And speaking of, there's some thread on Reddit that I stumbled across (and forgot where it is) about some 20-year old woman wondering if a relationship with a 45 year old man is bad. One redditor claimed that her brain was still developing, and that the older man could "groom" her, as if she was still a child. Odd though that may be and aside from that sounding like BS, I doubt that Redditor would claim that if the sexes were reversed (older woman and younger man).
I'm temped to repost something I wrote about that, but I worry that'd be kitschy, so I will just paraphrase. A lot of this comes down to refusal to take accountability. Many people (but especially women) don't want to take accountability for their poor mistakes, so they'll find any excuse they can so it won't be their fault, even if they have to infantilize themselves.
Where's that post you wrote?
For some reason I thought it was in the woman hate thread. It's actually just a few pages back in this thread
What does age of consent even mean to these people anymore?
Just a suggestion, probably.
It's like when someone quits drinking and drugs and then thinks they're better than someone who never did any of that dumb shit.
I normally don't think of a teenager who has graduated high school and is 18 or 19 as vulnerable, and of course someone in high school or earlier should definitely not be in a relationship with someone past high school. However, a number of people on sites like "Bluesky" or "Discord" may not be able to comprehend why, and think rather different.
18 or 19 I'll give a little leeway to. They're just barely out of high school and don't know the real world. Like that porno actress from the 70s, from super small town Minnesota and ended up in New York or something at 18, immediately told she could be a model. Took 2 years for those scum bags to turn her from a nice shy small town girl with both parents into cokehead fucking niggers in porn before she ended up blowing her brains out at 20. MANY SUCH CASES!
Yep. Even if the 18 or 19 year olds who graduated high school are adults, they may still lack experience and that shouldn't be used against them. Also, maybe it would be for the best if being a porno actor or actress -- that is, being promiscuous as a job -- wasn't even a job in the first place. Being such is not too different from prostitution.
I'm so sick of these "sex work is real work" bullshit idiots, who often describe themselves as feminists. Even the legal porn outlets that cross every t and dot every i are exploitative as fuck. It isn't "real work," it's a "real tragedy," and the dumb cunts who push this bullshit because maybe they had an OnlyFans or otherwise camwhored in a sheltered environment are absolutely fucking over the women forced or tricked into this bullshit.
We live in a very odd time to say the least. We as a society simultaneously want there to be endless sexual expression towards every facet and perversion but at the same time we have to be incredibly puritanical to anything that expresses standard sexuality unless it in some way justifies the former. This is a self contradicting statement, but thats just the modern society view on sex. It’s even worse when you have something like these moral puritans who grand stand about every little thing regarding “objectification” of FICTIONAL women, but you know for a fact that those same people advocate and have no problem with real life minors engaging in only fans or suggestive content all for the sake of “sexual expression” even even weirder is that the people who do all that will have a porn history that makes Caligula and Nero look like shit in comparison. You have no idea how many times ive seen one of these trogs bitch about that one jeans add but at the same time they will have porn based of characters from literal preschoolers shows. hell This same thread cataloged the flame war that sparked when someone said “it’s weird to make sexual content about a character from a game made foe children”. These people have no consitincy they want to pretend to be some holier than thou people when it comes to sexualization but at the same time are some of the most degenerate gooners that live on this planet.
Oh man do they ever though. Female reddit weirdos (and also lolcow.farm) are constantly pearl-clutching over that Aaron Taylor-Johnson and his christmas cake director wife while pretending they're not just assmad that a nice older lady stole their husbando. Terminally online Gen Z women get really angry over more than four years of age difference. It really is an obsession with them.
My grand father and grand mother have a 4 age difference between them does that make them “groomers” now?
I don't think it's a contradiction or inconsistent, but a double standard. Straight male sexuality is far too often seen as "sexualization" or "objectification", while other sexuality can be seen as "empowering" and "self expression" instead. Or in other words straight "cis" men having fun can be seen as inherently "problematic" or some such BS.
He's 85? She's 81? Fucking PEDO!
You know it’s stuff like this that push men to the Andrew Tate school of treating women.
Can you imagine "pedo" and "grooming" losing all meaning (more than now)? A world where a 22 year old going out with an 18 year old was seen as "pedophilia" and "grooming"?
Man these people have such a moral panic over this, I wonder what there bought son child brides in the Middle East are.