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My introversion was crippling at one time but I take meds now and can get out when I need to. There is a part of me that really longs to have friends and go to bookstores and coffee shops and feel carefree but usually I just look outside, think "nah" and just order books online and message @Piss about Pokemon Go.
 
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I keep to myself a lot but I have no problem holding a conversation and honestly living in the middle of nowhere would bore me to tears.
Edit: so basically a slight introvert.
 
Otterly said:
Introverted. My job requires me to work with people but if I had my way I’d live in the outer Hebrides and avoid them .
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I like people. Having to deal with people and learning how to solve their specific problems is nice. It is a never ending challenge.

I fix stuff then people are more happy. Then they pay me and fuck off.
 
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Shadfan666xxx000 said:
I keep to myself a lot but I have no problem holding a conversation and honestly living in the middle of nowhere would bore me to tears.
Edit: so basically a slight introvert.
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Would it? Have you tried?

Family, friends, neighbors, people at work, the guy at the post office, the gal who bags your groceries, etc. How many dozens of people are you interacting with on a regular basis in an urban area that you would miss out on in the country?

Crackheads begging for change at the bus station excepted.

I don't get it. If anything people in the city interact with less people. Where I grew up you waved at every person who drove past you on the highway. You will likely see them later that day going the other way and they would think it weird that you didn't wave at them and stop you to talk about it because they think you are mad at them or something. Friendly conversation is the norm. Even the most curmudgeonly introvert survivalist hillperson is expected to have the basic ability to shoot the shit with the guys at the loading dock at the feed store while loading his years worth of sacked grain for his doomsday bunker.
 
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I don't love to meet people but I work everyday almost 10 hours a day so that leaves me with little option.

I am considering whether I should move out of my family house or stay with them.... They need me more than ever because I make the money but I can't find anyone like this....

I go to gym on a casual basis and very playful with my coworkers. I joke a lot and have a lot of stuff to say.

Yet I am introvert and do not seek what is beyond the grasp of my life.
 
I'm introverted for sure, I'd say about 70/30 on a spectrum as very few people are truly only introverted. How do I deal with it? Well I don't care about being at home by itself, more so hearing too many people talking, crowds can just melt my brain sometimes as I try way too hard to hear everything and it makes it hard to pay attention. I also hate small talk beyond saying hello, it just is so unexciting and boring that my brain just stops immediately.

Honestly if you have a decent conversation you can single out a lot of things around you and turn it into a 1 on 1 conversation, which generally is easier than talking to groups of people, I'm the type of introvert that doesn't mind talking I'm just not good at approaching people.

Most of my social interactions are at my college campus where I talk to other students or some professionals who are visiting my school to network and all that. I've learned that as long as I can get past the first 30 seconds of a conversation and we can get past the boring small talk to an actual topic, I can talk endlessly for the most part as long as I have something to say. Beyond that, I'm more or less fine besides being a little socially awkward from being too much of a NEET/hermit when I was home schooled, but I've come a good way in the last 5 or so years since I went to college I just have to work around my own personal roadblocks every once in awhile.
 
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Would it? Have you tried?

Family, friends, neighbors, people at work, the guy at the post office, the gal who bags your groceries, etc. How many dozens of people are you interacting with on a regular basis in an urban area that you would miss out on in the country?

Crackheads begging for change at the bus station excepted.

I don't get it. If anything people in the city interact with less people. Where I grew up you waved at every person who drove past you on the highway. You will likely see them later that day going the other way and they would think it weird that you didn't wave at them and stop you to talk about it because they think you are mad at them or something. Friendly conversation is the norm. Even the most curmudgeonly introvert survivalist hillperson is expected to have the basic ability to shoot the shit with the guys at the loading dock at the feed store while loading his years worth of sacked grain for his doomsday bunker.
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I like the convenience and the occasional events you'll see around town. Plus crowds really give you a lot of versatility. You can be noticed if you feel like it but they're also great for just fading away towards if you want to just be alone. I wouldn't suggest going to NY or SF but a midsized city with decent mixed space usage can provide a lot in terms of something to do that weekend besides jerking to porn and being bored in a small time bar.
 
Introverted as fuck, I’m basically a wallflower. Alcohol makes me loosen up a bit though.
 
Chin of Campbell said:
I'm going to take a wild guess and say this is going to be a landslide, but from what I can tell a lot of people on here are relatively normal, so I might be surprised.

I worry that I am too introverted. I feel anxious when I'm not at home, even if it's somewhere I'm exceedingly comfortable like at relatives' homes. It isn't anything crippling, but I can't really relax anywhere but at home.

How do fellow Kiwis deal with being introverted? How do extroverted Kiwis feel when they don't have the opportunity to interact with others or get out and about?
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I'm introverted and perfectly happy grinding in a computer game for 14 hours on a day off. After working stints in retail and customer service during and out of high school, I think the needle on my "introvert - extrovert meter" went so far left that it spun all the way around and into extrovert territory by accident. I no longer have anxiety in public speaking or meeting presentations and end up verbally charming a lot of people by applying "solution-oriented" phone training to normal interactions. Some people are gifted with charisma and animal magnetism, but I consider myself living proof that it can also be a learned behavior and something you can internalize with practice. Even people on the spectrum ought to be able to fake it until they make it, they just need the rules explained to them.
 
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As said, extrovert, I want to know what people think. Sometimes language is a barrier but I have time, tell me about everything!

It creates perspective, everyone has a different story(Rashomon perhaps), it is also really interesting.
 
I don't try to argue urbanites into seeing how great rural life is. That just makes them want to turn good farmland into suburbs so they can each have a quarter acre of useless turf grass.

Stay in the cities and keep overeating.
 
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I can make small-talk with people in line at a store, or at social events I attend under duress. Otherwise I do my best to stay out of the way and not be a bother.

I'm always curious about people and enjoy making friends, but I try to keep a realistic outlook on my value to others and usually don't speak unless spoken to (online or off).

Of course there are probably many open and friendly people I'll never meet by being withdrawn.
 
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