Are you happy? - Let's have a poll

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Are you happy?

  • Yes I am

  • No I am not

  • I am OK I guess

  • I don't know what happy means, so no but maybe

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Unexpected Genitals said:
I'm not gonna lie, the only real reasons I haven't graduated from suicidal ideation to active planning is because I'm a pussy and because I don't want to do that to my family or my pets.
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What makes you suicidal? If you have nothing to live for, what is the obstacle to try and just make it big or fail? Can you yourself explain or put words to it? I am legit curious. I have always struggled to understand it. Not meaning that I am not in distress, but this is just not part of my package.

parsnip said:
Is Felix the very long-winded person who started that thread?
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Yes, but it's not so much how it started but how it ended.
 
Man. Reading the responses makes me feel a bit guilty. I'm genuinely pretty alright these days and have been for years. Part of it is that I'm likely a bit older than the average farms resident with all that attends that.

I do hope that those of you that are feeling down will stick it out. It gets better, I promise.
 
More AWS-8Q Than You said:
Happiness is a choice. Helps I'm doing better than I was last year, I'm beating my own metrics and at the end of the day that's all that matters. Life ain't perfect, but it's good enough and that's good enough.
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I am happy you're feeling good. I just disagree in principle with the choice part. I do agree with most of your other statements though.

I guess it really comes down to what really is happiness. Can you really condition yourself to be "happy"? I don't have an answer for this. But, with my little life experience, I leans towards no.

I am not sure how to explain it, but how do you decide to be happy? I don't know that. I experience pleasure from things, but it's short-lived. I like to win, but then I just don't care anymore.

I don't really have anything I can't do, i don't have anything I want that is really out of reach. I have soft goals, but I don't really care or try to make anything more out of it.

This kind of statement feel so logical, but yet so empty.
 
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rel=alternate said:
I am happy you're feeling good. I just disagree in principle with the choice part. I do agree with most of your other statements though.

I guess it really comes down to what really is happiness. Can you really condition yourself to be "happy"? I don't have an answer for this. But, with my little life experience, I leans towards no.
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I can see that. I used to be negative and depressive about a lot of things. I realized that there's a lot in life I can't control, but I can control how I feel about it, and if I can't control a thing, why throw myself into a spiral of negativity about it?
 
More AWS-8Q Than You said:
I can see that. I used to be negative and depressive about a lot of things. I realized that there's a lot in life I can't control, but I can control how I feel about it, and if I can't control a thing, why throw myself into a spiral of negativity about it?
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Believe or not, I have already made quite a lot of progress when it comes to this over the past few years.

But when you start very deep, it takes some time to get there completely. To this day, I don't know if am or was ever depressive, because I do still have some drive.

I don't know if it means anything but it's interesting that "control" shows up several time in your post. It's probably my biggest weakness in that not having/loosing control is basically a deal breaker for me, in professional or personal relationships. I am not a tyrant or anything, but I have a very difficult time not having control. Good for me it's pretty rare though.
 
rel=alternate said:
I don't know if it means anything but it's interesting that "control" shows up several time in your post. It's probably my biggest weakness in that not having/loosing control is basically a deal breaker for me, in professional or personal relationships. I am not a tyrant or anything, but I have a very difficult time not having control. Good for me it's pretty rare though.
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I've been there, I think I've just learned to only worry about the things I actually can control or change, which is just myself for the most part. And coming to an understanding that if you don't control your emotions, they will control you and people will use them to control you. That doesn't mean not feeling things or bottling them up, it's more like recognizing what I feel, looking at it to see why I feel it, and then recognizing that I don't have to let it effect my judgment about things, if I don't want it to.

I feel like there's a lot of forces in the world right now that want people to be demoralized and depressed because it makes people easier to control.
 
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More AWS-8Q Than You said:
I've just learned to only worry about the things I actually can control or change, which is just myself for the most part. And coming to an understanding that if you don't control your emotions, they will control you and people will use them to control you
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I agree, and I like to think this something I understand as well. Sometimes, you need that someone with the right personality to fill in the job, and I am happy to give to them.

ETA reading your post again, maybe I glossed over your point, but what is done is done.

It does not stop me from being me in areas I control, but it gives me more air to think about my approach to solve issues where I actually can make a difference.

Then again, I can't really say it makes me happy. Sometimes, I just want to liquidate everything I have, buy land and fuck off. It would not even be hard.
 
rel=alternate said:
I agree, and I like to think this something I understand as well. Sometimes, you need that someone with the right personality to fill in the job, and I am happy to give to them.

ETA reading your post again, maybe I glossed over your point, but what is done is done.
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No worries, I have the advantage of being a bit older then I think most Kiwis are, so it may just be me turning into an old fart who no longer has fucks to give.

rel=alternate said:
It does not stop me from being me in areas I control, but it gives me more air to think about my approach to solve issues where I actually can make a difference.

Then again, I can't really say it makes me happy. Sometimes, I just want to liquidate everything I have, buy land and fuck off. It would not even be hard.
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I think most of us men, if we're honest with ourselves, get that urge. It would be nice just to tell everyone to fuck off and live in a cabin in the woods sometimes. I think we all just need time to ourselves sometimes, away from everything.
 
Despite my autism, I am actually quite happy. Got a good job and a comfy place to live with few immediate worries. Happiness is what you make it.
 
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