Culture AP: Transgender adults are worried about finding welcoming spaces to live in their later years

Transgender adults are worried about finding welcoming spaces to live in their later years
Associated Press (archive.ph)
By Andrew Demillo, Lynne Sladky, and Laura Bargfeld
2023-08-24 12:02:02GMT

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Andrea Montanez sits in her office in the Hope Community Center, Thursday, June 22, 2023, in Apopka, Fla. Florida's law has already created obstacles for Montanez, an LGBTQ+ immigration organizer. Montanez, 57, said her prescription for hormone therapy was initially denied after the restrictions were signed. (AP Photo/John Raoux)

FORT LAUDERDALE, Fla. (AP) — Rajee Narinesingh faced struggles throughout her life as a transgender woman, from workplace discrimination to the lasting effects of black market injections that scarred her face and caused chronic infections.

In spite of the roadblocks, the 56-year-old Florida actress and activist has seen growing acceptance since she first came out decades ago.

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Rajee Narinesingh speaks about her life during an interview at her home, Thursday, June 29, 2023, in Fort Lauderdale, Fla. Narinesingh, 56, faced struggles throughout her life as a transgender woman, from trying to get government documents like passports to the lasting effects of black market silicone injections that scarred her face. (AP Photo/Lynne Sladky)

“If you see older transgender people, it shows the younger community that it’s possible I can have a life. I can live to an older age,” she said. “So I think that’s a very important thing.”

Now, as a wave of new state laws enacted this year limit transgender people’s rights, Narinesingh has new uncertainty about her own future as she ages.

“Every now and then I have like this thought, like, oh my God, if I end up in a nursing home, how are they going to treat me?” Narinesingh said.

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Rajee Narinesingh, a transgender woman, holds a photograph of herself as a child, Thursday, June 29, 2023, in Fort Lauderdale, Fla. In spite of several roadblocks, the 56-year-old Florida actress and activist has seen growing acceptance since she first came out decades ago. (AP Photo/Lynne Sladky)

Most of the new state laws have focused attention on trans youth, with at least 22 states banning or restricting gender-affirming care for minors.

For many transgender seniors, it’s brought new fears to their plans for retirement and old age. They already face gaps in health care and nursing home facilities properly trained to meet their needs. That’s likely to be compounded by restrictions to transgender health care that have already blocked some adults’ access to treatments in Florida, and sparked concerns the laws will expand to other states.

Transgender adults say they’re worried about finding welcoming spaces to live in their later years.

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Morgan Mayfaire, a transgender man, right, walks with his wife, Ashley, Sunday, July 23, 2023, at Fairchild Tropical Garden in Miami. Mayfaire, 64, is the executive director of TransSOCIAL, a Florida support and advocacy group. (AP Photo/Lynne Sladky)

“I have friends that have retired and they’ve decided to move to retirement communities. And then, little by little, they’ve found that they’re not welcome there,” said Morgan Mayfaire, a transgender man and the executive director of TransSOCIAL, a Florida support and advocacy group.

Discrimination can range from being denied housing to being misgendered and struggling to get nursing homes to acknowledge their visitation rights.

“In order to be welcome there, they have to go into the closet and deny who they are,” Mayfaire said.

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Morgan Mayfaire, a transgender man, right, holds hands with his wife, Ashley, Sunday, July 23, 2023, at Fairchild Tropical Garden in Miami. Mayfaire, 64, the executive director of TransSOCIAL, a Florida support and advocacy group, says “The community’s going to take care of itself. It’s as simple as that. We’re going to find ways to take care of ourselves and we’re going to survive this. ... And as far as trans youth panicking over this, look to your elders.”. (AP Photo/Lynne Sladky)

About 171,000 of the more than 1.3 million transgender adults in the United States are aged 65 and older, according to numbers compiled by the Williams Institute at the UCLA School of Law.

The growing population has brought more services such as nursing homes and assisted living centers that are geared toward serving the LGBTQ+ community, though such facilities remain uncommon. They include Stonewall Gardens, a 24-apartment assisted living center that opened in Palm Springs, California in 2015.

The center’s staff are required to go through sensitivity training to help make the center a more welcoming environment for residents, interim executive director Lauren Kabakoff Vincent said. The training is key for making a more accepting environment for transgender residents and making them feel more at home.

“Do you really want to be moving into a place where you have to explain yourself and have to go through it over and over?” Vincent said. “It’s exhausting, and so I think being able to be in a comfortable environment is important.”

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Stonewall Gardens employee Brian Trout, second from left, leads a game of Bingo with residents of the LGBTQ+ assisted living facility, Tuesday, Aug. 15, 2023, in Palm Springs, Calif. (AP Photo/Marcio Jose Sanchez)
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Resident Alex Smariga walks past a pride flag while returning from a physical therapy session at Stonewall Gardens, a LGBTQ+ assisted living facility, Tuesday, Aug. 15, 2023, in Palm Springs, Calif. The number of services such as nursing homes and assisted living centers that are geared toward serving the LGBTQ+ community is increasing, though such facilities remain uncommon. (AP Photo/Marcio Jose Sanchez)
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Resident Billy Church, in wheelchair, is helped into a van headed for a group lunch at Stonewall Gardens, a LGBTQ+ assisted living facility, Tuesday, Aug. 15, 2023, in Palm Springs, Calif. About 171,000 of the more than 1.3 million transgender adults in the United States are aged 65 and older, according to numbers compiled by the Williams Institute at the UCLA School of Law. (AP Photo/Marcio Jose Sanchez)

SAGE, which advocates on behalf of LGBTQ+ seniors, offers training to nursing homes and other elder care providers. The group trained more than 46,000 staff at 576 organizations around the country in the most recent fiscal year. But the group acknowledges that represents just a fraction of the elder care facilities around the country.

“We have a long way to go in terms of getting to the point where nursing homes, assisted living and other long-term care providers are prepared for and ready to provide appropriate and welcoming care to trans elders,” said Michael Adams, SAGE’s CEO.

The gap concerns Tiffany Arieagus, 71, an acclaimed drag performer in south Florida who also works in social services for SunServe, an LGBTQ+ nonprofit.

“I just am going on my 71 years on this earth and walking in the civil rights march with my mother at age six and then marching for gay rights,” Arieagus said. “I’ve been blessed enough to see so many changes being made in the world. And then now I’m having to see these wonderful progressions going backwards.”

A handful of states, including Massachusetts and California, have in recent years enacted laws to ensure that LGBTQ+ seniors have equal access to programs for aging populations and requiring training on how to serve that community.

But the push for restrictions on access to health care has brought uncertainty in other states. Florida’s ban on gender-affirming care for minors also includes restrictions that make it difficult, if not impossible, for many adults to get treatment.

SAGE has seen a spike in the number of calls to its hotline following the wave of anti-transgender laws, and Adams said about 40% of them have come from trans seniors primarily in conservative parts of the country worried about the new restrictions.

The limits have prompted some trans adults to leave the state for care, with some turning to crowdfunding appeals for help. But for many trans seniors, such a move isn’t as easy.

“You have the general fear, fear that is leading clinicians being concerned and perhaps stepping away from offering care, fear of trans elders of who is a safe clinician to go to,” Dan Stewart, associate director of the Human Rights Campaign’s Aging Equality Project, said.

Florida’s law has already created obstacles for Andrea Montanez, LGBTQ immigration organizer at Hope CommUnity Center near Orlando. Montanez, 57, said her prescription for hormone therapy was initially denied after the restrictions were signed.

Montanez, who has been speaking out at Florida Medical Board meetings about the impact of the new state law, said she’s worried about what it will be mean as she approaches retirement.

“I hope I have a happy retirement, but health care is a big problem,” Montanez, who was eventually able to get her prescription filled, said.

For Tatiana Williams, 51, the restrictions are stirring painful memories of a time when she and other members of the transgender community had to rely on dangerous and illegal sources for gender-affirming medical care. Now the the executive director of the Transinclusive Group in Wilton Manors, Florida, Williams remembers being hospitalized for a collapsed lung after receiving black market silicone injections for her breasts.

“What we don’t want is the community resorting to going back to that,” Williams said.

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Tatiana Williams, 51, executive director of the Transinculsive Group, sits for a portrait in her office, Thursday, June 1, 2023, in Wilton Manors, Fla. Williams, 51, has painful memories of a time when she and other members of the transgender community had to rely on dangerous and illegal sources for gender-affirming medical care. “What we don't want is the community resorting to going back to that,” Williams says. (AP Photo/Lynne Sladky)

Still, older transgender adults say they see hope in how their generation is working with younger trans people to speak out against the wave of the restrictions.

“The community’s going to take care of itself. It’s as simple as that. We’re going to find ways to take care of ourselves and we’re going to survive this,” Mayfaire said. “And as far as trans youth panicking over this, look to your elders.”


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A placard supporting transgender rights is shown at the Stonewall Pride Parade and Street Festival, Saturday, June 17, 2023, in Wilton Manors, Fla. (AP Photo/Lynne Sladky)
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Tiffany Arieagus, a transgender woman, second from left, rides on a float during the Stonewall Pride Parade and Street Festival, Saturday, June 17, 2023, in Wilton Manors, Fla. Arieagus, 71, is an acclaimed drag performer in south Florida also works in social services for SunServe, an LGBTQ+ nonprofit. (AP Photo/Lynne Sladky)
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Andrea Montanez sits in her office in the Hope Community Center, Thursday, June 22, 2023, in Apopka, Fla. Florida's law has already created obstacles for Montanez, an LGBTQ+ immigration organizer. Montanez, 57, said her prescription for hormone therapy was initially denied after the restrictions were signed. “I hope I have a happy retirement, but health care is a big problem," Montanez says. (AP Photo/John Raoux)
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Morgan Mayfaire, a transgender man, second from left, hosts a community gathering for a food distribution event at TransSOCIAL, Thursday, July 27, 2023, in Miami. “I have friends that have retired and they’ve decided to move to retirement communities. And then, little by little, they’ve found that they’re not welcome there,” says Mayfaire. (AP Photo/Lynne Sladky)
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Stonewall Gardens employee Brian Trout, second from left, leads a game of Bingo with residents of the LGBTQ+ assisted living facility, Tuesday, Aug. 15, 2023, in Palm Springs, Calif. (AP Photo/Marcio Jose Sanchez)
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John Schmidt, center, joins fellow residents in a game of Bingo at Stonewall Gardens, a LGBTQ+ assisted living facility, Tuesday, Aug. 15, 2023, in Palm Springs, Calif. The number of services such as nursing homes and assisted living centers that are geared toward serving the LGBTQ+ community is increasing, though such facilities remain uncommon. (AP Photo/Marcio Jose Sanchez)
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Robert Lopez, right, a driver for Stonewall Gardens, opens a door for resident Alex Smariga at the LGBTQ+ assisted living facility, Tuesday, Aug. 15, 2023, in Palm Springs, Calif. About 171,000 of the more than 1.3 million transgender adults in the United States are aged 65 and older, according to numbers compiled by the Williams Institute at the UCLA School of Law. (AP Photo/Marcio Jose Sanchez)
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Rajee Narinesingh, a transgender woman, looks out from a doorway of her home, Thursday, June 29, 2023, in Fort Lauderdale, Fla. “If you see older transgender people, it shows the younger community that it’s possible I can have a life. I can live to an older age,” she says. “So I think that’s a very important thing.” (AP Photo/Lynne Sladky)
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Rajee Narinesingh, a transgender woman, wipes away a tear as she speaks about her life during an interview at her home, Thursday, June 29, 2023, in Fort Lauderdale, Fla. “Every now and then I have like this thought, like, oh my God, if I end up in a nursing home, how are they going to treat me?” Narinesingh says. (AP Photo/Lynne Sladky)
 
I look forward to the troon old folks home full of senility. When they get violent because "they stole my dick! What have they done to me?" while in a fit of dementia. Should be pretty entertaining.
Dementia is associated with some very disinhibited behaviour as well. It’s not uncommon for dementia patients to be extremely inappropriate sexually.
An old folks home full of troons sounds like a nightmare, imagine needing to do personal care on an amhole
 
Florida’s law has already created obstacles for Andrea Montanez, LGBTQ immigration organizer at Hope CommUnity Center near Orlando. Montanez, 57, said her prescription for hormone therapy was initially denied after the restrictions were signed.
“I hope I have a happy retirement, but health care is a big problem,” Montanez, who was eventually able to get her prescription filled, said.
Soooooo, it wasn't actually denied and they still get their titty skittles?

Funny how they break up that progression just enough to let the first point stick maybe without noticing the followup.
Williams remembers being hospitalized for a collapsed lung after receiving black market silicone injections for her breasts.
uh...okay that doesn't SOUND like HRT to me, what part of getting fix-a-flat injected to make nodulous hellworld moobs is "lifesaving" again?
“And as far as trans youth panicking over this, look to your elders.”
uhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh

Every pic in the article related :story:
 
Amount of fucks given = zero. Keep in mind that many troons cannot or don't have children, meaning that source of support in old age is missing. Can just see some utterly disgusted immigrant taking care of such critters in a nursing home - NOT. "No, not going to touch such abominations in the eyes of God!"
 
wow It turns out that you shouldn't burn every bridge in your real family to chase a "rainbow family" of random fetishists you just met. Who could have guessed it was all a cult lie? Not everybody over 40, that's for sure.
wow

*Shroom King finally gets off his ass to visit Uncle Stan at the old folks' home*

Shroom King: Hey Uncle Stan, how's it going? How about them Packers, eh?
Stan: It's AUNT STACEY YOU FUKCING NAZI.
Shroom King: Look, I got to go clean my neighbor's septic tank. See you next decade, douchebag,
 
Two words:
Portland. Oregon.
Good idea. We should wall off portland and turn it into a city sized jail/nursing home for all the troons, antifa and general crazies like arkham city. Expand it into california eventually

When you think about it troons won't be much different from the average dementia patient. Just with rainbow hair and look more horrifying. They'll wander around the hallways ranting about conservatives, trump and bigotry, yell at anyone who they think is a trump supporter or right winger and try to get their jello and pot roast dinner cancelled, until the staff finally get pissed off and sedate them, strap them to a bed or have a security guard escort them

Otterly said:
Dementia is associated with some very disinhibited behaviour as well. It’s not uncommon for dementia patients to be extremely inappropriate sexually.
An old folks home full of troons sounds like a nightmare, imagine needing to do personal care on an amhole
Can confirm that from personal experience. The number of times I got flashed by a particular group of 90 year old residents with inhibition issues due to dementia was staggering. Also leads to sudden and potentially very violent incidents. Frequently quite unpredictable. The number of times I had to step on on a particular resident randomly grabbing ahold of peoples wheelchairs and trying to throw them out of them and trying to randomly pull peoples walkers out of their hands without warning was also staggering.

Nursing homes are dangerous and frankly there are a ton of people who don't realize this and don't do their homework on the kind of environment they're sending their relatives to. My advice to people with family members in nursing homes is to make the occasional random, unannounced visit. You're more likely to see what really goes on in those places when you do that as the staff won't have time to prepare for visitors or to sedate anyone who causes problems regularly. Be very suspicious if they get cagey about letting you do this or try to deny you entry. Thats a sign something is up that the staff don't want you to see or know about. Its never a good sign
 
Between overdoses, AIDS and other STDs, suicides and domestic violence this is a group that really doesn't need to worry about old age.
In twenty or so years time It’ll be interesting to see how much trooning out cuts off your lifespan. Being gay alone cuts more off than diabetes on average, let’s see what SRS amd hormones does.
I think there will be significant cardiovascular mortality for both sexes, and UTIs and kidney failure for the pooners. Also cancer and deaths from bone density issues.
 
“Do you really want to be moving into a place where you have to explain yourself and have to go through it over and over?” Vincent said. “It’s exhausting, and so I think being able to be in a comfortable environment is important.”
I don't think these people know much about nursing homes and long-term care. The one facility in this story is just an assisted living. Nobody likes to think about needing more care than that, but that doesn't stop it happening.

In a LTC, don't worry: every new aide will be warned by the current staff during their orientation about your triggers. You've been there for years, you're a known factor, and it's in their best interest to keep you from flipping out. You'll be part of the briefing the same way the new hires will be warned about the wanderers and the jerkers and the strippers and the fingerpainters and the ones who shouldn't even be reminded of their family's existence or they'll cry for hours.
“The community’s going to take care of itself. It’s as simple as that. We’re going to find ways to take care of ourselves and we’re going to survive this,” Mayfaire said. “
But it sounds like they're not taking care of themselves, as a community. If "there have always been trans people," great, that means you guys gotta work now to support the currently-elderly trans people, so you can train the ones who will be helping you.

The article didn't mention any active LGBTQ people volunteering or working in care facilities now, other than one MTF who volunteers as a social worker (and if that's legit, good on them).

Laws vary state to state, but it seems like if you're going to GRASS ROOTS/RAINBOW FAMILY/HELPING EACH OTHER, the most feasible way of doing it would be to set up a small network of adult foster homes. The AFH can be more cautious about selecting residents to reduce friction, and it isn't a lot of residents by design. It takes a small core of responsible owner/workers with certification, and then you can fill in the gaps with a stream of on-the-job trained, unlicensed pooners.

Money from the State to care for a trans elder goes to a trans younger; it's a socially-responsible version of the trans grift.
 
I thought they are genocided as we speak? Why would you worry about old age when J. K. Rowling's death squad is a more pressing concern?
 
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