I found this video reasonable and largely on point. Someone needed to say it!
I picked some comments from under the video which only extend the pointless "more ammo" debate. However some people were insightful.
Pizzagateisreal commented 3 times under the same video by the way and these are not all of the dented comments I saw.
Very special "debate" going on in the comments indeed
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