Do you ever miss school?

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skykiii

skykiii

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It's weird, when I was actually in school (mostly thru the 1990s) I absolutely hated it--most especially I hated dealing with thuggish dipshits--but...

... At the same time, recently I was looking at my school again on Google Maps and it was making me tear up a bit. Amazing how time changes things.

I mean don't get me wrong... I don't miss the weekly grind, the thuggish dipshits, the idiot teachers, the lame assignments, or having to rush to wake up when I didn't feel like I had gotten enough sleep. And I sure as fuck am not one of those losers who would want to go to an "adult school" that replicates the experience (since that really would not be the same thing).

I will say though, one benefit I think it had was it forced me to do things I otherwise wouldn't. In the modern internet age its easy to fall into a trap of only doing the same things over and over and it taking outside effort to put new thoughts in your brain, but during my school years the new thoughts were literally five days a week.

Or maybe I'm just being a nostalgic old man (not like this is new).

Anyway, do you miss school?

(Obviously this question might not apply to any kiwis young enough to still be in school).
 
While positive memories of your past unquestionably exist, you should strongly consider if your fondness of the time is truly due to you feeling genuinely happier or if the immediate misfortunes happening in your present day are altering your perspective. It is difficult to determine if you've had a gradual decline in your happiness to the point that you cannot recognize an immediate turning point. However, did you miss your school days one week after graduating? What about after one year? Five years? A decade? If there isn't a clear-cut moment in time when you realized your happiness has significantly dropped since your school years, it's safer to presume that you are glorifying your past.

You cannot go back in time, and it is harmful to desire that which you can never have. It's easy to fall into a trap where you idolize the unobtainable, and thus you should strongly consider if you are simply fooling yourself into believing you were truly happier during that time in your life. Unless you undergo severe trauma, you are predisposed to retaining happier memories than you are negative ones. As time goes on, the negative memories are pushed out or blur together, and upon recollection, you may not even recall them happening in the first place. This will heavily warp your perception. Holding onto your past memories of joy is helpful, but believing you will never experience that same happiness again is not. As far as you know, the happiest moment of your life has yet to happen.
 
Not especially, but I do sometimes envision myself going back in time with my current knowledge and experience and taking over my younger self. I could have done a lot of things better, but I guess that's everyone's story of adolescence is learning from your mistakes and finding yourself. The endless amounts of free time and complete lack of responsibility are sorely missed.

On the other hand, I really don't want to lose my accomplishments, the things I've acquired, or my wife. Things might very well end up worse, as I have a lot to be thankful for.

I did take sports for granted and didn't fully appreciate them at the time. I'd love to put on the pads and play actual football again more than anything.
 
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While positive memories of your past unquestionably exist, you should strongly consider if your fondness of the time is truly due to you feeling genuinely happier or if the immediate misfortunes happening in your present day are altering your perspective. It is difficult to determine if you've had a gradual decline in your happiness to the point that you cannot recognize an immediate turning point. However, did you miss your school days one week after graduating? What about after one year? Five years? A decade? If there isn't a clear-cut moment in time when you realized your happiness has significantly dropped since your school years, it's safer to presume that you are glorifying your past.

You cannot go back in time, and it is harmful to desire that which you can never have. It's easy to fall into a trap where you idolize the unobtainable, and thus you should strongly consider if you are simply fooling yourself into believing you were truly happier during that time in your life. Unless you undergo severe trauma, you are predisposed to retaining happier memories than you are negative ones. As time goes on, the negative memories are pushed out or blur together, and upon recollection, you may not even recall them happening in the first place. This will heavily warp your perception. Holding onto your past memories of joy is helpful, but believing you will never experience that same happiness again is not. As far as you know, the happiest moment of your life has yet to happen.
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I've always wondered why even being vaguely wistful for younger days gets these kind of lectures (sorry but that is what this kinda comes off as), as if I wasn't already demonstrating self-awareness on the subject of glorifying the past/forgetting the bad parts.

Recognizing in retrospect that something had value you might not have appreciated at the time is not the same as totally forgetting that asshole Bobby.

.................

Now this being said, the funny thing about my school days in retrospect is.... I was kinda getting at this in my OP but I meandered like hell--I feel like there's two things going on.

First, I was going to school throughout the 1990s, which is a decade where things were genuinely awesome and interesting and I would probably want to revisit it anyway.

Second, the contrast effect--since I had this one obviously crappy thing in my life (school), it made everything else that much better.

Like back then for example, sitting down and marathoning a JRPG was all the more exciting because it gave me a break from my normal boring life. Good ol' escapism. Nowadays though, I almost wish there was something crappy in my life for me to be "escaping" from. Escapism has itself become mundane.

That said I do share the fantasy that @Schwarzwald posted of sometimes wishing I could re-do my school days but with all the knowledge I have now. Though there's only a few stand-out days I'd like to re-do--I think I would go crazy if I was literally forced to re-live the decade all over again with a brain that's gotten used to modern conveniences. Or perhaps it would actually be theraputic, who knows?

Incidentally, I don't see anything particularly unhealthy about wanting to time travel.

Although I would also want a form of non-aging to go with that, because it would suck to go from a young man to an old man in what would, to most people, look like the space of a single day.
 
Party Hat Wurmple said:
If you mean, if I could go back with what I know now and do everything differently? Yes. If you mean, go back and not do anything differently? No. Absolutely not. I like being older.
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If I could go back in time with what I know now and try harder yes. For a while I was having dreams about going back to high school which is weird because I graduated. I don't really miss anyone since I can talk to them now if I really wanted to.
 
Fuck no. I was one of the white boys at a "minority-majority" school and it sucked. Anybody who says none-whites can't be racist can kiss my ass, because they sure as shit can and will be. Nobody went to the park across the way because of the crack dealers, the school couldn't even fucking afford paper my senior year because of how badly the money was managed.

I miss some of my friends, and there's some good memories from that time, but if I got magically transported back and had to do it all again I'd probably do a flip.
 
I do miss the socialization and the routine. That being said, one thing I don't miss is people being dickweeds for no reason.

I had a principal in high school that expressly treated me as the future school shooter. He once asked me "what if I had a gun and you had a gun, and I shot at you?" I told him "obviously, I'd empty the whole magazine at you." He was genuinely afraid of me. Dude was a complete soyboy cuck and I don't miss him.
 
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