Debate User @Vingle on why the Chads don't want to push his shit in - lol gaycel

Vingle said:
I can certainly shut my mouth, but I dunno what to do about the eyes.
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Have you considered ripping them out of your face? A daring fashion statement it is, but shows your commitment to shocking novelty.
 
Vingle said:
Ewan, are you jealous of the guy I plan to meet? This comments sounds a bit extreme coming from you.
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Can't a man snark about the statement "I dunno what to do about the eyes"? What is this, Russia?
 
Vingle said:
I would rather read something from a English speaking author, so I can get better at English. My language is is decent, but I despise Norwegian and it is basically not used anywhere outside of Norway. Because of my lifestyle and only consuming media in English, I've gotten less good at my fluency in Norwegian. Basically a harder time to think up the fitting word
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Well, there are a billion books written in English/by native English speakers. What have you read that you enjoyed?

That said, excellent translators can cconvey the same style/vibe as the original. I mentioned above that Haruki Murakami is one of my contemporary faves. He himself speaks very little English, but his English-translated books capture his style, which is unique and quite beautiful.

Your English is very good, but yes, reading in a second/more language, especially reading well-written literature, will improve your language facility, especially increasing more "advanced" skills. None of which is to say reading in your native tongue is bad. All reading of quality literature is a positive. But if you think it must be in English, then I'm back to my first question above.

Vingle said:
Never said I was nice, it's a byproduct by being treated like shit all my life *Shrugs*
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I said nothing about being "nice," merely that being contemptuous and insulting while in a self-admitted internal struggle situation makes you more off-putting than would help you attain what you desire.

But do know that - though I take you at your word you have had negative experiences in your foundational/developmental years, and I am empathetic about that - there are a number of things you describe as unfairly against you that really don't sound different than life in general. It may be hard to comprehend/accept that though you may (?) be somewhat exceptional, you are not quite so unique as you think.

But that aside: generally speaking, we all get fucked over at times. There are a few ways to react/respond to that. Some crumple. Some get angry and cynical (you, it seems). Some channel that energy to being better.

TL; DR: shitty upbringing doesn't mean switching off is the only or better choice.

Vingle said:
And pretending I'm fine having a shit life, is lunacy.
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Oh ffs, what is so shit about your life now that isn't within your control to improve?

And if you reject obvious and proven approaches to improvement, then you're just being deliberately contrary, and at that point, it's on you.

Vingle said:
usually people instantly block me when I show face in chat. While I'm a pretty boi, I don't have that regular manly look. I easy get bait with my body though.
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Here's a thought: drop the shit and present yourself as you. And if "you" isn't something you're comfortable presenting, maybe that tells you that change is good.

All I'm seeing is you saying "I want someone to love," and "I only want to find it using the cheapest (not financially, but value-wise) methods and filters." As I've said, you're creating your own outcome.
 
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Friend of Dorothy Parker said:
Well, there are a billion books written in English/by native English speakers. What have you read that you enjoyed?
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None, but I do sometimes listen to documentaries and read scientific papers? Not as much now, but when I didn't know as much about skincare as I do now.
Friend of Dorothy Parker said:
It may be hard to comprehend/accept that though you may (?) be somewhat exceptional, you are not quite so unique as you think.
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I'm very aware that people are not special snowflakes, and those who claim they are. Are almost uncanny similar to each other.
Friend of Dorothy Parker said:
Here's a thought: drop the shit and present yourself as you. And if "you" isn't something you're comfortable presenting, maybe that tells you that change is good.
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Ma'am, I cannot change my face. Plastic surgery and any type of fillers is going to make it worse.
 
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Vingle said:
None, but I do sometimes listen to documentaries and read scientific papers? Not as much now, but when I didn't know as much about skincare as I do now.
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I recommend books. Real books, not skincare tips. I gave you some Norwegian authors to start (you can read them in English if preferred) - or use them as a starting point to find others outside the Scando world.

Vingle said:
I'm very aware that people are not special snowflakes, and those who claim they are. Are almost uncanny similar to each other.
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Yet most of your comments in here are about how you’ve had such a uniquely negative experience that you can’t help but be unhappy.

Vingle said:
Ma'am, I cannot change my face. Plastic surgery and any type of fillers is going to make it worse.
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My young friend, I said nothing about changing your face. Your face is just fine. And surgery or fillers <30 is just silly. You know this - but you give appearance/ artificial enhancements more weight than it needs, tbh, especially if you’re looking for any authentic connection.

I was actually not talking about your physical appearance at all. My comments were about being yourself, the person. You focus so much on the appearance, while neglecting the other parts of you,

Frankly, you seem quite misguided. You say you want a loving companion, but you obsess about both your and others’ physical appearance while neglecting everything else. It is possible to find beautiful people (or be one) while also seeking (and offering) substance.

Tl;dr: I hope you figure out how to use your brain and to develop some values that extend past age 22, and I hope that you come to understand both how to offer and how to look for and find quality. Right now, you seem to have potential as a human, but sitting around on your ass, sinking into your wounds, eschewing elevation - effectively squandering it - is a great recipe for a wasted existence. You don't have to have that. It's your choice.
 
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Friend of Dorothy Parker said:
Yet most of your comments in here are about how you’ve had such a uniquely negative experience that you can’t help but be unhappy.
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It's because I'm pwetty. Haven't really seen anyone in my situation that isn't looking awful.
Friend of Dorothy Parker said:
you give appearance/ artificial enhancements more weight than it needs, tbh, especially if you’re looking for any authentic connection.
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Well, duh. I'm aware that my personality is lacking and I need to weigh in for that.
Ted_Breakfast said:
it's more like a bird would do to a car.
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That's an absolutely horrifying (and hilarious) thing to imagine.
 
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