I recently realized that the problem
@thegooddoctor was initially describing isn't even an arrogance issue; it's an anger issue. While I'm sure that PM chain was tamer than Felix claims, I have noticed a bit too much anger on this site. A&N seems to be a contest over who can be the most outraged, the DSP board is full of A-Logs, and Stinkditch now has users getting pissy when you use a cow's
preferred pronouns. Of course, the solution isn't demanding people be nice, it's determining when the line has been crossed and calling it out.