For the OGs here, how long does it take for the last minute flame of optimism to flicker and finally die out?
i've never posted on here, but ive been reading this thread from the beginning and watching AL for a very, very long time. your question really motivated me to finally write something, to be honest. im sorry for :powerlevel: in the second passage in advance, i just feel it's needed to give some context. again, i apologize.
i found her while looking for motivation during my own weight loss, and after a few months, after losing the weight, i tried to motivate her for awhile. as a thank you, i guess. im not a native english speaker, so im not really that big into commenting, but i always liked her vids and just wished her the best, i related to her, as at some point we both were overweight gay girls, and living in a homophobic country i needed someone like her - down to earth, nice and strong, as i thought.
and then everything started to change - or, should i say, i started to see the way she really is - loud, obnoxious, melodramatic and shallow, lying and just all-round fake. it still shocks me, to this day, how she can be like that - not a human being but a prop, a poor copy of characters from shitty YA books she reads.
i was optimistic though, as you've said. i hoped she will wake up and find herself at some point, and while i was disgusted with her, the comment section was hard to read for quite some time. up until a few months ago. in my opinion she's at the bottom and will never change, because she doesn't really want to. with this whole new failed weight loss journey i finally understood that she will never turn things around.
to change you need to be a person. someone who lives, you know? who dreams of something, who enjoys something. what is AL at her core? her books are covered in dust, together with journals. she doesnt look after her animals and ignores her family, and her biggest dream is fucking bora-bora. she enjoys ideas - simplistic representations of lives, hobbies, relationships. but all that stuff - even if we're supposed to have fun doing it - requires hard work. it takes time to open a book, read it and analyze it - that's too much for AL. that's effort she will never be willing to put in.
so now my optimism is dead, to be honest. i look at this ghost of a human and see nothing, absolutely nothing. she is an annoying, loud woman, but that can't hide how much of a nothing she is.
hope dies out with her. i lasted a few years