Concerning the state of stepfathers

[Slap47]

You seem to think a tiny subculture on the internet is the real world.

Go outside.

No one ever thinks about step dads. No one says cuck.

The recent popularity of the word cuckold was the product of widely read literature like Chaucer and Shakespeare. Being a cuck has been bad for millennia in nearly every culture and blood-relations have even more so.

You're a fool if you don't think there is a stigma around weak men who take on other peoples kids for poon.

 

[ES 195]

Stepdad has went from honorable to degenerate because of a declining view of women. I would say that most men now think that single mothers are idiots who who exploit men as paypigs. This view is entirely justified and you can see this most obviously with the products of single motherhood and cuck-like relationships.

I think this is probably one of the largest contributors to the stigma. Single mothers used t be seen as poor victims as men leaving used t be the largest cause. Now that women will just up and leave with your stuff and kid over less than they used to there's way more risk involved with dealing with a woman with a kid. The fact that she will love the kid more than she will ever love you is understandable but a terrible feeling. At least when you have a kid with someone the feelings are usually mutual and you understand.

I think the only way to avoid any negatives about being a stepfather is go into the relationship with a child of your own. I've never heard of someone being a loser for dating a single mom while your a single dad.

 

[tuscangarder]

The recent popularity of the word cuckold was the product of widely read literature like Chaucer and Shakespeare. Being a cuck has been bad for millennia in nearly every culture and blood-relations have even more so.

You're a fool if you don't think there is a stigma around weak men who take on other peoples kids for poon.

Go outside and communicate with normies. No one thinks ill towards a 40 year old step dad, which are the majority of step dads.

A 23 year old getting with a girl with a kid? Yes. But that's because they view it as ruining your youth and that the girl is probably a whore. But then again, that is not a step dad.

The general populace doesn't even know what the term cuck or cuckhold means.

 

[Useless Idiot]

The recent popularity of the word cuckold was the product of widely read literature like Chaucer and Shakespeare. Being a cuck has been bad for millennia in nearly every culture and blood-relations have even more so.

You're a fool if you don't think there is a stigma around weak men who take on other peoples kids for poon.

This is the dumbest thread ever and I'm amazed people actually believe shit like this. When Chaucer used the word "cuckold" he was talking about men whose wives cheated on them or were unknowingly raising another man's child (because their wives cheated on them). This was what he meant when he wrote stories about cuckolding like The Miller's Tale and The Merchant's Tale. He wasn't talking about stepfathers.

In order to be a cuckold you have to unknowingly be cheated on or unknowingly be raising another man's child. Classic literature didn't use the world "cuckold" to describe someone who marries a woman who already has a child he knows isn't his.

I can't think of anything more pseudo-intellectual than wrongly name-dropping Geoffrey Chaucer to try and justify your weird, right-wing NEET disdain for stepdads. If you're going to name drop Shakespeare and Chaucer as justification for bizarre image board conservatism, at least try reading their work first instead of using a cliff notes version you got from 4Chan.

 

[PBJ Sucks]

Women being hoes is not the only cause of, or problem with, single motherhood. This thread is a hotbed of incel logic. You all need to go outside and put down the internet.

 

[Lemmingwise]

Stepdad has went from honorable to degenerate because of a declining view of women.

You mean declining view of men or declining value of women. The rest of your comment makes more sense that way.

You can consider a child yours and not be its biological parent

You can consider it's yours, but it's not yours. Even adoption has a stronger bond than stepfather, as there is nobody outranking you in that instance.

 

[The best and greatest]

Being a stepfather is only a joke when the stepfather is obviously insecure about it. So someone like MundaneMatt basically.

 

[Lemmingwise]

No it's literally an internet meme. If you spend any amount of time outside of 4chan and here, out in the world, literally nobody cares. It is a small section of predominantly young internet users that themselves aren't anywhere close to actually settling down with a woman

It's one of those things that a lot of people know, but don't really talk about. What do I care if a random guy picks up another guy's shit?

But any guy that heads a household started by another, I find it hard not to think about that. He has no authority over the kids. They always have the "your not my real father" card. Most of the time the mother will be irresponsible (or she would have chosen a more reliable father).

Regardless of what internet memes say, men avoid dating single mothers and as such, those that end up dating them are sensibly looked down on for shooting fish in a barrel and making do with the scaps that other men weren't interested in picking off the floor. The difference is that online these thoughts and judgements are amplified and exagerated, but it's not like nobody thinks them.

 

[Ughubughughughughughghlug]

This is the dumbest thread ever and I'm amazed people actually believe shit like this. When Chaucer used the word "cuckold" he was talking about men whose wives cheated on them or were unknowingly raising another man's child (because their wives cheated on them). This was what he meant when he wrote stories about cuckolding like The Miller's Tale and The Merchant's Tale. He wasn't talking about stepfathers.

In order to be a cuckold you have to unknowingly be cheated on or unknowingly be raising another man's child. Classic literature didn't use the world "cuckold" to describe someone who marries a woman who already has a child he knows isn't his.

I can't think of anything more pseudo-intellectual than wrongly name-dropping Geoffrey Chaucer to try and justify your weird, right-wing NEET disdain for stepdads. If you're going to name drop Shakespeare and Chaucer as justification for bizarre image board conservatism, at least try reading their work first instead of using a cliff notes version you got from 4Chan.

Yeah, people seem to have forgotten the original meaning of the word. The Alt-Right picked it up as a metaphor, that supporting minorities with welfare or Israel with favors or stuff like that was LIKE you're raising somebody else's child.

But then the word just degenerated into something roughly equivalent to "somebody I dislike."

 

[L50LasPak]

I think the reason a lot of kids don't end up doing well with step parents is because of the broken home issue in the first place. If the kids are young when the breakup occurs, they probably don't understand why some weirdo is now moving in on their lives. One the other hand, older kids are more likely to be rebellious and ignore the authority of the stepdad. At the very least, most stepkids who are around teenaged when a parent remarries probably still feel like their step parent is a stranger even if they have an amicable opinion of them.

I'm not really a big proponent of traditional marraige though since obviously a system where over half of the marraiges fail probably has flaws other than women just being ungrateful bitches. The cuck meme is probably an instinctive reaction to this stuff, especially on the part of younger people still coping with that episode in their family life.

 

[Slap47]

This is the dumbest thread ever and I'm amazed people actually believe shit like this. When Chaucer used the word "cuckold" he was talking about men whose wives cheated on them or were unknowingly raising another man's child (because their wives cheated on them). This was what he meant when he wrote stories about cuckolding like The Miller's Tale and The Merchant's Tale. He wasn't talking about stepfathers.

In order to be a cuckold you have to unknowingly be cheated on or unknowingly be raising another man's child. Classic literature didn't use the world "cuckold" to describe someone who marries a woman who already has a child he knows isn't his.

I can't think of anything more pseudo-intellectual than wrongly name-dropping Geoffrey Chaucer to try and justify your weird, right-wing NEET disdain for stepdads. If you're going to name drop Shakespeare and Chaucer as justification for bizarre image board conservatism, at least try reading their work first instead of using a cliff notes version you got from 4Chan.

I was responding to a comment about "nobody using the word cuck outside of 4chan". Its used outside of 4chan by lots of people but its used differently just as is the case with 4chan. Characters like Othello and the Carpenter responded with rage to believing they were getting cucked by trying to get revenge. I understand that the whole point of the word is that they don't know but everybody else does - the invisible horns, etc. You're just wrong if you think its only 4chan that uses the word. 4Chan embracing the word was part of society as a whole bringing back the word.
Also, you don't actually have to be raising a child. The term just refers to being cheated on in general.

I also do not hate stepdads. I think it takes alot of inner strength to overcome the desire to raise your own blood. I made a distinction between people who become fathers and truly care for their kids and people who tolerate the kids for poon.

And yes, people do prefer to raise their own blood in nearly every culture. The examples of Augustus and Japanese businessmen are exceptions that either existed under a very specific set of circumstances or at extremely brief times in history. Augustus had sons ready to be emperors but he outlived them. Japanese businessmen give their blood-children preferences unless they're absolute fuckups who would obviously run their business into the ground or they have no kids.

 

[tuscangarder]

People here don't seem to realize the reason most step dads exist is because the older you get it becomes increasingly harder to find a woman without a child. Most 35-40 yr old women have at least one kid. The ones that don't usually have something wrong with them. (Not always, but it can be an indication) The man usually has a child by this point as well.

None of this has to do with being cucked.

 

[queerape]

In reality, divorces happen, spouses/partners die, partners can be abusive to their partner or child etc, and if you love someone and love that child and are willing to help parent that child, there is no harm in it. Being a stepfather alone is not a cause to think someone is a cuck.

But, if you are a woman who sleeps around, you have to be realistic about the possibility of pregnancy. You have access to birth control and condoms. And even if those fail, abortion is an option (albeit there are access difficulties in some states and provinces, but most de facto bans of abortion fail on appeal). Sleep around all you like, you have ways to prevent pregnancy and in the event you do get pregnant, you do not have to carry to term. That being said, should you choose to carry to term, your choice has consequences and you have to take more responsibility than you would. You have to figure out how to provide for this child, and accept the fact that yes, you will not be a first choice for most men, including most men that would be your first choice, so you may have to lower your standards. If this is too much for you to handle, if you'd rather not worry about child support/putting education career on hold/being less able to find a partner to your liking, then you had your chance to choose birth control; you had your chance to have an abortion.

Pro-choice means pro-responsibility, as there is no choice, no freedom without responsibility.