Do you have anger issues? - How do you deal with it?

[Meat Target]

I just carry a gun and think about how I can realistically kill anybody I want to and I'm simply choosing not to because it's not worth the consequences. Framing it as my choice makes the anger go away.

That's always sobered me. Also makes me wonder, "how close I am to someone packing at any given moment?"

 

[Billy Bob Dick]

It's the same for everybody. The adrenaline will make you shake, will even make you cry. Like tears, not actual crying..

I"ll give you my top secret technique when I get in one of these situations:

Just push the guy. I swear 90% will just push you back. Enjoy the opportunity to KO them.

You just have to be ready for it. Easter egg if you know what their dominant hand is or if they hold a glass or cigarette.

Don't stop to admire your work. Keep going until they ask you to stop.

This is the stuff you need to get under control, dude. You're going to end up in prison if you keep getting in fights, especially when you get older, and particularly if you're the instigator.

I participated in a bunch of unlicensed, full contact martial arts tournaments when I was younger, and I got that adrenaline shit out of my system real fast. An adrenaline rush is a guarantee that you will lose a martial arts bout or a boxing match, because you'll tense up, you won't think clearly, and you'll gas out. If you're very unlucky you'll get beaten like a rented drum.

I was in the heavyweight division, so I was always fighting dudes that were bigger and heavier than me. The only way to beat them was to outthink them, which meant staying calm, cool and levelheaded.

Have you considered joining a boxing gym?

 

[rel=alternate]

This is the stuff you need to get under control, dude. You're going to end up in prison if you keep getting in fights,

Been there, done that, more than once. But not for a long time.

Tbh, I was black out drunk when I started this thread, as is often the case when I have these types of "reflections". I might still be a bit intense, but I cherry pick my fight now, if any. I am well beyond my wild young days. Somehow, I still get excited when I think back on it. But, it's bad advice, you are absolutely right.

I don't fight anymore unless I really need to. I broke my dominant hand in two places already, and it swells almost immediately now, mostly because I did not seek medical help one of my fractures did not heal properly. It's even visible that my hand is fucked without the swelling if you pay attention.

I have done boxing and a few martial arts, but I never really followed through with them enough to be actually good. It takes discipline to do that, and I did not have that in me at the time. If we're being honest though, basic knowledge puts you way ahead of the random person.

Anything that means hand contact is out of question at this point, especially if it implies trauma of some kind. And I feel like I am probably too old, I don't have the stamina and will just gas out anyway even if we chose to ignore this.

An adrenaline rush is a guarantee that you will lose a martial arts bout or a boxing match, because you'll tense up, you won't think clearly, and you'll gas out. If you're very unlucky you'll get beaten like a rented drum.

I don't disagree btw. But real stuff hits you different than competition. It involves people you know, or people who know you, and it's about ego.

As much as you want to say that the best fighter is the one who does not thrive on the adrenaline, I think that's a lie. Of course, you numb yourself to it, but you also learn to use it to your advantage. The day you fight and you don't have adrenaline rushing through you, you lose.

Maybe it's just me, but I really don't think it is. Adrenaline can turn into fear real fast if you don't lean into it. And if you do, chances are you will have a really good time. But you can't just decide not to have it.

It's not so much that you need to not have it, it's more that you need to learn to make it serve you rather than be a slave to it.

 

[MadStan]

I used to get angry when people mistook me for a black man - the degradation was almost too much to bear. I disenfranchise niggas whenever I get the chance, that's how I cope with it.

 

[Flavius Claudius Julianus]

No PL, but yeah, anger issues here. After literally a decade plus of introspection, journaling and whatnot, I realised it was down to my neglectful single mother upbringing.

99% okay these days, save the occasional urge to snap at my wife during stressful periods. Up until my early 20s though, I'd be punching holes into walls/doors, smashing shit, shouting outbursts, all that. It sucks, but that hurt has to go somewhere.

Couple of fistfights when younger, but I was just your average normie build kid back then. I'm a large man these days, and I dread to think what kind of charges I'd be facing had I fucked someone up in my current state.

Happy to give perspective for those who need it. Stay strong fellow sufferers.

 

[Mister Corn]

I get mad, I complain, then I figure out something funny about it and I just stop giving a shit. I guess it matters if what you're pissed about is important or not.

 

[rel=alternate]

I can't say the same about the mother part. Although we definitely had our differences. She was not neglectful as much as she was willingly ignorant. And even then, it was mostly denial, she cared.

Couple of fistfights when younger, but I was just your average normie build kid back then.

So was I. Or actually, below average. And I never was as violent and aggressive as I was back then.

Looking back, there was clearly some form of compensation, but I also liked it. Before I was even 18, you could say I was actively seeking for physical confrontation for fun.

It was tied to my anger in the sense that it was a relief, but it was not anger motivated, if that makes any sense.

To be completely clear, I was not a bully trying to beat up innocent people. I (almost) unconsciously would follow a framework where I would create potential conflictual situations and do nothing but to try and add oil on the fire if it ever started. I wanted to think we were both into it, even though I could have easily diffused it if I wanted to or squashed it if they were not about it.

 

[Jason Wynn]

I rarely get truly angry, but I get annoyed very easily. Something will frustrate me, I’ll make a snippy comment but a minute or two later and I’m over it. It takes a lot to truly piss me off, and even when I’m livid I’ve never been a screaming at the top of my lungs ranting and raving and puffing out my chest kind of angry guy. If I get really quiet and my voice gets really low and clipped, that’s a good indicator of when I’m pissed.

 

[Overwritten Tapes]

I have anger issues, I don't deal with them, I let them be as they are.

 

[The Schizo Warrior]

I feel angry a lot, but I try my best not to act on it. Though inevitably some of it spills out from me trying to contain it all. I wish I could resolve the conflict at hand, but that would mean someone will end up dead.

 

[Drinky Crow]

Yea, but time and experience has at least gotten me to limit the outward expression to more harmless outlets like...well, here. Not always easy, I have to tell myself when I go out every day things like "Drinky, don't lose it on the fat Karens in the grocery store, she has a problem with food and you reminding her how she looks like she has to flap her arms to distinguish whether she's wealking or rolling won't change her shit behavior." and "Don't run that faux cowboy teenager off the road in a truck his rich parents probably got him and strangle his mangled form on the dirt because he thinks he's a hardcore gangsta from Englewood and has to let everyone in a 20 mile radius now about it through that fucking mumble rap music, murder is a felony...."

 

[Wot Zit Too Yah0996]

I throw pebbles at cars that cut me off.