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Gravityqueen4life said:
long distant relationship NEVER works unless you already had a real relationship before. back in middle school, when chat room started to become a thing, a friend of mine got a "girlfriend" like that and i remember saying "how can you like a girl if you never met her face to face?".
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You'd be surprised how that mindset can extend into adulthood.

When I was a right proper teenager with about a year's experience on the internet, I ran an experiment that you might well recognise today as catfishing - I made a hotmail account and dressed it up as some 20-something punk girl with a series of public-domain thot pictures that looked somewhat similar, then unleashed it on omegle and other chat sites. I was trying to see how long the illusion would last for - how much could a man's lust blind him?

It worked very well. I managed to snare a few desperate men who took my public-domain avatar as real and didn't question the photos I sent them. Kik was the main way we talked and in retrospect it should have been obvious that I was just a bored autistic teenager but with the right amount of C-tier acting and coquetry you can convince any horny bastard of anything (though to be fair it was obvious some of them were Indians, and you know how they are). I never revealed the ruse to any of them and I quietly shut down the account a year later. I can't even remember the email I used.
 
Gravityqueen4life said:
long distant relationship NEVER works unless you already had a real relationship before. back in middle school, when chat room started to become a thing, a friend of mine got a "girlfriend" like that and i remember saying "how can you like a girl if you never met her face to face?".
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They can. I know of relationships that started online, remained online for a period (up to over a year) before going offline and are more successful than most people who meet in real life (still together after a number of years). Empirically, long-term success is associated with meeting in real life sooner rather than later, though (because idealisation is a massive problem in these situations, not to mention being unable to gage real life compatibility so people meet and it's just awkward as fuck).
 
Mold Munch said:
Dated a guy for half a year, then one night he texted me with a confession that he had been molesting his 12 year old cousin and wore her underwear. Haven't dated since.
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…Oof.

Why did he confess that to you? Just felt it was the next step in the relationship?
 
Least Concern said:
…Oof.

Why did he confess that to you? Just felt it was the next step in the relationship?
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Idk tbh, I think he knew it was fucked up and wanted some sort of validation from me that it was okay because he kept saying shit like "it's normal right?" I told him I'm not okay with it and we broke up, at the time I didn't do anything about it because he was the type to threaten to kill himself. Honestly the one thing I am most ashamed of is not doing something to help her
 
I asked a girl out by telling her I'm not an axe murderer and would like to take her to a graveyard. She got excited and asked if she could pick the graveyard.

We went out a couple of times, until I confessed I wasn't attracted to her. She sighed in relief as it was mutual. I ended up dating her sister and she ended up dating a friend of mine and for a time things were pretty good.

Gravityqueen4life said:
long distant relationship NEVER works unless you already had a real relationship before.
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I know people that married across country, and only knew each other through LoL. It's good advice in general, but there are exceptions.
 
Lemmingwise said:
I asked a girl out by telling her I'm not an axe murderer and would like to take her to a graveyard. She got excited and asked if she could pick the graveyard.

We went out a couple of times, until I confessed I wasn't attracted to her. She sighed in relief as it was mutual. I ended up dating her sister and she ended up dating a friend of mine and for a time things were pretty good.
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No offense but if someone approached me and opened with "I wont kill you" and then took me to a graveyard I would assume the fetal position and cry.

p.s. how do I leave reactions I was only born a few hours ago.
 
Mold Munch said:
No offense but if someone approached me and opened with "I wont kill you" and then took me to a graveyard I would assume the fetal position and cry.

p.s. how do I leave reactions I was only born a few hours ago.
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That's why it's funny that it worked.

Also I'd never tell a girl I won't kill her. I'd say "I probably won't kill you"
 
Gravityqueen4life said:
long distant relationship NEVER works unless you already had a real relationship before. back in middle school, when chat room started to become a thing, a friend of mine got a "girlfriend" like that and i remember saying "how can you like a girl if you never met her face to face?".
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I’ve been in an LDR, though I was 25 and experienced. Even I’m not entirely sure if I would do it again and start online. That being said, there were a lot of transferable skills to starting and maintaining my current relationship in quarantine.
 
In August of 2006, a girl drove up to NH from Florida to meet me in person. We'd already been talking online/over the phone for more than a year. We'd grown close. She had been with a guy, but had broken up with him not long before she made the trip to see me. I was a lot more naive then, and too trusting. I had never had a girlfriend, and it all happened so quickly and I was swept up into it. We spent five days together before she had to head home, as her accrued vacation time was nearly up. A few months later, around November, she tells me she's decided to go back to the guy she had dumped. This, of course, made me feel like the world's biggest fucking tool. She conveniently waited until she was 1,500 miles away from me, of course. Typical female cowardice. As I eventually learned later on, she and this guy had quite the history. She would leave him, try dating other people, and then eventually crawl back to him. In a weird way, I felt some measured relief-knowing it wasn't anything I said or did that prompted her "change of heart". Still, I sank into a deep depression and began to drink heavily. From how she described him, he sounded extremely immature and neglectful. But, in her silly, stupid female "logic", she figured she could change him. At this point, most guys would have cut all contact immediately. But I didn't. She would call me every night, and we'd talk. But there came a point where I finally sort of woke up, and realized she was using me for all the emotional support this other asshole didn't provide. He got to fuck her-I got to provide the shoulder for her to cry on. She would make all these bizarre comments that strongly hinted she didn't know what she really wanted, and that she still thought about me a great deal. And that maybe she was regretting her decision to return to this guy, as he really hadn't changed at all. One night, I put it to her straight-it was him, or me. I gave her one chance to come clean. She didn't. And eventually, I was too disgusted with her (and myself for being party to her deception, of even enabling it) to keep up the charade any longer and I stopped talking to her. It soured me on internet "relationships" and women in general. I vowed never to put myself in that sort of situation ever again.
 
Had an abusive ex who liked to hit me n sabotage birth control in an attempt to force me to stay with her.

Had one ex who'd always beg me to give her baccy and weed for a fuck.

One was 30 years old, a known paedo cuz she dated a 15 yo and had some sort of weird fetish for my mental illness. I was 17 then

One who accused me of being too controlling all because I asked her to not vandalise people's cars by snapping the wipers whilst I was there. (yes seriously, total psycho n slut. The day I met her she immediately was all over me like a bad rash)

Most recent ex before my current relationship was just so cold. Not temperature wise but emotionally she was basically dead. I swear there was nothing behind the eyes. Soulless container. Ex model so probably abyoos'd so makes sense.

There's a few more but they all follow a similar story. I know they say if a pattern emerges then look inwards but no I just seem to attract and am attracted to crazy.

Current girlfriend though is great, it's a semi new relationship but it's going incredibly well. Fell asleep holding each other last night and got very abruptly woken up by my cat rocketing herself through the slidey door and onto the bed. You've never seen me jump higher lool
 
VIVIsectVI said:
In August of 2006, a girl drove up to NH from Florida to meet me in person. We'd already been talking online/over the phone for more than a year. We'd grown close. She had been with a guy, but had broken up with him not long before she made the trip to see me. I was a lot more naive then, and too trusting. I had never had a girlfriend, and it all happened so quickly and I was swept up into it. We spent five days together before she had to head home, as her accrued vacation time was nearly up. A few months later, around November, she tells me she's decided to go back to the guy she had dumped. This, of course, made me feel like the world's biggest fucking tool. She conveniently waited until she was 1,500 miles away from me, of course. Typical female cowardice. As I eventually learned later on, she and this guy had quite the history. She would leave him, try dating other people, and then eventually crawl back to him. In a weird way, I felt some measured relief-knowing it wasn't anything I said or did that prompted her "change of heart". Still, I sank into a deep depression and began to drink heavily. From how she described him, he sounded extremely immature and neglectful. But, in her silly, stupid female "logic", she figured she could change him. At this point, most guys would have cut all contact immediately. But I didn't. She would call me every night, and we'd talk. But there came a point where I finally sort of woke up, and realized she was using me for all the emotional support this other asshole didn't provide. He got to fuck her-I got to provide the shoulder for her to cry on. She would make all these bizarre comments that strongly hinted she didn't know what she really wanted, and that she still thought about me a great deal. And that maybe she was regretting her decision to return to this guy, as he really hadn't changed at all. One night, I put it to her straight-it was him, or me. I gave her one chance to come clean. She didn't. And eventually, I was too disgusted with her (and myself for being party to her deception, of even enabling it) to keep up the charade any longer and I stopped talking to her. It soured me on internet "relationships" and women in general. I vowed never to put myself in that sort of situation ever again.
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Bretty gud story and I coomed to it.
 
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