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- Sep 28, 2019
I'm not fussed. Some people like to look at things in black and white when they're not, and you seem to be one of them. I just think your complete dismissal of developmental psychology because of Big Al of all things, is lulzy as hell.
I don't think anyone is dismissing her shitty childhood or ignoring developmental psych. What @GargoyleGorl is saying is that Big Al has options other than dredging up that bullshit in order to remold herself, but doesn't. Does a bad childhood affect her? Of course. It would anyone. I imagine some of us on the Farms have had less than stellar childhoods. But it doesn't mean you have to wallow in it forever - and it doesn't mean people won't call you out if you do. Her problem is that she is not proactive about doing anything except relying on handy excuses (muh childhood, muh meantlz, muh ED, muh pain, muh weight, whatever). Every single one of these things is something she could do something - anything - about. She chooses not to, while at the same time perpetuating the pity party by surrounding herself with people who enable her toddler-like shitty behavior. At some point in your adult life (and sooner, for most people) you get over that shit and act like a functional adult in society.