Are "aromantic" folk real or are they just making excuses for not having any honeys??

[RolandD-10]

Most "asexuals" are pretty sus too.

 

[Vingle]

No, they are just depressed and trying to escape from reality.

 

[MrTroll]

I can confirm that aromatic people exist, and do, in fact, smell quite bad.

 

[MarkofdaBOOG]

For me personally I am trying to live a life that I can be proud of with me alone. I have been fucked over/ life destroyed by every woman I have ever been with so I just live for me.

 

[KittyGremlin]

They are on copious amounts of copium

 

[CWCinbed]

I think aromanticism is real, but much rarer than the internet would lead you to believe. I believe it's byproduct of mental illness like autism or anxiety, and that's just how they cope with impaired social abilities.

 

[Testacles Maximus]

It’s a good excuse to turn away undesirables at the bar.

 

[dreamworks face]

Aromantic doesn't necessarily mean you don't fuck, it just means you're not into sappy shit like kissing, holding hands, valentine's day, meeting their parents, weddings, etc. The best you're ever going to get out of me in a relationship is "roommate that fucks." I like that there's a word for that now.

 

[Lord of the Large Pants]

They're like transsexuals: Real ones exist, but most of them who claim to be are just fake attention seeking faggots.

 

[Jabroni]

As others have said in this thread Aromanticism is definitely real but is much rarer than twitter would lead you to believe. I’d class myself as Aromantic but I’d never take pride in it, it’s a thing that’s only present in the minds of the disturbed. That opens up the debate as to if it’s a thing on its own or just a side effect of being emotionally distant.

 

[Blue Screen of Death]

Anyone who outwardly advertises that they are "aromantic" or "asexual" is coping for their lack of success in their love/sex life.
Someone who actually is one of those things probably isn't proud of it.

 

[BunnyMim]

Many modern “sexualities” are just symptoms of autism

 

[Hongourable Madisha]

It's not a real sexual orientation, they're just slags and/or have commitment issues. They're still either gay, straight or bi.

 

[Isaac]

Aromantics are sociopaths if they aren`t lying, which is pretty rare. And if they aren`t lying, they are attention seeking faggots.

 

[KittyGremlin]

I think aromanticism is real, but much rarer than the internet would lead you to believe. I believe it's byproduct of mental illness like autism or anxiety, and that's just how they cope with impaired social abilities.

yeah but in those cases they have fetishes that are way detached from reality.

 

[dreamworks face]

Anyone who outwardly advertises that they are "aromantic" or "asexual" is coping for their lack of success in their love/sex life.
Someone who actually is one of those things probably isn't proud of it.

When I was younger, I used to think that wanted to date girls and have a girlfriend, but I learned that I was really just horny and not actually interested in other people. I've had multiple relationships in the past, but the only thing I find appealing about relationships is the part where I get my dick wet. People who are like that are denigrated as shallow, and so I felt compelled to go on the dating sites and find women to date. But everything about the courtship process - e.g. flowers, texting, coming up with ideas for dates, meeting parents, getting engaged, starting a family, etc, all strike me as bullshit that I have no interest in and don't want to do, and it strikes me as crazy that people actually enjoy that or are willing to put up with it for strange. I think there are many people who are like that but just don't use that label. It's not something I would advertise publicly because you get into all sorts of annoying discussions about how you "haven't found the right one yet." I will stick with my fwbs, thank you very much.

Asexuality by contrast I do not understand at all and secretly suspect that they're either all closet gays or molested as kids.

 

[Blue Screen of Death]

It's not something I would advertise publicly because you get into all sorts of annoying discussions about how you "haven't found the right one yet."

Case in point, you don't have a crippling insecurity about the situation so you don't have to cope. I respect it though.

 

[Morally Reprehensive]

Some people are more comfortable isolating instead of socializing. Considering you’re asking this on kiwifarms instead of asking a friend, I would hope you would understand where they’re coming from

As for asexuals, that’s probably more a physical thing or a trauma response than anything. I’ve heard that it’s pretty common for autists to be asexual too.

 

[Manul Otocolobus]

Does it happen? Yes, and it's usually related to psychiatric and physical pathology. If that can be excluded, I would expect them to be exceptionally rare, somewhere on the order of 1 in 1 million. I would say that the frequency of asexuals is probably about the same.

One thing many people don't understand is that if they are aromactic or asexual due to a psychiatric or physical pathology, it's just a symptom, not an identity. If one identifies a symptom of mental illness as a core part of their personality, that is problematic all on its own.

 

[Zero Day Defense]

But everything about the courtship process - e.g. flowers, texting, coming up with ideas for dates, meeting parents, getting engaged, starting a family, etc, all strike me as bullshit that I have no interest in and don't want to do, and it strikes me as crazy that people actually enjoy that or are willing to put up with it for strange.

What I bolded is technically unnecessary but is imposed onto men as the song and dance they have to play to to titillate a woman so they won't get bored and leave. Meanwhile, you find that either finding things the both of you are willing to talk about or being able to relate to the things that the girl likes talking about is a crapshoot at best.

It's strangely actively depressing to think about.