Cure for Gender Dysphoria?

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Viv

Viv

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I post on here once in a while but this time im really looking for someone to talk to about this. i have horrible GD and my life has been a living hell since a can remember. Transitioning and moving on would be impossible for me. Not only anatomically but i also dont have the delusional mindset or self righteousness that a lot of people who are transitioning do. My body will never look anything other than male but i just cant take it. if i had a change at transition i would do it and move on. maybe never talk about it. but im left here, a grown man who is so repulsed by his own body he cant function.

If anyone knows anything on the subject please comment. Whenever i hear or read gender critical/people who dont like trannies opinions on GD its either "kill them all" or "Go to therapy and it will solve your GD ". But is that even possible? regardless of what u all think about the subject, living with dysphoria feels like hell on earth, especially if youre very aware and not delusional. Its obviously a mental illness but sometimes i wonder if its some karmic punishment lol bc theres really no way to go. I have no peace of mind. its 24 hours of heart racing and feeling horrible. ive exhausted every option to change my mindset . since i cant transition, I wanna be ok with being a man. but the way ive always felt about my body is crippling. the description of how bad it is could go on forever but ill stop. So, how can someone cope/ live with/ cure dysphoria as bad as mine? I want to get the idea of transition out of my head.

there are gonna be a bunch of evil freaks responding to this but whenever i post, theres always that one person who actually cares. so if ur familiar with the subject or wanna talk hit me up. sorry for my english btw.
 
genuine answer? a lot of it is permanent childhood trauma and even with therapy it doesn't permanently go away.
i'd say do what you can without looking like a freak of nature. let your feminine side out in decent ways.
 
Neurotypical Mantis said:
genuine answer? a lot of it is permanent childhood trauma and even with therapy it doesn't permanently go away.
i'd say do what you can without looking like a freak of nature. let your feminine side out in decent ways.
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ive been to therapy and with every effor i cant find anything traumatic happening to me. I had a pretty calm childhood, I can believe ill have to live with this.
 
Remind yourself how it's all a lie, there's no such thing as transitioning to another gender, just mutilating yourself and putting on shitty women minstrel outfits in the hopes that you'll fool people into your lie long enough

Remind yourself that it doesn't fucking matter, everyone dies in the end, there are easier ways to kill yourself than protracted navel-gazing self harm and becoming a pitiable sideshow to everyone in your life.

You need to stop obsessing over your dick and actually do things. When you think about how you hate your cock remind yourself that it's all you got and it serves a purpose and nothing more. Maybe find Jesus.

Troonism is a self absorbed pattern of thinking about yourself all the damned time and pitying yourself and playing make believe. You need to do something with your life if you're in the position of finding your own mortal being the most fascinating part of this big world.
 
thyme said:
Remind yourself how it's all a lie, there's no such thing as transitioning to another gender, just mutilating yourself and putting on shitty women minstrel outfits in the hopes that you'll fool people into your lie long enough

Remind yourself that it doesn't fucking matter, everyone dies in the end, there are easier ways to kill yourself than protracted navel-gazing self harm and becoming a pitiable sideshow to everyone in your life.

You need to stop obsessing over your dick and actually do things. When you think about how you hate your cock remind yourself that it's all you got and it serves a purpose and nothing more. Maybe find Jesus.

Troonism is a self absorbed pattern of thinking about yourself all the damned time and pitying yourself and playing make believe. You need to do something with your life if you're in the position of finding your own mortal being the most fascinating part of this big world.
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Ofc an *actual* transition doesnt exist, but i dont think this denies it. My feeling def arent as negative but ive felt (sorry for the cliche) trapped in my body long before i knew what trans was. im not self obsessed, but im in pain and when ur in that state, its the only thing one can think of. I wanna move on and experience the world. But not while barely making it through every night. " ignoring it" is childish cuz its obviously not gonna go away, regardless of how big my dick is lol.
 
Ok so assuming you are being honest. Eh hemmm there is currently no treatment for preventing or stopping gender dysphoria.. there are several reasons for this not just it's illegal to. As a person who is completely insane but passes as normal irl I can only help in repression tactics.

So the first thing is to try to figure out which source does your dysphoria come from. Because sexuality is a very fragile thing there are various ways a person can be broken and become damaged into a warped personality and sexuality.

The most common is sexual abuse or being exposed to sexual content at an early age. The other is being physically or psychologically abused at an early age with no real moments of living out ones childhood. And the last is susceptibility, were you just socially inept growing up in a normal family then during puberty you developed dysphoria?

1 and 2 can be combated by therapy. If you are 3 it is much harder.

There was an experiment conducted on two male twins. One twin was castrated at birth and given hormones to be raised as a girl. Her whole life she said she felt different and that she felt like a man trapped in a girl's body. When she got older she found out what they did to him and he killed himself soon after.

Which leads to the theory that there is something in our brain that tells us what sex we are. Think of it as phantom limb. You know it's there despite it not. Same with your sex you know you are one thing even if you are not. And because birth defects are very common, it's possible we have a defect since birth.

It is also possible that the defect can be triggered by an agent. Meaning we can develop dysphoria by certain chemical triggers like the hormonal shifts during puberty or even the residual hormones found in drinking water.

I have also found that having a gender identity disorder does not immediately mean you have dysphoria or have to have. I have noticed that most dysphoria has its roots more in line with OCD and depression. And typically if you resolve those issues dysphoria goes away but not the gender identity disorder. While some can find there gender identity disorder gone by working on trauma, not everyone is the same.

And because no one's really working on a chemical treatment for gender identity disorders, there are really no real methods of combating 3.

The only thing that can aid you is drinking reverse osmosis or distilled water and exercising as way to detox some residual agents. But that can only go so far. After that you have to find something to give yourself self worth and find a way to get closure from it all.

Sorry if it all sounds like nonsense.
 
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Some people with gender dysphoria were successfully treated with pimozide in the 1990's before it became polittically incorrect to try to help people by making them normal. It's a strong antipsychotic that's also used for Tourette syndrome.
 
You can start by not calling it gender dysphoria. You're not dysphoric, you're socially anxious. You feel anxiety about your masculine appearance or mannerisms. Dysphoric is more incongruence, when your perception of your appearance does not match up with reality. Dysphoria is when an 80 lb. girl with anorexia looks at herself and thinks how grossly fat she is.

To use another metaphor, social anxiety is looking outside and seeing a cloudy sky. Dysphoria is looking outside and seeing a purple polka dot sky.

Try this as an experiment: If you can look in the mirror and recognize your reflection as "yes, that is what I look like", you're not dysphoric.

When you categorize these feelings as "gender dysphoria", you look yourself in to transition being the only remedy and close yourself off to any other possibility, and even then it doesn't work. You'll never be feminine "enough". At best you will get a temporary high from dissociating yourself from your anxiety, and then you'll need another hit. Eventually this builds dependence on external validation and you'll need bigger doses to feel relief, like a drug addict would.

A lot of people have hang-ups and insecurities about their appearance, especially in adolescence, when your body is changing rapidly and your hormones are out of control, and your brain hasn't caught up to your maturing body. It's an awkward and uncomfortable time of life, but these feelings are very common and temporary.

It's tempting to simply call your bad feelings "gender dysphoria" because it gives you an easy solution and a sense of control, as well as a network of emotional support. However, I strongly caution you against relying on people with such a conditional type of friendship; time and time again we have seen them turn on those who contradict their narrative. Do not trade short-term relief for letting the root of your problem go untreated.

I agree that the first step is being able to really look at these feelings and understanding where they come from. Try taking an emotional inventory once or twice a day, and really notice what you are feeling. Is it fear? Shame? Anger?Once you have a better understanding of what you are feeling, think about where these feelings come from.


Disclaimer: I'm not a therapist, this should not be interpreted as medical advice.
 
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