Culture Could YOU be a lesbian and not know it? TikTok trend sees users post checklists

Could YOU be a lesbian and not know it? TikTok trend sees users post checklists​

By Jessica Green For Mailonline 04:34 EDT 03 Sep 2021 , updated 04:36 EDT 03 Sep 2021
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A viral trend claims to educate women who believe they are attracted to men but have only been socially conditioned into thinking they are heterosexual.

Compulsory heterosexuality, colloquially known as ‘comphet’, is a term used to describe the belief that Western culture has coerced women into trying to view all connections between men and women as sexual or romantic.

The argument is all women have been conditioned from childhood to view any feelings they have towards men as attraction - with some authors even going so far as to say all females are actually lesbian by nature.

TikTok users are now sharing checklists to help women work out if they are bisexual or lesbian, posting clips with the hashtag ‘comphet’.

A viral TikTok trend claims to educate women who believe they are attracted to men but have only been socially conditioned into thinking they are heterosexual. Pictured, TikTok user Capri Campeau, who dubs herself the 'fairy bi-mother' is among those who have shared a list
Viewers are challenged to ask themselves a list of questions to see how they respond.

The lists include questions such as: 'Am I only attracted to celebrities or other unattainable men?' and 'Do you like guys until they like you back?'

Could YOU be affected by 'compulsory heterosexuality'? Answer these questions to find out​

It is claimed if you answer 'yes' to these questions then you are not actually attracted to men, but have simply been conditioned to think that you are.

1. Are you only attracted to celebrities or other unattainable men?

2. Do you like men until they like you back?

3. Have you kissed girl friends for 'practice'?

4. Do you feel bored or nauseous when intimate with men?

5. Do you enjoy hanging out with men until they flirt?

If you answer yes to these, then you are supposedly a lesbian or bisexual, according to the users.

One video on the topic, by Marin-Elizabeth, which had more than 80,000 likes, claimed to reveal the 'common signs of compulsory heterosexuality'.

These include: 'Liking guys until they like you back, only liking fictional men and celebrities, kissing your girl friends when you were younger to "practise for guys" and feeling bored when intimate with guys.'

'Feeling nauseous when intimate with guys and love hanging out with them until they flirt (even when you're dating),' were other signs mentioned.

The term was coined by lesbian feminist Adrienne Rich in her 1980 essay ‘Compulsory Heterosexuality and the Lesbian Experience’, according to .

Rich argued that heterosexuality is a political institution in which women are oppressed by men.

The author suggested everyone - including women themselves - are naturally attracted to women, while attraction to men is learned.

But while usage of the term online continues to grow, it isn’t without controversy, with some suggesting the phrase has been used to ‘exclude and invalidate other queer women, particularly trans and bisexual women.’

According to Cosmopolitan, the popularity of the term compulsory heterosexuality is possibly due to the viral 30-page Google Doc about lesbianism which went viral last year.

TikTok users including Marin-Elizabeth, 22, believed to be from the US, have been sharing their lists of questions women need to ask themselves to determine if they're not heterosexual
Angeli Luz, 21, created the document when questioning her own sexuality before anonymously publishing a public link to it in January 2018.

The 30-page text explores how societal conditioning can lead lesbians to have conflicting feelings and attraction toward men.

'I realised I loved women when I was a teenager, but I never quite knew if my attraction for men was real or a social construct I took in as a facet of my identity,' Luz told .

'I started researching compulsory heterosexuality and found that many lesbians had the same experiences I did. I created the document as a tool of self-reflection for myself and others.'

It begins with a section explaining compulsory heterosexuality - and Luz later notes that 'many lesbians STILL struggle with compulsory heterosexuality even when they know they don’t want men.'

According to Cosmopolitan, the popularity of the term compulsory heterosexuality is possibly due to the viral 30-page Google Doc about lesbianism which went viral last year (pictured)

 

[FlappyBat]

How mentally fucked up are you that you define being a lesbian in terms of your relationship with men.

Terfs, clean up on aisle 7. Femcels are your domain.

 

[Cyclonus]

I answered three out of five yes and I'm a man.

 

[sadbird]

I can tell you by the stunning and overwhelming amount of BL and Yaoi that this will never, ever be fucking true.

 

[Queen Elizabeth II]

How bigoted, this isn't inclusive of non cisgendered people.

We need to cancel these facist whores ASAP

 

[round robin]

Ya know, I hadn't considered it. Maybe I *am* a lesbian...

 

[EnemyStand]

I have a quicker one:

1. Do you become sexually aroused by other women?

If you answer yes, you're a lesbian. For more groundbreaking work, check out my Are You Gay? checklist!

 

[T0oCoolFool]

But while usage of the term online continues to grow, it isn’t without controversy, with some suggesting the phrase has been used to ‘exclude and invalidate other queer women, particularly trans and bisexual women.’

Lol I just knew reading the article, at some point troons being butthurt about this would be brought up.

 

[AHAHAHAHAHAHA]

Daily Mail article?

 

[Toolbox]

I answered three out of five yes and I'm a man.

Was gonna say "how long do you think it will take for this to be coopted by true and honest women". There's some trannies that get inspired by literal memes so I would not doubt articles like this don't help.

 

[Picnic_Boy]

Here's a few questions for the male equivalent:

Does talking with women sometimes make you nervous?

Do you dislike being nagged?

Have you ever wanted to just hang out with the guys instead of watching a chick flick with your lady friend?

Can you shake another man's hand without feeling disgust?

Do you ever play as male characters in fighting games?


CONGRATULATIONS. You are actually gay and cock is your only god.

 

[Sexy Senior Citizen]

Ah, an "all women are secretly lesbians" article.

 

[Amber the Hedgehog]

Well I'm bisexual woman so this check list should be pretty easy match. Let's give it a go.

1. Are you only attracted to celebrities or other unattainable men?

No. I used to be when I was a teen but then I grew up and started deal with real life.

2. Do you like men until they like you back?

No. Sometimes I loose interest on a guy when I get to know him but that's kinda the point of dating. To find out if there is anything beyond the surface attraction.

3. Have you kissed girl friends for 'practice'?

Are there actually people who do this IRL? So no, never.

4. Do you feel bored or nauseous when intimate with men?

Bored? Sometimes. That happens for alot of reasons from stuff taking too long or me having one of those days when nothing really holds my intrest. Nauseous? No. If I'm feeling nauseous I never go for anything intimate in the first place. That's just a basic life skill of not getting others sick or being uncomfortable when you're sick.

5. Do you enjoy hanging out with men until they flirt?

Depends on the guy. There are guys that I definitely want to flirt with me and guys that I really don't care for in that sense. Still if that happens I can just turn them down and so far all the guys I have turned down have been cool about it. So not a big deal, just awkward.

So yeah, I'm not convinced about this. I think most women who like guys till it gets real are genuinely attracted to men but just have issues that prevent them turning their dreams into reality. Be it mental health related like anxiety disorders or going after the wrong dudes. No wonder so many lesbians have no sex life until they meet a nice guy and somehow make that work.

 

[FlappyBat]

Here's a few for the male equivalent:

Does talking with women sometimes make you nervous?

Do you dislike being nagged?

Have you ever wanted to just hang out with the guys instead of watching a chicken flick with your lady friend?

CONGRATULATIONS. You are actually gay and cock is your only god.

You make dick sucking seem like a promising alternative.

 

[Corpun]

Don't most modern women addicted to social media claim they are bi for internet fame and to feel good about themselves? This is another shitty trend that will go no where because this is the same shit as "OMG I kissed Stacey at that party while I was drunk. I must be bi or something!"

 

[Just Another Apocalypse]

Are you a female to wants to fuck females?

9 words.

 

[Zero Day Defense]

They're indoctrinating themselves in public view. Also, I reckon most lesbians are LUGs, fujos with no history of male interaction, and self-hating dykes.

You make dick sucking seem like a promising alternative.

Boys were lied to about women for decades as prominent social forces denigrated-- and even undermined-- masculinity and brotherhood. You'll likely expect someone whose only distinguishing factor from a man is the fact that they have different reproductive machinery, but men and women truly are multifariously different. You're on your own learning this-- the average chump hardly ever does, and so they're behind in learning to appreciate women for what they are... meanwhile, the average woman is continually being socially engineered to be more worthless or otherwise unhelpful to a man, so really, it's less that the average guy is behind in understanding what they need to about women and more that society's being engineered into a "great divorce" of the sexes.

Just like second wave feminism intended. Well, partly-- it ultimately desires the "overthrow" of men.

If you don't understand what's happening in the slightest, your front line of coping may involve things like... tomboy fetishism. You overextend "some male socializing skills" into "she's like one of the guys so I'm super comfortable with her, but I can have sex with her and not be gay so she's basically the Überfrau". And while this may very well be true, she's a woman nonetheless, and your failure to understand this will be at your moderate to severe consternation.

 

[Atatata]

The author suggested everyone - including women themselves - are naturally attracted to women, while attraction to men is learned.

Pretty sure more than one homo gagged at this sentence.

 

[Mealy Mouth Spittle]

If we successfully compelled them to be heterosexual, we can re-educate them to like the opposite sex again. I don't think pushing the narrative that sexuality can be changed is going to work out for the gays. The whole argument for acceptance was "born that way" and it can't be changed. If you can be changed, there's really no need to be tolerant. Just start the whole conversion therapy up again and we'll be able to have a June that doesn't look like a leprechaun vomited all over everything.

 

[TowinKarz]

Once again, I'm not surprised everything the social engineers told me as a teen has now been reversed, I'm only shocked at how fast and militant the transition was.

"Homosexuality is not learned, it's how you're born" is, once again, being reframed as "Homosexuality is learned, and only bigots and sexists refuse to"