💬 Off-Topic Ask Dusty Anything - It's been a long time coming...

[Dr. Boe Jangles Esq.]

When we first met, Phil was very unassuming. He was quiet, shy, and vulnerable. It wasn't until I went into "avenging angel" mode over his death threats that he started coming out of his shell. Then he started telling everyone I was his BDSM master, and I started wishing he'd go back into his shell.

Gotta admit, that's the opposite of what I expected.
What did his bullies primarily pick on him for? As in, what caused him to be singled out for bullying?
Any particularly raw nerves that they would go after?

 

[Ravenor]

I will say only that I require supportive undergarments, lest the sheer weight cause some rather unpleasant medical complications.

That has to be one of the most manly thing's I have ever read... cudos Sir.

Also @MMX and Dusty here is the text post of Phils's about the Girl toys for reference.

CHRONOLOGY OF MY GENDER IDENTITY ISSUES

1985 - PRESENT



By Ahuviya R. Harel



1985-1996 - Pre-Puberty Development and Early Issues


12 August 1985 - Birth of Ahuviya Harel, then born as Felipe V. Delicias at Underwood Memorial Hospital, Woodbury, New Jersey. Gender Marker was assigned Male despite being born as an XXY Chromosonally Intersex Male


Ca. July - October 1987 - First Attempts at Toliet-Training Fail as my Father tries to force me to stand up and urinate -- First disgust and disdain complaints over my Male genitals are aired and subsequently ignored by both parents. This further hinders further Toilet-Training efforts until Spring 1989


Ca. January 1988 - February 1991 - Escalating Domestic Violence between my Mother and Father. Escalating violence by my Father causes me to be in counseling and to desire to be closer to my Mother. First complaints of being Male occur as a result of the violence and physical abuse by my father


April 1988 - Received inaccurate diagonsis of Autism Spectrum Disorder known as Asperger Syndrome (which was not officially recognized as a Mental Disorder until the publication of the DSM-IV-TR in 1994 and will be depreciated under Autism upon the publication of the DSM-V in 2012) I also receive the more 'accurate and No Shit Sherlock' dianogsis of "Emotional Disturbance"


September 1988 - June 1991 - Attented Preschool at Woodbury Heights Grammar School, Woodbury Heights - I was placed in Special Education Classes. I was described as having no interest in peers during Lunch and Recess


Ca. 1989-1990 - Repeated incidents of using the Girls Room in Preschool and Refusing to use the boys room in Preschool


September 1991 - March 1992 - Attended Parkview Elementary School, Westville, New Jersey. I was expelled due to repeated fighting and trashing of the classroom. I finished Kindergarten with a Home Tutor by June 1992. The violence was a reflection of the physical abuse I suffered from my Father


September 1992 - August 2000 - Attended Durand Academy for my Primary Education


25 November 1992 - Disney's Aladdin in released, spawning my first cosplay as Jafar in 1993, also the first ideations on being female asre expressed when wanting to be Princess Jasmine


25 December 1992 - Received my first Bicycle - I refused to ride the bike due to the seat causing pain to my male genitalia and prostate. I have not rode a Bicycle since then.


Summer 1993 - Visitations with my Father are started. Attempts to Learn Baseball and Basketball end in repeated failures. However I excel in Roller Skating and Hockey when given the oppurtunity to play and to such sports.


Ca. Fall 1993 - First interests in cartography (Map-making) occur, a unisex interest that persists to the persent day.


12 August 1994 - Recieved Kitty-Kitty Kittens as my first 'girls toy' for my 9th Birthday


September 1994 - April 1995 - Attended CCD Classes at St. Matthew's School, National Park NJ


Summer and Fall 1995 - I experience the first sustained series of ideations of being female in my dreams


August 1996 - Received Dollhouse for my 11th Birthday - Another Girl toy since Kitty Kitty Kittens from 1994

 

[MMX]

Yep, THAT Dusty. I'm sick of getting my news via @Weeping With Pity and the occasional Kiwi who drops by my Facebook page, so here I am. People seem excited to see me, and there's been more than a few questions and one AMA request already, so I might as well get this out of the way up front.

Caveat: I am not revealing anything I know solely because of "Aunt Joyce." That information remains confidential, as per my agreement with her, until she gets in touch with Jackie.

Open note to Isabel (since I know you're reading this): Should you be the one to make that contact happen, I could even be persuaded to keep that information - which could well contain all manner of interesting and embarrassing information regarding your childhood and family - confidential permanently. It may not make me popular around here, but Joyce and your mother are more important to me than the Kiwis are, and they should be more important to you, as well.

Whats your thoughts on phils terming getting a spanking from daddy for being an asshole to little kids as "corrective rape"

 

[Morbid Boredom]

Spoiler: Answer megapost #1, MMX through Hortator

I will say only that I require supportive undergarments, lest the sheer weight cause some rather unpleasant medical complications.



Yes, preferably with bacon.



When we first met, Phil was very unassuming. He was quiet, shy, and vulnerable. It wasn't until I went into "avenging angel" mode over his death threats that he started coming out of his shell. Then he started telling everyone I was his BDSM master, and I started wishing he'd go back into his shell.



He was shy, and getting bullied, and I felt sorry for him, because no one deserves to be treated like he was for no reason. As for the second and third questions, see below:



I had him over to play video games, he brought some Naruto fighting game and Katamari Damacy. He got cuddlier and cuddlier, and then there was a hand in my pants, and at the touch of my "five dollar footlong" he either got so excited or so intimidated he lost bowel control, then started crying and begging me to not hate him. I forgave him for his complete lack of interest in my consent, which only led to him violating my boundaries more and more drastically as time went on, leading me to avoid the hell out of him for the sake of my sanity.



@Ravenor and @tweaker the cat have both vouched for me in another thread, I'm sure @Weeping With Pity will be along eventually. If there's more to it than that, I'm waiting to be approached about it.




...why do you hate my sanity?

Welcome to the Farms!

I understand you're a Warhammer 40K player -heretic scum- and we have a thread in "Games" for discussion.

Er... question... did Phil ever try to play 40K?

Have you competed in tournaments?

 

[MMX]

Yep, THAT Dusty. I'm sick of getting my news via @Weeping With Pity and the occasional Kiwi who drops by my Facebook page, so here I am. People seem excited to see me, and there's been more than a few questions and one AMA request already, so I might as well get this out of the way up front.

Caveat: I am not revealing anything I know solely because of "Aunt Joyce." That information remains confidential, as per my agreement with her, until she gets in touch with Jackie.

Open note to Isabel (since I know you're reading this): Should you be the one to make that contact happen, I could even be persuaded to keep that information - which could well contain all manner of interesting and embarrassing information regarding your childhood and family - confidential permanently. It may not make me popular around here, but Joyce and your mother are more important to me than the Kiwis are, and they should be more important to you, as well.

Best chaos god ?
Who would win a straight up fight, Russ or Angron ?
Which chaos god best represents phil

 

[Karen Riley]

What do you hope to achieve by joining up Dusty? Is there some things you want to get across to Phil indirectly or are you just around to mess with Phil and have some fun like the rest of us? I'm just curious why you've signed up, why now. Really pleased to have you onboard though and I hope that you stick around.

 

[Ravenor]

Best chaos god ?
Who would win a straight up fight, Russ or Angron ?
Which chaos god best represents phil

MMX asking the important questions, also WTF are you talking about it's clearly fucking Angron every single time.

 

[Flame the Sunbird]

Do you have any hesitation about getting back in touch with him? You may already know this but he has a habit of turning viciously on anyone he feels has crossed him (see @tweaker the cat or @EyeWasATeenageMallgoth ) and attempting to dox them, get them banned from places, or get them fired.

 

[MMX]

Yep, THAT Dusty. I'm sick of getting my news via @Weeping With Pity and the occasional Kiwi who drops by my Facebook page, so here I am. People seem excited to see me, and there's been more than a few questions and one AMA request already, so I might as well get this out of the way up front.

Caveat: I am not revealing anything I know solely because of "Aunt Joyce." That information remains confidential, as per my agreement with her, until she gets in touch with Jackie.

Open note to Isabel (since I know you're reading this): Should you be the one to make that contact happen, I could even be persuaded to keep that information - which could well contain all manner of interesting and embarrassing information regarding your childhood and family - confidential permanently. It may not make me popular around here, but Joyce and your mother are more important to me than the Kiwis are, and they should be more important to you, as well.

Please suggest a name for phils ball worm ?
If you havent seen pics would you like to ?

 

[Ravenor]

If you havent seen pics would you like to ?

I don't think that's really fair to inflict on anyone, there is rules in the Geneva Convention about that sorta thing.

 

[Sanshain]

I'm a complete and utter twerp and am unaware who Dusty is exactly. Any links to solid info on his place in the saga? I'd look myself but I'm in the middle of nowhere on a phone connection that makes communication by carrier pigeon seem breathtakingly fast by comparison.

 

[Ntwadumela]

I'm a complete and utter twerp and am unaware who Dusty is exactly. Any links to solid info on his place in the saga? I'd look myself but I'm in the middle of nowhere on a phone connection that makes communication by carrier pigeon seem breathtakingly fast by comparison.

Check Phil's article on the Lolcow Wiki, there's an entire section dedicated to explaining his years at college, and part of it mentions Dusty:
https://lolcow.wiki/wiki/Isabel_Rosa_Araujo

 

[Morbid Boredom]

I'm a complete and utter twerp and am unaware who Dusty is exactly. Any links to solid info on his place in the saga? I'd look myself but I'm in the middle of nowhere on a phone connection that makes communication by carrier pigeon seem breathtakingly fast by comparison.

Long story short, Dusty is a guy who knew Phil back in his days living in the Philly metro area. Phil clumsily hit on him and then pooped his pants.

By all accounts, Dusty is a mensch.

 

[MMX]

Yep, THAT Dusty. I'm sick of getting my news via @Weeping With Pity and the occasional Kiwi who drops by my Facebook page, so here I am. People seem excited to see me, and there's been more than a few questions and one AMA request already, so I might as well get this out of the way up front.

Caveat: I am not revealing anything I know solely because of "Aunt Joyce." That information remains confidential, as per my agreement with her, until she gets in touch with Jackie.

Open note to Isabel (since I know you're reading this): Should you be the one to make that contact happen, I could even be persuaded to keep that information - which could well contain all manner of interesting and embarrassing information regarding your childhood and family - confidential permanently. It may not make me popular around here, but Joyce and your mother are more important to me than the Kiwis are, and they should be more important to you, as well.

Will you be our friend
Will you be CWCs friend ? Then that would be another way shes better than phil

 

[Phil's Favorite Footlong]

Spoiler: Answers Megapost #2

Serious question
Phil has made claims hes later gone back on about having "girls toys" as a child, Like dolls and a puppy playset.
Any truth to that you recall

Also @MMX and Dusty here is the text post of Phils's about the Girl toys for reference.

Nothing like that in college. Other than his eventual clothing choices, his interests and behavior were not noticeably deviant from the social baseline masculine. Ravenor's timeline cuts off 10 years before I came along.

Why are you bothering to call Phil his current name of the week?

When I am speaking to Kiwis, I will use Phil because I want you to know who I'm talking about. When I address the individual directly, I'll use their name of choice as a gesture of goodwill, because I would like to think that, angry as I am at some of what they have done, it's not too late to get help and seek recovery. There's just a lot of work to be done in that regard, and no sign of the slightest interest in doing so- but that doesn't mean I should be needlessly mean.

Can you tell us any particularly interesting stories of Phil's shenanigans in the anime club?

I will come back to this when the stream of questions trickles off.

What is your opinion on Phil's ongoing tranny phase? Do you think he'll grow out of it like when he decided he was an anime character?

He's been adamant about his gender identity for over 8 years now, at least. I'm not sure that can be called a "phase" anymore. I'm not expecting it to change, though I'm hoping if it continues, "Phil" will start complying with treatment to become "Isabel," rather than simply forging doctor's notes and dumping pills down storm drains.

What was Phil like in college? As in, could you hold a decent conversation with him? Did he creep on people? What started his "interest" in politics?

I was able to hold "informative" conversations with him easily- talks where I was explaining something to him, or vice versa. Conversations involving boundaries, or what was not okay for him to do to other people, did not go over as well. His interest in politics only became apparent to me after I graduated. It may have existed before, but the McCain/Obama election was the first it was made known to me.

When will REV 60 be released on steam

My sources say shortly after Half Life 3.

At what time did you realize Phil was too crazy for you to be around anymore?

As for a question, can you think of a specific point where Phil went from being "autistic, but manageable" to "out of control?" If so, what caused it?

It was more of an incremental enlightenment, where each violated boundary resulted in fewer and fewer liberties with my time.

Gotta admit, that's the opposite of what I expected.
What did his bullies primarily pick on him for? As in, what caused him to be singled out for bullying?
Any particularly raw nerves that they would go after?

I honestly think a large part of who he has become is a reflection of wanting to be more like how he viewed me. It's dwarfed y his need for internet approval, but I can see a lot of changes he's made that strongly reflect things he could have picked up from me.

As for bullying, he's visibly different, he has a behavioral disorder, and he is/was into nerdy pursuits. It came to a head when he first came out as bisexual, and only really stopped because I made it clear he was under my protection.

Whats your thoughts on phils terming getting a spanking from daddy for being an asshole to little kids as "corrective rape"

I have no informed opinion on this. I can only observe that he desperately wanted me to "paddle" him, and he (thankfully) never called me Daddy.

Can you watch Naruto without suffering PTSD

Also how awesome is Attack on titan

To be fair, I couldn't really watch Naruto without PTSD before I met Phil, either. I am not a huge anime person, and have never seen Attack on Titan.

I understand you're a Warhammer 40K player -heretic scum- and we have a thread in "Games" for discussion.

Best chaos god ?
Who would win a straight up fight, Russ or Angron ?

I played Fantasy pre-AoSigmar, but barely dabbled in 40k. I cannot give an informed opinion on Russ vs Angron. As for the best Chaos god, I am shocked, SHOCKED I say, that you would even suspect an upright, faithful Imperial citizen such as myself would dabble in the ruinous powers. It's appalling that you might even suggest I would be the least bit tempted by the mindless bloodlust of Khorne, the repulsive debauchery of Slaanesh, or the putrescent "gifts" of Nurgle.

What do you hope to achieve by joining up Dusty? Is there some things you want to get across to Phil indirectly or are you just around to mess with Phil and have some fun like the rest of us? I'm just curious why you've signed up, why now. Really pleased to have you onboard though and I hope that you stick around.

A number of Kiwis have been contacting me periodically, and I've grown tired of getting knowledge secondhand. Threatening Tweaker's job is the last straw for me.

 

[MMX]

Spoiler: Answers Megapost #2

Nothing like that in college. Other than his eventual clothing choices, his interests and behavior were not noticeably deviant from the social baseline masculine. Ravenor's timeline cuts off 10 years before I came along.



When I am speaking to Kiwis, I will use Phil because I want you to know who I'm talking about. When I address the individual directly, I'll use their name of choice as a gesture of goodwill, because I would like to think that, angry as I am at some of what they have done, it's not too late to get help and seek recovery. There's just a lot of work to be done in that regard, and no sign of the slightest interest in doing so- but that doesn't mean I should be needlessly mean.



I will come back to this when the stream of questions trickles off.



He's been adamant about his gender identity for over 8 years now, at least. I'm not sure that can be called a "phase" anymore. I'm not expecting it to change, though I'm hoping if it continues, "Phil" will start complying with treatment to become "Isabel," rather than simply forging doctor's notes and dumping pills down storm drains.



I was able to hold "informative" conversations with him easily- talks where I was explaining something to him, or vice versa. Conversations involving boundaries, or what was not okay for him to do to other people, did not go over as well. His interest in politics only became apparent to me after I graduated. It may have existed before, but the McCain/Obama election was the first it was made known to me.



My sources say shortly after Half Life 3.




It was more of an incremental enlightenment, where each violated boundary resulted in fewer and fewer liberties with my time.



I honestly think a large part of who he has become is a reflection of wanting to be more like how he viewed me. It's dwarfed y his need for internet approval, but I can see a lot of changes he's made that strongly reflect things he could have picked up from me.

As for bullying, he's visibly different, he has a behavioral disorder, and he is/was into nerdy pursuits. It came to a head when he first came out as bisexual, and only really stopped because I made it clear he was under my protection.






To be fair, I couldn't really watch Naruto without PTSD before I met Phil, either. I am not a huge anime person, and have never seen Attack on Titan.




I played Fantasy pre-AoSigmar, but barely dabbled in 40k. I cannot give an informed opinion on Russ vs Angron. As for the best Chaos god, I am shocked, SHOCKED I say, that you would even suspect an upright, faithful Imperial citizen such as myself would dabble in the ruinous powers. It's appalling that you might even suggest I would be the least bit tempted by the mindless bloodlust of Khorne, the repulsive debauchery of Slaanesh, or the putrescent "gifts" of Nurgle.



A number of Kiwis have been contacting me periodically, and I've grown tired of getting knowledge secondhand. Threatening Tweaker's job is the last straw for me.

You kind of missed my spanking question but thanks for humouring me

How big a cluster fuck is Age of sigmar

 

[Phil's Favorite Footlong]

Please suggest a name for phils ball worm ?
If you havent seen pics would you like to ?

@Weeping With Pity made sure I saw those pictures, and may the fleas of a thousand camels infest him for it. If I'm going to be cruel, I vote "Isabel," because it looks like an attractive hispanic female ballworm.

Will you be our friend
Will you be CWCs friend ? Then that would be another way shes better than phil

This has already been suggested to me in the past. It has also been advised against. I think I'll err on the side of caution.

You kind of missed my spanking question but thanks for humouring me

How big a cluster fuck is Age of sigmar

Sorry, was jumping around matching up similar questions, and it slipped by. There's an answer there now!

And no idea about AoS, I sold off all my models just before it was announced (perfect timing!) to increase my Warmachine collection.

 

[Dr. Boe Jangles Esq.]

He's been adamant about his gender identity for over 8 years now, at least. I'm not sure that can be called a "phase" anymore. I'm not expecting it to change, though I'm hoping if it continues, "Phil" will start complying with treatment to become "Isabel," rather than simply forging doctor's notes and dumping pills down storm drains.

A fair point. Admittedly, I'm biased with regards to the gender permutations of the mentally ill.

I honestly think a large part of who he has become is a reflection of wanting to be more like how he viewed me. It's dwarfed y his need for internet approval, but I can see a lot of changes he's made that strongly reflect things he could have picked up from me.

As for bullying, he's visibly different, he has a behavioral disorder, and he is/was into nerdy pursuits. It came to a head when he first came out as bisexual, and only really stopped because I made it clear he was under my protection.

Do you ever regret it?
While I realize this may be interpreted as a bit harsh, there's a school of thought that states that being bullied during some of the developmental years is actually a beneficial thing, enforcing ideas of proper social behavior and strengthening you as a person. Do you ever wonder how things might have gone if he'd been left to his situation?

 

[Sanshain]

How 'intelligent' would you consider Phil to be? How much of his bouncing and squeaking as we call it do you believe stems from willful ignorance as opposed to plain stupidity? He comes across as completely retarded at times, but having worked with autistic people in the past, I'm partly convinced that this is a case of furious doubling-down in the face of reality instead of a genuine lack of intellectual capacity.

 

[MMX]

Sorry, was jumping around matching up similar questions, and it slipped by. There's an answer there now!

And no idea about AoS, I sold off all my models just before it was announced (perfect timing!) to increase my Warmachine collection.

Okay i respect your answer but i want to go deep.
Phil admits he was spanked for picking on small children.....he considers this "corrective rape".
If this is accurate then contact with consent is "rape" to phil. So by his own logic phil raped a bunch of kids so his dad raped him.
Now i dont consider spanking a kid whos bullying kids rape.
So even ignoring this was phil my question is
Does spanking equal corrective rape in your eyes ?

But to lighten thing up
What faction do you play in warmachine ?