Autism

[vertexwindi]

I'm an aspie and I used to live in an assisted living facility full of other aspies. My honest opinion?

Fuck autists, man.

 

[InLivingTuna]

I was diagnosed with autism when I was little, I'm relatively high functioning though so I'm very thankful for that. My neighbors have a 8 year old son who's also a HFA, except he's a lot younger than me so he hasn't picked up as many social skills yet. I hear he's getting bullied by the older kids at his school which is bullshit, I wish I could hang out with the little dude more so he didn't feel as bad about himself sometimes. His parents are kinda hoarders tho so I don't like being in their house.

 

[FuckBitchesGetRiches]

I was diagnosed with autism when I was little, I'm relatively high functioning though so I'm very thankful for that. My neighbors have a 8 year old son who's also a HFA, except he's a lot younger than me so he hasn't picked up as many social skills yet. I hear he's getting bullied by the older kids at his school which is bullshit, I wish I could hang out with the little dude more so he didn't feel as bad about himself sometimes. His parents are kinda hoarders tho so I don't like being in their house.

Ah, yeah that can be difficult. How bad is it there, if I may ask? My mother tends to keep my father in check, but it was a factor for me moving out. They're gonna be living separately though, because my dad would displace my mother's stuff for his own junk that he'd never give a second look unless to check if you removed it.

For the record, he's the one of the two who has Aspergers.

 

[InLivingTuna]

Ah, yeah that can be difficult. How bad is it there, if I may ask?

They've had the health department called on them because of how obviously dirty and not child friendly their house is, and the kid is gonna get taken away if they don't straighten their shit out. I wanna hope that they'll turn it around and clean up but it's not looking likely, his dad is nice but really awkward and almost lolcowish and I don't think he's gonna be able to change his ways. It's probably in the kids best interest anyways.

 

[Megapiss]

I'm an aspie and I used to live in an assisted living facility full of other aspies. My honest opinion?

Fuck autists, man.

Got any interesting stories about the sperg house?

 

[vertexwindi]

Got any interesting stories about the sperg house?

Plenty. If you want a start, go look up "Emma" in my post history.

Aside from that... yeah, I got a few.

You ever met a rich, arrogant person who never faced real hardship, yet think they got the world figured out and hope people will someday recognize and bow down to their genius? Well, I knew someone like that, and he lived with me. And had autism. Double the fun times! Let's call him Jed because I hate that name.

So he was diagnosed with autism after suffering from a mental breakdown. The cause? Stress over his high school grades. I struggled with my HS grades sometimes but I can't see ever having a mental breakdown over them. I think he eventually did graduate, but I'm not sure.

Jed and I were occasionally capable of joking around, and I would sometimes pretend to have a huge ego for a cheap laugh, and he would join in, but it was painfully obvious as he was joking that he really thought very highly of himself. That impression was confirmed when one time he told me he really thought he was hot shit. Autists are not known for their subtlety. As you can imagine, this came up a lot during conversations, subtly and not-so-subtly, so most of the time talking to him was painful because he was always convinced he had the right opinion.

There used to be a Jehovah's witness living with us years ago. The kind of Jehovah's witness who threw a tantrum over the Christmas tree standing proudly in our hall. Jed, being an idiot, wanted to have a talk about religion with her one time. Her stubbornness combined with his ego, yeah, it went as well as you'd expect. I never got the details of what exactly went down, but after that eventual argument she never talked to Jed again. I'm not sure who I felt sorry for the most in that situation as I can't imagine debating with either one of them to be pleasant.

Jed is also vegetarian. This was a huge pain in the ass in a place where you had to learn how to cook in groups, and I was stuck in the same group as him. Eventually I gave up on trying to accommodate him because having to buy biological meat, or even vegetarian alternatives to meat, is not possible on a three euro per person budget. One time, he got so upset someone made something with meat in it, he went and did the unthinkable. You ready for this? He said "I'm not eating this" and went outside to take a walk. To calm himself down. As you can imagine this impressed exactly zero and I went back to not caring about accommodating for just his diet when I have to put food for five people on the table.

As you most likely inferred already, he's also a huge weenie. A friend of mine, who I'll call Ellen, argued with him a lot. She was a bit of a slob who left stuff lying around the shared living room. Me and some doofus once went around everyone's rooms to do a questionnaire over whether people found it annoying or not. Not to be obnoxious, but because no one living at the house actually talked with her about it. Right after we went around Jed's room to ask him, he went to the counsellors to complain and they shut it down to shut him up. We actually told Ellen about it afterwards, which she appreciated, and she since started cleaning up her crap much better. It's almost like people don't break down if you tell them about a problem you have with them.

Jed dealt with pretty much everything this way, including stuff people specifically didn't want him to tell others. I could understand if he was a pre-teen or something but the guy was twenty at the time and from what I know still deals with his problems like this almost two years later. That's actually how he initially got on Ellen's bad side, she told him something in private and he went to tell the counsellors. After that, well, his arrogant behaviour as well as his snitching just rubbed her the wrong way. Can't say I blame her.

The most amazing part about their enemyship, though, was this: one time, Ellen wanted to visit a World War II monument in Amsterdam with an ex-friend of ours and Jed wanted to come along. Eventually because of some drama, the ex-friend didn't go so she was stuck with Jed. Ellen wanted to look around in some dumb tourist shop that sold stupid shit like clogs and all kinds of things with weed leaves on them. Jed didn't dare to enter and was apparently even scared to stand in front of the shop.

But that's not the amazing part. The amazing part was that right after they were done visiting and about to go home, Jed confessed to her that he had a crush on Ellen. Considering she could not stand him in the slightest, and considering how often they clashed on things, she was absolutely fucking baffled how to reply or why he would even fancy her and he never talked about it since. He actually did try to get with another girl, Lyra, a very nice, very traditional and kinda cute girl, though initially very restrained. She was too nice to tell him to GTFO, but over time became outspoken and since then the two of them didn't hang out a lot any more. Lyra also told me once in private she actually couldn't stand him. That made me laugh very hard.

He did eventually manage to get a girlfriend, one who is as obnoxious and arrogant as he is. One time Ellen was throwing away some dinner and the girlfriend got pissed at her, started talking about poor African children, you know the drill. I can't imagine having a girlfriend that constantly validates Jed does much good for his ego, but I haven't talked to him much since he moved out, even if he still comes over to the aspie house nearly every day. If you have nothing better to do with your life than staring at a living room wall in a house full of Autistics, go end your life. That's not a joke, he has really done that. Go into higher education or get an actual job. I say "actual" because, well, it's a sad story.

The people at the aspie house didn't want aspies to spend time in their room all day, and ten minutes away from the aspie house stood the warehouse of some webshop. The webshop and the aspie house made a deal: the aspies could come over and do some simple work, like putting together Lego sets or making simple things in Photoshop, and they even paid the aspies 1 or 2 euro an hour. The "employees" didn't actually have a contract at the place so legally it wasn't a job, but it still seems pretty shady to me. Anywho, that's where he "worked" during his free time because, as I said, he had no job or education beyond high school. He got above mediocre skills in Photoshop after some time of working with it and then decided his true calling was to become a photographer or something. He quit his "job" not too long after.

I have found his DeviantArt and his photography skills are, as you might imagine, mediocre, yet somehow he thinks others find this hobby of him interesting and noteworthy because he will talk your ears off about it if you ask. Sometimes even when you don't ask.

At least he has a girlfriend to waste time with instead of wasting time staring at walls, I suppose.

 

[feedtheoctopus]

Plenty. If you want a start, go look up "Emma" in my post history.

Aside from that... yeah, I got a few.

You ever met a rich, arrogant person who never faced real hardship, yet think they got the world figured out and hope people will someday recognize and bow down to their genius? Well, I knew someone like that, and he lived with me. And had autism. Double the fun times! Let's call him Jed because I hate that name.

So he was diagnosed with autism after suffering from a mental breakdown. The cause? Stress over his high school grades. I struggled with my HS grades sometimes but I can't see ever having a mental breakdown over them. I think he eventually did graduate, but I'm not sure.

Jed and I were occasionally capable of joking around, and I would sometimes pretend to have a huge ego for a cheap laugh, and he would join in, but it was painfully obvious as he was joking that he really thought very highly of himself. That impression was confirmed when one time he told me he really thought he was hot shit. Autists are not known for their subtlety. As you can imagine, this came up a lot during conversations, subtly and not-so-subtly, so most of the time talking to him was painful because he was always convinced he had the right opinion.

There used to be a Jehovah's witness living with us years ago. The kind of Jehovah's witness who threw a tantrum over the Christmas tree standing proudly in our hall. Jed, being an idiot, wanted to have a talk about religion with her one time. Her stubbornness combined with his ego, yeah, it went as well as you'd expect. I never got the details of what exactly went down, but after that eventual argument she never talked to Jed again. I'm not sure who I felt sorry for the most in that situation as I can't imagine debating with either one of them to be pleasant.

Jed is also vegetarian. This was a huge pain in the ass in a place where you had to learn how to cook in groups, and I was stuck in the same group as him. Eventually I gave up on trying to accommodate him because having to buy biological meat, or even vegetarian alternatives to meat, is not possible on a three euro per person budget. One time, he got so upset someone made something with meat in it, he went and did the unthinkable. You ready for this? He said "I'm not eating this" and went outside to take a walk. To calm himself down. As you can imagine this impressed exactly zero and I went back to not caring about accommodating for just his diet when I have to put food for five people on the table.

As you most likely inferred already, he's also a huge weenie. A friend of mine, who I'll call Ellen, argued with him a lot. She was a bit of a slob who left stuff lying around the shared living room. Me and some doofus once went around everyone's rooms to do a questionnaire over whether people found it annoying or not. Not to be obnoxious, but because no one living at the house actually talked with her about it. Right after we went around Jed's room to ask him, he went to the counsellors to complain and they shut it down to shut him up. We actually told Ellen about it afterwards, which she appreciated, and she since started cleaning up her crap much better. It's almost like people don't break down if you tell them about a problem you have with them.

Jed dealt with pretty much everything this way, including stuff people specifically didn't want him to tell others. I could understand if he was a pre-teen or something but the guy was twenty at the time and from what I know still deals with his problems like this almost two years later. That's actually how he initially got on Ellen's bad side, she told him something in private and he went to tell the counsellors. After that, well, his arrogant behaviour as well as his snitching just rubbed her the wrong way. Can't say I blame her.

The most amazing part about their enemyship, though, was this: one time, Ellen wanted to visit a World War II monument in Amsterdam with an ex-friend of ours and Jed wanted to come along. Eventually because of some drama, the ex-friend didn't go so she was stuck with Jed. Ellen wanted to look around in some dumb tourist shop that sold stupid shit like clogs and all kinds of things with weed leaves on them. Jed didn't dare to enter and was apparently even scared to stand in front of the shop.

But that's not the amazing part. The amazing part was that right after they were done visiting and about to go home, Jed confessed to her that he had a crush on Ellen. Considering she could not stand him in the slightest, and considering how often they clashed on things, she was absolutely fucking baffled how to reply or why he would even fancy her and he never talked about it since. He actually did try to get with another girl, Lyra, a very nice, very traditional and kinda cute girl, though initially very restrained. She was too nice to tell him to GTFO, but over time became outspoken and since then the two of them didn't hang out a lot any more. Lyra also told me once in private she actually couldn't stand him. That made me laugh very hard.

He did eventually manage to get a girlfriend, one who is as obnoxious and arrogant as he is. One time Ellen was throwing away some dinner and the girlfriend got pissed at her, started talking about poor African children, you know the drill. I can't imagine having a girlfriend that constantly validates Jed does much good for his ego, but I haven't talked to him much since he moved out, even if he still comes over to the aspie house nearly every day. If you have nothing better to do with your life than staring at a living room wall in a house full of Autistics, go end your life. That's not a joke, he has really done that. Go into higher education or get an actual job. I say "actual" because, well, it's a sad story.

The people at the aspie house didn't want aspies to spend time in their room all day, and ten minutes away from the aspie house stood the warehouse of some webshop. The webshop and the aspie house made a deal: the aspies could come over and do some simple work, like putting together Lego sets or making simple things in Photoshop, and they even paid the aspies 1 or 2 euro an hour. The "employees" didn't actually have a contract at the place so legally it wasn't a job, but it still seems pretty shady to me. Anywho, that's where he "worked" during his free time because, as I said, he had no job or education beyond high school. He got above mediocre skills in Photoshop after some time of working with it and then decided his true calling was to become a photographer or something. He quit his "job" not too long after.

I have found his DeviantArt and his photography skills are, as you might imagine, mediocre, yet somehow he thinks others find this hobby of him interesting and noteworthy because he will talk your ears off about it if you ask. Sometimes even when you don't ask.

At least he has a girlfriend to waste time with instead of wasting time staring at walls, I suppose.

You could have just typed "I knew this one guy and he was kinda awkward" and ended it there, man

 

[Mariposa Electrique]

So that's where enbys come from.

Interestingly enough, most of the AS people I know look far younger than they actually are.

Well, neonety is not confined to just looking young, there are certain races that are more neotenous than others. Asians, Africans, and a few others that have rounder foreheads, smaller noses, pudgy faces. Asians and some Africans are very neotenous because they have live in closer proximity to each other, so they evolved to be less threatening (neotenous). I have met a lot of people that seem to defy the aging process as well, but I would not call them neotenous. While there are some savants on the autism spectrum and some high functioning people, sadly a lot of people on the spectrum are born with severe social and mental delays, which are threatening to evolution and reproduction.

 

[Jaiman]

I was diagnosed pretty young and took special ed classes until the second half of seventh grade. It's something I barely think about anymore, honestly.

 

[Brandobaris]

In all seriousness? My younger brother has autism

he's some YouTuber that rambles on for hours like an autistic.

Funny.

 

[vertexwindi]

You could have just typed "I knew this one guy and he was kinda awkward" and ended it there, man

I thought the stories were funny.

 

[feedtheoctopus]

I thought the stories were funny.

They weren't

 

[vertexwindi]

They weren't

Guess I dishonoured my ancestors then.

 

[feedtheoctopus]

Guess I dishonoured my ancestors then.

Shit happens. I did that like, three times today

 

[BurningPewter]

I was diagnosed with Asperger age 12 in 1997.

At the time I was mortified, there were other Aspie kids at the school who were complete nuts, going around with drum kits all day singing and bashing, spraying deodrant cans at people and stuff, and I didn't want to be like them.

Eventually I found cool Aspie friends through meetups groups in 2004 or so and started feeling proud.

Now I've gone full circle. With all the incel/furry whatever people online always having it I feel ashamed again.

 

[LegoTugboat]

Now I've gone full circle. With all the incel/furry whatever people online always having it I feel ashamed again.

That claim they have it, to be fair. I'd argue most of the 'autist furries/tumblr/etc' are just spastics that needed to be given a good smack as kids.

 

[BurningPewter]

thanks. The community sucks now though too. When I joined forums like wrong planet in 2004 it was full of shy artists and IT experts who wanted to talk philosophy. Now it's all loud, outrageous "misdiagnosed" bipolar people who are waiting to get re-diagnosed with the "correct diagnosis of Asperger" and are always chaotic and attention seeking.

 

[Jungle Princess]

Plenty. If you want a start, go look up "Emma" in my post history.

Aside from that... yeah, I got a few.

You ever met a rich, arrogant person who never faced real hardship, yet think they got the world figured out and hope people will someday recognize and bow down to their genius? Well, I knew someone like that, and he lived with me. And had autism. Double the fun times! Let's call him Jed because I hate that name.

So he was diagnosed with autism after suffering from a mental breakdown. The cause? Stress over his high school grades. I struggled with my HS grades sometimes but I can't see ever having a mental breakdown over them. I think he eventually did graduate, but I'm not sure.

Jed and I were occasionally capable of joking around, and I would sometimes pretend to have a huge ego for a cheap laugh, and he would join in, but it was painfully obvious as he was joking that he really thought very highly of himself. That impression was confirmed when one time he told me he really thought he was hot shit. Autists are not known for their subtlety. As you can imagine, this came up a lot during conversations, subtly and not-so-subtly, so most of the time talking to him was painful because he was always convinced he had the right opinion.

There used to be a Jehovah's witness living with us years ago. The kind of Jehovah's witness who threw a tantrum over the Christmas tree standing proudly in our hall. Jed, being an idiot, wanted to have a talk about religion with her one time. Her stubbornness combined with his ego, yeah, it went as well as you'd expect. I never got the details of what exactly went down, but after that eventual argument she never talked to Jed again. I'm not sure who I felt sorry for the most in that situation as I can't imagine debating with either one of them to be pleasant.

Jed is also vegetarian. This was a huge pain in the ass in a place where you had to learn how to cook in groups, and I was stuck in the same group as him. Eventually I gave up on trying to accommodate him because having to buy biological meat, or even vegetarian alternatives to meat, is not possible on a three euro per person budget. One time, he got so upset someone made something with meat in it, he went and did the unthinkable. You ready for this? He said "I'm not eating this" and went outside to take a walk. To calm himself down. As you can imagine this impressed exactly zero and I went back to not caring about accommodating for just his diet when I have to put food for five people on the table.

As you most likely inferred already, he's also a huge weenie. A friend of mine, who I'll call Ellen, argued with him a lot. She was a bit of a slob who left stuff lying around the shared living room. Me and some doofus once went around everyone's rooms to do a questionnaire over whether people found it annoying or not. Not to be obnoxious, but because no one living at the house actually talked with her about it. Right after we went around Jed's room to ask him, he went to the counsellors to complain and they shut it down to shut him up. We actually told Ellen about it afterwards, which she appreciated, and she since started cleaning up her crap much better. It's almost like people don't break down if you tell them about a problem you have with them.

Jed dealt with pretty much everything this way, including stuff people specifically didn't want him to tell others. I could understand if he was a pre-teen or something but the guy was twenty at the time and from what I know still deals with his problems like this almost two years later. That's actually how he initially got on Ellen's bad side, she told him something in private and he went to tell the counsellors. After that, well, his arrogant behaviour as well as his snitching just rubbed her the wrong way. Can't say I blame her.

The most amazing part about their enemyship, though, was this: one time, Ellen wanted to visit a World War II monument in Amsterdam with an ex-friend of ours and Jed wanted to come along. Eventually because of some drama, the ex-friend didn't go so she was stuck with Jed. Ellen wanted to look around in some dumb tourist shop that sold stupid shit like clogs and all kinds of things with weed leaves on them. Jed didn't dare to enter and was apparently even scared to stand in front of the shop.

But that's not the amazing part. The amazing part was that right after they were done visiting and about to go home, Jed confessed to her that he had a crush on Ellen. Considering she could not stand him in the slightest, and considering how often they clashed on things, she was absolutely fucking baffled how to reply or why he would even fancy her and he never talked about it since. He actually did try to get with another girl, Lyra, a very nice, very traditional and kinda cute girl, though initially very restrained. She was too nice to tell him to GTFO, but over time became outspoken and since then the two of them didn't hang out a lot any more. Lyra also told me once in private she actually couldn't stand him. That made me laugh very hard.

He did eventually manage to get a girlfriend, one who is as obnoxious and arrogant as he is. One time Ellen was throwing away some dinner and the girlfriend got pissed at her, started talking about poor African children, you know the drill. I can't imagine having a girlfriend that constantly validates Jed does much good for his ego, but I haven't talked to him much since he moved out, even if he still comes over to the aspie house nearly every day. If you have nothing better to do with your life than staring at a living room wall in a house full of Autistics, go end your life. That's not a joke, he has really done that. Go into higher education or get an actual job. I say "actual" because, well, it's a sad story.

The people at the aspie house didn't want aspies to spend time in their room all day, and ten minutes away from the aspie house stood the warehouse of some webshop. The webshop and the aspie house made a deal: the aspies could come over and do some simple work, like putting together Lego sets or making simple things in Photoshop, and they even paid the aspies 1 or 2 euro an hour. The "employees" didn't actually have a contract at the place so legally it wasn't a job, but it still seems pretty shady to me. Anywho, that's where he "worked" during his free time because, as I said, he had no job or education beyond high school. He got above mediocre skills in Photoshop after some time of working with it and then decided his true calling was to become a photographer or something. He quit his "job" not too long after.

I have found his DeviantArt and his photography skills are, as you might imagine, mediocre, yet somehow he thinks others find this hobby of him interesting and noteworthy because he will talk your ears off about it if you ask. Sometimes even when you don't ask.

At least he has a girlfriend to waste time with instead of wasting time staring at walls, I suppose.

That sounds more like a mental hospital to me.

 

[vertexwindi]

That sounds more like a mental hospital to me.

Hahaha, well, you should hear the stories of the people that live there nowadays. The city got involved with the aspie house's budget and as a result they've been letting in a lot of... special cases. Heavily autistic adults that have no chance of surviving outside of assisted living. Those stories would run so long you'd have a novel on your hands.

There was one guy pretending to be a Neo-Nazi for attention who did drugs on the side, another guy wants to become a girl, wears a lot of childish and girly clothes and is in a relationship with a girl who wants to become a guy, there was this guy who faked having depression for pills and was addicted to alcohol, a few incredibly smelly and disgusting slobs, etc.

 

[FuckBitchesGetRiches]

Hahaha, well, you should hear the stories of the people that live there nowadays. The city got involved with the aspie house's budget and as a result they've been letting in a lot of... special cases. Heavily autistic adults that have no chance of surviving outside of assisted living. Those stories would run so long you'd have a novel on your hands.

There was one guy pretending to be a Neo-Nazi for attention who did drugs on the side, another guy wants to become a girl, wears a lot of childish and girly clothes and is in a relationship with a girl who wants to become a guy, there was this guy who faked having depression for pills and was addicted to alcohol, a few incredibly smelly and disgusting slobs, etc.

I'm glad that you got out of there when you did, because it sounds like it went the way of a lot of non-privately run mental health institutions.

I'm not sure what it is about publicly-funded health institutions but they seem to attract people that don't really care - both staff and clients.