Arranged marriage

[autisticdragonkin]

Although quite rare in the west it is quite common in other cultures and with an increasingly globalized world we have tot address arranged marriage. Many westerners will immediately reject it as being patriarchal.
India has a very low rate of divorce especially in arranged marriages and there is nothing to suggest that arranged marriages are less happy than unarranged marriages. Since people can develop feelings for each other over time as opposed to simply having love at first sight I think that arranged marriages could have equal love in them. Additionally with parents having input that means that there will be a lesser chance of marrying a bad partner. (note that arranged marriages are different from forced marriages because there is an ability to say no to them and oftentimes the partners will get to know each other before accepting the marriage)
(This is for discussing arranged marriages of adults not children which is wrong in any marriage system)

 

[AnOminous]

You're insane.

 

[KingGeedorah]

Does this include mail order brides?

 

[XYZpdq]

Meh, it's not like regular marriage has a great batting average.

 

[Bokrug's Basement]

How would it even work in the west? Trying to pair arranged marriage with a hook up culture probably wouldn't go over well.

 

[autisticdragonkin]

How would it even work in the west? Trying to pair arranged marriage with a hook up culture probably wouldn't go over well.

It would replace hookup culture once we realize how harmful it is
https://www.psychologytoday.com/blo...3/how-casual-sex-can-affect-our-mental-health

 

[Coldgrip]

I'm starting to see why you were banned from this place.

 

[Sanshain]

As somebody who has read a considerable amount on how the Indian arranged marriage system works, I feel completely self-assured in calling you a fucking moron.

 

[autisticdragonkin]

As somebody who has read a considerable amount on how the Indian arranged marriage system works, I feel completely self-assured in calling you a fucking moron.

Elaborate

 

[Kazami Yuuka]

The huge difference is that arranged marriage really only takes place in third world countries, while in civilized countries, this does not generally take place. Arranged marriage is pretty much a defunct relic of the past.

 

[autisticdragonkin]

The huge difference is that arranged marriage really only takes place in third world countries, while in civilized countries, this does not generally take place. Arranged marriage is pretty much a defunct relic of the past.

I know that it is uncommon in the developed world but that doesn't in itself mean that it is bad. The developed world could be wrong and nobody is actually giving an explanation as to why arranged marriage is wrong

 

[vertexwindi]

I know that it is uncommon in the developed world but that doesn't in itself mean that it is bad.

Doesn't necessarily mean it's good either.

In Africa you got people raping babies out of the belief that it will cure their AIDS. That's certainly uncommon in the west, and for good reason.

 

[Vorhtbame]

nobody is actually giving an explanation as to why arranged marriage is wrong

Many westerners will immediately reject it as being patriarchal.

You act surprised, and I'm not sure why.

 

[autisticdragonkin]

Doesn't necessarily mean it's good either.

In Africa you got people raping babies out of the belief that it will cure their AIDS. That's certainly uncommon in the west, and for good reason.

I never said that it was good. All I said is that we should judge ideas on their own merits rather than on who advocates them.

 

[AnOminous]

Elaborate

You should be thrown in prison where you have a series of arranged marriages to negroes with enormous penises exchanging you for packs of cigarettes.

 

[autisticdragonkin]

You should be thrown in prison where you have a series of arranged marriages to negroes with enormous penises exchanging you for packs of cigarettes.

That isn't arranged marriage. Arranged marriage is not the same thing as forced marriage. Both parties are able to refuse an arranged marriage (they may have cultural pressures against refusing but it is far from unheard of)
http://muslimmatters.org/2011/12/22/arranged-marriage-is-not-forced-marriage/

You act surprised, and I'm not sure why.

They give no explanation as to how it is patriarchal and just say it is. I think it is just a neocolonial bias rather than a real argument

 

[Carlos Thin]

At least an arranged marriage would get me a waifu...

 

[AnOminous]

That isn't arranged marriage. Arranged marriage is not the same thing as forced marriage. Both parties are able to refuse an arranged marriage (they may have cultural pressures against refusing but it is far from unheard of)
http://muslimmatters.org/2011/12/22/arranged-marriage-is-not-forced-marriage/

You don't just have autism. You have turbo tism.

 

[Vorhtbame]

They give no explanation as to how it is patriarchal and just say it is. I think it is just a neocolonial bias rather than a real argument

They might also be trolling you. Or some of each, really. Does it matter?

 

[LD 3187]

They give no explanation as to how it is patriarchal and just say it is. I think it is just a neocolonial bias rather than a real argument

My 2 cents on why this thread is not going in the direction you want. The most interesting stuff you posted was the article about the effects of casual sex and the relation of that and arranged marriage is not direct. Now, why I think arranged marriage is shit? Well, if you think the problem with today's culture is casual sex how making marriage a economic transation will help that? Do you really think that girls that grow up in countries where arranged marriage view refusing marriage as a possibility? What will a young girl, usually underaged, do when her father tell her that either she marries an old fuck or she is shaming her family and dead to him? Not even going to consider the islamic article you posted, i'm extremely biased against the "religion of peace". Anyway i hope you bring a better case of why arranged marriage would be better than say "we should go back to some prudish values" because afaik i don't see how marrying young girls to rich dudes will fix this. Bring me those autistic ratings.