long time, probably because she didn't want to talk about Ari's whereabouts.

Spoiler: Salina

Very professional caregiver Salina posted a TikTok with Alex-- they were having a "pool day." Salina's TikTok with Alex has since been removed.



The above screenshot is mine, and the below screenshot is from Reddit. That's the only view you get of Alex in this "besties" TikTok-- off sitting by herself up at the top of the frame.



Salina's socials:

Spoiler: misc

She's got a WalMart partnership-- I think Anna O'Brien has or had this same one?



Morning routine as a disabled person TikTok:

Besties going out/party time TikTok with Salina:

 

[SpiceyHuman]

What happens if she drops her phone snd the caretaker isnt around lol

Her grip strength must be non-existent by now. I can see her dropping things frequently

 

[one_time_user]

So, if there's a fire in the 16 hours a day she's lying around without assistance, she's dead right? or, if she chokes or falls out of her chair etc? no wonder she drinks, that must be terrifying.

 

[Breadbear]

So, if there's a fire in the 16 hours a day she's lying around without assistance, she's dead right? or, if she chokes or falls out of her chair etc? no wonder she drinks, that must be terrifying.

If she doesn't have a Life Alert button she's 100% fucked. If she does, about 95% fucked. If she chokes and no one's around, game over. Fire? Terrible way to die. Gets too drunk, falls out of her chair? Well, if she doesn't crack her head open, someone will find her in the morning. Eventually. Best case scenario is that she slips out of her chair and spends 16 hours on the floor before someone finds her. Worst case - there are fates worse than death.

There are people who should never be alone, and Alex is one of them.

 

[BunchofMunch]

As for lying in bed, with or without puppy pad: that's apparently more or less what she does. Hannah-- the caregiver who went public-- discussed it. Alex just lies there, with no assistance, unable to do anything. I believe Hannah insinuated that she does soil herself, so puppy pads might not be a bad idea.

OK, so this mental image just gave me a very sudden, sharp feeling of sadness and empathy for Alex. No wonder she wants to keep this influencer fantasy no matter what; if she's lying there alone, helpless and undignified that many hours of the day, every day. The contrast to those last videos where she's getting ready with "bestie" for a fun, glamorous night out just makes her situation seem so goddamn bleak.

 

[blue gopher snakes]

Obviously Ari exists as part of Alex’s ongoing struggle to accept her limitations and shortened lifespan. She desperately wants to be normal and to make her disability out to be like it’s totally fine. She wants to do what other people do: fall in love, get married, have a baby, make a life. Everything else is a cope.

I don’t know how I would cope with Alex’s existence tbh. It’s very sad. She’ll never be normal, she’ll never be active, she’ll never experience life the way 99% of other humans do, and she’ll die long before she otherwise would have. Can you really blame her for just not giving a fuck and trying to drink herself into a death she chooses instead of the one looming ever closer day by day?

She tried to manifest a happy ending with Noah except the only men who would willingly touch her are BPD drug addicts, so that failed. She can’t care for Ari beyond button-mashing “Add to Cart” on hoe-phase toddler outfits. Ari will be raised by someone else. I don’t think it makes much difference at all whether that raising starts now or in a year, aside from the benefits Ari will reap from being away from her dying, drunken mother.

Now that Ari is out of the picture, I say someone should fashion Alex a Big Gulp sippy hat ala @LonesomeDud ’s suggestion and just let Alex send herself to the Big Margaritaville in the Sky.

 

[Randomrando]

Imagine being not only profoundly disabled but also somehow so unlikeable there is no one in your life would volunteer to spend the night with you.

Fun little journal prompt; imagine you became profoundly disabled tomorrow, would anyone care enough to prevent from from spending 16 hours alone and pissing on yourself? Have you maintained friendships to the level where they'd wipe your ass for you? Would you have the humility to admit you have the abilities of a newborn and plan accordingly for your own safety?

I wonder if she lies awake at night reflecting on how she got to this point. It blows my mind she hasn't managed to keep one relationship to the point where a friend would either stay the night or invite her over so at bare minimum she wouldn't be alone.

 

[Free the Pedos]

Can you really blame her for just not giving a fuck and trying to drink herself into a death she chooses instead of the one looming ever closer day by day?

I suppose the question that interests me is, “why doesn’t she take the obvious steps to prolong her life and maintain her quality of life”? Maybe life even at her healthiest was too painful for her. I suppose it doesn’t matter now.

 

[LonesomeDud]

Obviously Ari exists as part of Alex’s ongoing struggle to accept her limitations and shortened lifespan. She desperately wants to be normal and to make her disability out to be like it’s totally fine. She wants to do what other people do: fall in love, get married, have a baby, make a life. Everything else is a cope.

I don’t know how I would cope with Alex’s existence tbh. It’s very sad. She’ll never be normal, she’ll never be active, she’ll never experience life the way 99% of other humans do, and she’ll die long before she otherwise would have. Can you really blame her for just not giving a fuck and trying to drink herself into a death she chooses instead of the one looming ever closer day by day?

She tried to manifest a happy ending with Noah except the only men who would willingly touch her are BPD drug addicts, so that failed. She can’t care for Ari beyond button-mashing “Add to Cart” on hoe-phase toddler outfits. Ari will be raised by someone else. I don’t think it makes much difference at all whether that raising starts now or in a year, aside from the benefits Ari will reap from being away from her dying, drunken mother.

Now that Ari is out of the picture, I say someone should fashion Alex a Big Gulp sippy hat ala @LonesomeDud ’s suggestion and just let Alex send herself to the Big Margaritaville in the Sky.

The thing is, Alex has a heart and mind. Maybe not great ones, but they're hers, and she only gets this one life to live. She could be working and making content to create a purpose-driven life for Ari. If that means throwing her goblin body on birthday cakes for OnlyFans, if it supports her daughter, I am - perhaps surprisingly for some - in the hER bOdY hEr ChOiCe camp. Alex needs to quickly figure out what being a profoundly disabled mom means for her and how to do the best job at that, because it isn't too late to make a positive impact. It isn't too late to make her place in Ari's life a meaningful, long lasting one, but she does need to hurry up and stop screwing around. The alcohol takes that from her. She needs to dry out so she can see things clearly and make the most of her time before the clock runs out. No jokes. No BS. That's it.

 

[Oracular Slug]

Question: is she on opioids? My spine barely curves and I occasionally need an advil, she must be in constant pain with her body collapsing in on itself like that. So she's either on opioids and drunk, or somehow not on adequate pain medication and drinking instead, pain management via booze if you will.

 

[prolific_mango]

Question: is she on opioids? My spine barely curves and I occasionally need an advil, she must be in constant pain with her body collapsing in on itself like that. So she's either on opioids and drunk, or somehow not on adequate pain medication and drinking instead, pain management via booze if you will.

Probably not prescribed ones if she is, she seems to avoid any doctors appointments possible and typically I think that would require a monthly refill appointment and a lot more (urine screens, pull counts etc) if she was seeing an actual pain management doctor. I think she’s just very much in the mentality that she’s going to die young anyway so she may as well do whatever the fuck she wants. Like the tanning, people are always saying how bad it is for her and like—does she care? Will she even live long enough to get skin cancer?

 

[Stroppy Trollop]

I think Ari is only on a visit with Alex's mom (Jackie?). I think the Smiths are very invested in Ari's well-being and even if their BPD fuck-up son is a total fail, they have deep pockets. Like... I think if it comes down to it, in the case of The Smiths vs Alex and Her Parents, The Smiths would wipe the floor with them.
Speaking of Alex's parents: I cannot imagine letting my profoundly disabled daughter just fuck-off and fend for herself the way they have. I know that Alex is an independent adult (LOL) and can't be told what to do but she just needs sooo much round the clock help. Especially after Ari was born; even normal abled women need support, comfort, reassurance and lots of help after they have their first baby. And where the fuck was Alex's mom? Assuming she was too drunk to help out? Damn, the whole thing is such a mess.

 

[GainsGoblin]

She also did not say she needs a caregiver on Mondays or Saturdays….sounds to me like Salina’s schedule changed and she’s now only covering evenings, Mondays, and Saturdays, and Alex is looking for daytime coverage all other days. It would be wild if she was actually alone and without a caregiver outside of the times she listed.