"Are you mad?"

[Zero Day Defense]

I wouldn't know if men do it because I'm not gay, but this seems to be a thing some women ask whenever you're angry at them for something they did.

My interpretation is that, in asking this, they indicate that they're more concerned about you being angry at them than they are about why you're angry at them (i.e. that you at least feel that they wronged you).

But is it that such women see these two concerns as synonymous, after all? Or is it indeed that they're concerned more about the emotion than they are about the wrong?

 

[L50LasPak]

People only ask me "Are you mad?" when my dangerous and groundbreaking scientific experiments threaten their perception of reality. Fools, their small minds and lack of vision have held the human race back for no doubt hundreds of years. But we'll see who's mad, I'll show them, I'll show them all! Ahahahahaha!

 

[Chaos Theorist]

People only ask me "Are you mad?" when my dangerous and groundbreaking scientific experiments threaten their perception of reality. Fools, their small minds and lack of vision have held the human race back for no doubt hundreds of years. But we'll see who's mad, I'll show them, I'll show them all! Ahahahahaha!

Meds now.

 

[Little oak tree]

When women see you angry they block themselves, it's the instinct they have developed.
If you want them to understand something you gotta talk to them like kids and taking care that they don't feel you are "mansplaining" to them or that you know they have no idea
We are very different as males, women's compass tend to be based on how something "feels" rather than any reason behind it, IMO they are bad at grounding abstract ideas and seeing the relations of them with the world

 

[Exigent Circumcisions]

I just reply "Well I wasn't but now that you mention it maybe I should be!" and huck a full fucking mug of Mr. Noodles against the wall.

They stop asking pretty quick after that.

 

[Neo-Nazi Rich Evans]

no, im not mad, clown world is to entertaining for me to ever get mad.

 

[Skitarii]

 

[DumbDude42]

it's not a woman thing, it's a general dishonesty thing
people who 'argue' like this are trying to derail the conversation, it's an attempt to steer the conversation away from the thing you're trying to talk about because they want to avoid confronting it head-on

 

[Pony! Hugger of People]

I often ask people if they're mad or annoyed, usually because their body language does not match what they're saying/doing and it seems retarded to me to lie about how you feel without a reason just to garner attention by people trying to guess at what's bothering you.

In doing this is have learned that depending on the culture you're in that can be considered a sign of concern or a deliberate dig at a person.

If you are mad, tell me you're mad, hiding your feelings and expecting others to guess at them is much gayer than simply asking someone to verify how they're feeling

If you make your inability to articulate your emotions a guessing game for the people around you then you are a bitch made faggot

 

[JustSomeDong]

ya but y u mad bro?

 

[Zero Day Defense]

it's not a woman thing, it's a general dishonesty thing
people who 'argue' like this are trying to derail the conversation, it's an attempt to steer the conversation away from the thing you're trying to talk about because they want to avoid confronting it head-on

I'm not really talking in terms of argument, but rather in terms of hashing out issues in general.

Normally, you recognize a wrong that you did by yourself and you have to choose to apologize. Or, the person tells/explains to you the wrong you did, and then you have to choose to apologize. In my experience, the question is asked earnestly, but it feels as though the point is completely missed-- I think "the issue isn't how I feel, the issue is what you did and its consequences" and "so, if I said I wasn't mad, you wouldn't think that what you did was a problem?".

 

[Kermit Jizz]

We need an example. Tone and context make a huge difference, and from my observation some women are really fucking clueless when it comes to how certain phrases are stand offish.

 

[Ultrapenguin]

Oh wow, that's weird. I was almost positive you were a chick.
And in the other direction you don't ask "are you mad", you ask something like "What's your problem?" or "What's the matter?" when they're being passive aggressive.

Unless you mean in the way where someone does something clearly over the line right in front of you, especially something disloyal, and then asks "Are you mad?" in anything resembling baby talk, in which case that bitch is crazy and you need to get out of there.

 

[DankSmoker]

I'm as mad as hell, and I'm not going to take this anymore!

 

[Haim Arlosoroff]

But is it that such women see these two concerns as synonymous, after all?

Kind of, ladies tend to be caregivers and nurturers because if their daughters died then the genetic line that lead to the she-beast in front of you wouldn't have existed.

The problem is that they want to be the equal of their man, but sometimes they only listen and never reflexively try to fix things. The support-needing person is always just frustrated instead for she doesn’t feel listened to. And there is never a point where they feel listened to enough, only when they are distracted into thinking about other things. So she gives time and attention instead. Or she's a fucking snake, and doesn't even give that because she's just cutting you off by asking about your emotions.

1. If you're thinking of getting advice from her, and she's opted to mimic your gestures, body language, and tone for a more comforting effect, then question why you're raising the issue with a woman. Not all women are fem-bots though, and you should give your girlfriend the chance to drop their emotional mask and be a real lady-bro for you. She might surprise you.
2. If she's "done it again", and she's opted to refuse to admit her fault, then give yourself one or two days to regain emotional equilibrium following an offending incident to admit she was wrong and apologize for it. If she won't then assume she won't forever, and decide if being in the relationship really requires you to lie to yourself about who she is as a person. Sometimes the relationship is still worth it, but you need to choose the outcome which makes you happy. If you choose to stay, apologize yourself in front of her friends or family over the arguing so they know who this bitch is. Sometimes, that saves a poor bastard's reputation down the line. Pussy is a harsh addiction, Crazy sticks to hot and hot's the whole point.

Or is it indeed that they're concerned more about the emotion than they are about the wrong?

Just quickly ask them, "shouldn't I be?" Its a good reflex, and it makes them argue the point. Or, as is often amongst liars and cheats, they will confess partially to not listening. Hit them on being mad for additional reasons the more they try to think their way out of what they did. Bounce between the points like you're playing a game, and act totally like they're losing. Because they are.