EU Better to have a successful man than to make a career for yourself

Woman dreams of the man who brings home the money​

25.05.2023 at 15:14
From Christian Ortner


Apparently, more young people yearn for a conservative-looking family life than published opinion would have us believe. So what?

For supporters of women's quotas, what Swiss economist Margit Osterloh and sociologist Katja Rost found in a large-scale study on "Why are women still underrepresented in top academic positions?" and recently published, is likely to be unsatisfactory.

Almost 10,000 female and male students at several universities in the greater Zurich area were surveyed. The "Neue Zürcher Zeitung" summarized the results as follows: "It's not the circumstances, it's not the men, it's because the women themselves don't feel an irrepressible desire for a full professional commitment. Even more: many female students dream of a man who brings home the money and finances the family."

If this were bad enough to cause violent gasps in the milieu of full-time women's experts, equal opportunity commissioners and quota advocates, it gets even worse: "Young women see themselves in the role of a mother who works part-time alongside her successful husband. This fits splendidly in that a good portion of the students surveyed also want a traditional family model."

Ouch - young women have been told for decades by parts of politics, the media and intellectual elites that certain lifestyles are hopelessly backward, even downright reactionary - and then this: "Many female students dream of a man who brings home the money and finances the family."

A similar survey in Austria recently came to a similar conclusion. The question was why many mothers prefer to stay at home during the first years of their child's life rather than work. The result: almost 80 percent of mothers with children under the age of one said they voluntarily stay at home because they want to and because they think it is an appropriate way of dealing with their offspring. And only seven percent, on the other hand, think that "a lack of or too expensive childcare options" is to blame for their absence from the labor market.

Now, of course, you can make fun of how many women (and men, for that matter) quite obviously have a strong need for lifestyles that are considered outdated, outmoded and reactionary, despite decades of re-education efforts by social engineers in politics and the media. One can, but it is just richly patronizing, pedantic and ultimately arrogant to women.

Perhaps it wouldn't be the worst of all ideas to stop constantly telling young women how disadvantaged they still are.

That doesn't change the fact that there is a considerable discrepancy between the ideas of women's politicians, most media people and other influencers about how women should live, and the ideas of the women concerned themselves. "That women have different preferences than men when it comes to career choices and ambitions is eye-opening." And that, as mothers, they like to spend time with their children and don't see themselves as 'unpaid care workers,' likewise. "Family makes many women happy," the "NZZ" editor scoffed.

Perhaps it would not be the worst of all ideas to stop permanently impressing upon young women how disadvantaged they still are and how it is the task of the state to use all possible and impossible methods to force a quantitative equality between men and women, whatever the cost.

Perhaps it would also be an idea to simply leave it up to women themselves to decide whether they prefer to make a career as a foreman in construction or to fish for a "man who brings home the money and finances the family." Because contrary to a widespread assumption in women's politics, there is something to be said for women being able to make this decision without being supervised by anyone.

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Study on female students at the University and ETH Zurich

Better to have a successful man than to make a career for yourself​

Two female professors have investigated the lack of representation of women in professorships. Their broad-based study in Zurich says that women are not disadvantaged, but simply have fewer professional ambitions. They also argue against quotas.

As in many areas of business, women are severely underrepresented among professorships. Why? Two renowned German professors, economist Margit Osterloh (79) and sociologist Katja Rost (47), tried to find the answer with a study in Switzerland.

For their study, reported in the "Sonntagszeitung," they asked nearly 10,000 students at the University and ETH Zurich about their career ambitions, family image, choice of partner and other topics.

The result is surprising: the reason why women are rarely found in leadership positions is not discrimination - there is no evidence for that - but that women aspire to this much less than men.

Most female students, for example, want a partner who is older and more successful than they are. If there are children, he should provide the main income, and she wants to work part-time. For the study authors, it is therefore clear that the underrepresentation is self-inflicted.

"Convincing discrimination"
At the University of Zurich, almost 60 percent of students are women, but the proportion of female professors is only 24 percent. The study says that women in so-called "women's subjects" (psychology, veterinary medicine, sociology, education) are more inclined to the traditional family image and have fewer career ambitions. Only 19 percent of them want to work full-time even with a child. This contrasts with female students in "male subjects" (physics, computer science, engineering), where 39 percent also want to work full-time with a child.

Some results also raise questions. Although no responses indicate that female students have ever experienced a disadvantage because of their gender, they answered "yes" to the specific question about being disadvantaged as a woman. Margit Osterloh: "The only way I can explain this is that women are constantly told they are being discriminated against." They have internalized this, even if they have never experienced it themselves.

Drawing lots instead of quotas
The authors also take a stand on the subject of quotas: "Quotas and other preferential treatment of women do not lead to more life satisfaction, but to discrimination against ambitious men."

However, the female professors put forward a new appointment procedure for professorships for discussion: among qualified applications, the decision should be made by lot, because many women do not like to expose themselves to competition with men. They also think it would help if the strict deadlines for female doctoral students with children were relaxed.

She was "simply blown away" when she saw the results of the study, Margit Osterloh told the Sonntagszeitung. Osterloh is the former president of the University of Zurich's Equal Opportunity Commission. The current president is study co-author Katja Rost. (gf)

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The question was why many mothers prefer to stay at home during the first years of their child's life rather than work. The result: almost 80 percent of mothers with children under the age of one said they voluntarily stay at home because they want to and because they think it is an appropriate way of dealing with their offspring.
It IS the appropriate way. Babies need their mums. How on earth are people asking this incredulously? It’s a basic human instinct to care for your babies. What is wrong with these academics?
Now, of course, you can make fun of how many women (and men, for that matter) quite obviously have a strong need for lifestyles that are considered outdated, outmoded and reactionary,
Hi ho, the silly little women wanting to do what nature has made us do for thousands of years. How stupid those women are! Not like me, I’m an academic, that’s very important dontcha know? Silly outdated women, caring for their loved ones!
My inability to keep my mouth shut when dealing with academics and their weird views was one reason why I left academia. They are insane
 
It IS the appropriate way. Babies need their mums. How on earth are people asking this incredulously? It’s a basic human instinct to care for your babies. What is wrong with these academics?
They live in a coddled world where everything is provided for them. Consider how an early 19th century woman went about getting breakfast ready.


Women were actually historically the productive member of the household, preserving the food, preparing the meals, making the clothes and so on. The husbands job was getting the food into the house, and earning money for things that could not be made by the wife at home. Required alot of work on both ends. And its been that way for tens of thousands of years until about 4 generations ago. Can't undo all that evolution with theory.
 
Being a SAHM is fine and dandy if you have a husband that is a decent person and values that raising kids is an important job too.

A lot of women are motivated to be financially independent and not focus on kids etc, because their own fathers were assholes in regards to child raising.

People forget that a lot of men do not value what their wife does when raising their kids full time. They forget the mistreatment a lot of women have gone through as SAHMs and how that impresses upon children, especially girls.
 
Being a SAHM is fine and dandy if you have a husband that is a decent person and values that raising kids is an important job too.

A lot of women are motivated to be financially independent and not focus on kids etc, because their own fathers were assholes in regards to child raising.

People forget that a lot of men do not value what their wife does when raising their kids full time. They forget the mistreatment a lot of women have gone through as SAHMs and how that impresses upon children, especially girls.
I don't think it invalidates the study. We're talking about women's aspiration, not what they have achieved. We're also talking about educated women, so a sub segment of the population.

I am not shocked at all by this statement. I have seen it happen time and time over in my personal and professional life.

Not to mention that men often like this to some extent. Being a provider is a source of pride. At least, when it goes well and you don't see your kid every other weekend.
 
People forget that a lot of men do not value what their wife does when raising their kids full time. They forget the mistreatment a lot of women have gone through as SAHMs and how that impresses upon children, especially girls.

Sure, but if you go into the workforce, nobody values you. At all.

Oh, you'll get positive feedback, some recognition, and the occasional award. "Susan is such an important part of our team! I don't know how we would get that last project done without her!" If you believe that means much of anything, good for you, but generally there's only 1 irreplaceable person on any team and odds are you aren't it. Especially if you're in a competitive, male-dominated field.

Career women are one missed deadline away from being fired and forgotten. Your resume is a thin fallback, and never a guarantee. (Just like for men.)

There's a male flip side of the underappreciation problem that I won't get into, since it's a tangent. But for both men and women, the family is supposed to be the steady, non-volatile source of fulfillment and self-worth, even if they arrive at it from different paths. There's deterrents and bad role models for both sexes, but that doesn't negate this basic fact of human nature.
 
Have these people ever stopped to consider that they're the nutjobs for embracing institutions that people can't wait to get out of? About 100% of people out there will tell you to extend your stay in school. Get a masters. Be a doctor (the useless kind). Less than 1% of them will actually pursue more years in school.

These people are very different from most. Why people would listen to them on how to go about their lives is beyond me.

I firmly believe that a large part of the past and on going ideological disasters are a result of unusual people being given an outsized voice and undeserved credibility because of the institutions they're a part of.
 
Hi ho, the silly little women wanting to do what nature has made us do for thousands of years. How stupid those women are! Not like me, I’m an academic, that’s very important dontcha know? Silly outdated women, caring for their loved ones!
Meanwhile every "Girl Boss" I've ever met is completely mentally unstable

If I'm good friends with them, or even just acquainted with them, sometimes they'll call me crying or I'll get one of those "Hey I know it's late and you're probably in bed......." type texts that really only ever comes before a mental breakdown. And this is not just 1, this is multiple women I know. All think they're independent and don't need anyone. I honestly think they got this shit fed to them and think they should mold their personality around it, because otherwise I don't know how you end up that way.
 
Being a SAHM is fine and dandy if you have a husband that is a decent person and values that raising kids is an important job too.

A lot of women are motivated to be financially independent and not focus on kids etc, because their own fathers were assholes in regards to child raising.

People forget that a lot of men do not value what their wife does when raising their kids full time. They forget the mistreatment a lot of women have gone through as SAHMs and how that impresses upon children, especially girls.
Well if it isn't the weaselly "its still men's fault" reply.
What percentage of men "People forget that a lot of men do not value what their wife does when raising their kids full time. They forget the mistreatment a lot of women have gone through as SAHMs and how that impresses upon children, especially girls" is this?
Every time some fuckwit feminist comes out of the word work with this weasel argument it turns out to be like 1%
 
Being a SAHM is fine and dandy if you have a husband that is a decent person and values that raising kids is an important job too.

A lot of women are motivated to be financially independent and not focus on kids etc, because their own fathers were assholes in regards to child raising.

People forget that a lot of men do not value what their wife does when raising their kids full time. They forget the mistreatment a lot of women have gone through as SAHMs and how that impresses upon children, especially girls.
Counter argument: Those were the men those women chose to have children with. Before you argue and say "Are you saying the men aren't responsible for their actions" Where's that old feminist argument about "Women are always great at selecting men." No.
 
Well if it isn't the weaselly "its still men's fault" reply.
What percentage of men "People forget that a lot of men do not value what their wife does when raising their kids full time. They forget the mistreatment a lot of women have gone through as SAHMs and how that impresses upon children, especially girls" is this?
Every time some fuckwit feminist comes out of the word work with this weasel argument it turns out to be like 1%
Some do treat wives badly. I’m middle aged, I work, and I have a good husband who pulls his weight domestically. Most of the people we know who are married with kids muddle along similarly. But I’ve known more than one dynamic (got two in the extended family at the moment) where the wife is basically a prisoner. One is we think being beaten and we are begging her to leave and say we will help her. The other - She’s not allowed access to money (she’s very responsible, this isn’t becasue she’s a junkie or anything) and he treats her like crap. She feels trapped because she hasn’t worked for twenty years on his insistence and he threatens her that she will never see the kids again if she leaves. He’s a gulf national so it’s not an empty threat. It’s far more common than people think.
I’ve also seen it the other way around - women tearing men down and leaving them shells,. Some people are shits, and it’s men and women both. Being trapped in a marriage with financial control, physical violence or even just constantly being treated poorly is not a good place to be and it happens to men and women. It’s not women or man hating to acknowledge this.
Previously you’d have a community to keep people somewhat in check. I’m medieval England we had the Rough Music where a wife beater would be paraded through the streets and humiliated. More recently you’d have uncles and brothers who would pay a visit and insist under threat of kicking their teeth in that the woman be treated ok. We’ve lost all the brakes on behaviour that communities provide. Seeing either your mother or your father beaten and humiliated will have a huge effect on kids.
 
The "Neue Zürcher Zeitung" summarized the results as follows: "It's not the circumstances, it's not the men, it's because the women themselves don't feel an irrepressible desire for a full professional commitment.
This study will be memory-holed when some pressure group asks why aren't there at least 50% women in the leading or otherwise lucrative position.
 
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I've said this in another thread, but with the way society is set up today, this will forever be a pipe dream for most women. Society can either be geared for women to be homemakers, or for women to be breadwinners, you cannot have a society that does both.

If women are allowed into the greater workplace all wages and prices adjust for a 2 income household at that point unless your husband is one of the top earners you will have to work whether you want to or not.

Modern men cannot fix this on their own as they have been conditioned to bow to whatever women say. Women need to decide for themselves if they want to be breadwinners or homemakers, but they need to pick one. Unironically "Which way western woman?"
 
I am castigated in my whole extended family network for having "wasted my education" and "an intellect like yours was absolutely wasted on you" and being "nothing but a parasite" because I wanted to be with my own babies. (Same folk have been happy to drop their babies on me for a shitload of time for free, mind)

Sometimes I have to remind myself that to love your infants, and want them near you, is a fairly basic human instinct rather than a psychological failing. I'm not broken and failing because I love my children and I like them near me and under my care. There's not something inherently wrong with me.

I love babies. I love mine, I love other people's. Babies are great. I like to care for them. There is a clear evolutionary reason why human society has people like me in it. It would be nice to not be castigated continually in 2023 for the harmless activity of child raising.

I can't really help that I enjoyed looking after babies more than I enjoyed adjusting commercial leases.
 
It’s far more common than people think.
I’ve also seen it the other way around
(Sorry for the truncated quote, was enforced)
Yes maybe, but to what real percentage? We have journoscum amplifying the shit out of small things for clicks that warps everyones perception. There will always be scum, but who are the majority? I state that the majority do not do the things you mention.
 
TL;DR retard feminists learn that women innately want to build a home and take care of babies, and it's horrible

Now, of course, you can make fun of how many women (and men, for that matter) quite obviously have a strong need for lifestyles that are considered outdated, outmoded and reactionary, despite decades of re-education efforts by social engineers in politics and the media. One can, but it is just richly patronizing, pedantic and ultimately arrogant to women.
Fucking hell the hubris of these parasites. The sheer chutzpah.


I wonder how many 30-something GIRL BOSS are starting to realize that doing excel and powerpoint at 2am and dealing with corporate bullshit and office backstabbing is shit and no way to live. Too bad none of them have what it takes to find a man willing to support them, and the pool becomes smaller still when you consider most of these women won't adjust their expectations.

Younger women who have yet to eat plates of corporate shit continue to go through the motions against their own better judgment.

It's OK though, excel and powerpoint can be fun if youre a SLAYING enough KWEEN to snort anxiolytics combined with chronic alcoholism and your multiple antidepressant prescriptions.

Being a SAHM is fine and dandy if you have a husband that is a decent person and values that raising kids is an important job too.

A lot of women are motivated to be financially independent and not focus on kids etc, because their own fathers were assholes in regards to child raising.

People forget that a lot of men do not value what their wife does when raising their kids full time. They forget the mistreatment a lot of women have gone through as SAHMs and how that impresses upon children, especially girls.
lol, lmao even. It's almost as if these hypothetical women you're referring to are making incorrect mating choices. It's almost as though these women are too fucking dumb to foresee the consequences of their bad choices.

It's almost as if these hypothetical women are adding compound interest to their forbears dysgenic breeding practices by neglecting their maternal duties to the children they produced with unsuitable loser men by trying to squeeze in some shit career in parallel
 
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