Does a break ever improve a relationship?

Lemmingwiser

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I was reading the ellen page/elliot page thread and you get to a point where she had a break from a partner which later ended in divorce. Does a break ever lead to people getting closer after?

Does distance make the heart grow fonder or does it just break the bond?
 
Yes.
Maybe it's my turboautism but sometimes, when I'm dating someone, I just feel like being single for 2 weeks to relax a bit, have 100% of the time to myself for a change.
It really helps a lot but you need to find a partner who loves you enough that they will agree and won't cheat.
 
Some people have solitary personalities. It doesn't mean they are unable to care for or value another person, but they enjoy independence and simply doing things by themselves. The word for these people is "singles" and they shouldn't be in relationships.
 
From recollection, every time a woman said she wanted to go on break is so she could cheat on you guilt free and angle her breakup with you while setting up the next relationship riding the other guy during your "break", people will go through the dumbest selfish mental gymnastics to stack things in their favor instead of just ripping off the bandaid properly and not leave the other in hopeful suspense.

 
Depends on who brings it up.

If it's her idea it's pretty much joever.
not always. overall though? probably. it depends how close you are to the other person. how long the relationship was. the reasoning behind the break. how skilled you are at sweet-talking, and acting like you don't care. etc. there are so many factors that its almost just easier to say, it is probably not a good sign. but truthfully, it can go either way. at the end of the day, what matters is what each person wants. honesty is sometimes what can show you that. if you are honest and vulnerable, you can sometimes cut through the "i just need some time to myself" cliché you will sometimes hear. be prepared for the worst, but try and stay in the mindset of getting what you want. unless it isnt worth it anymore. it is up to you, ultimately. play your cards right.
 
Depends why but never a good sign. Do you need a break because the person is not giving you enough space and you just want to be by yourself or do you just want to goon or cheat? You need to think about why you want a break.

Is it because you genuinely want something to be different and you want the other person to think about it a bit and come back and reset certain things? If so, really make sure that the other person understands what it is that you're getting at. If you're not happy in your relationship and conversations cannot fix that then just break up with them.
 
One time, i was in this relationship with this woman. I got tired of her body and it no longer excited me the way it used to. Anyways, I had her come over and gave her a real touching presentation on how I needed time to myself since I wasn't in a place emotionally to be the man she deserved and how I needed some time apart to collect myself. I went to sew my wild oats in many gutters across the globe. At some point I had my fill and realized I missed the way she'd tongue my balls. So i called her up and the fire was back. Never felt closer to her, and i know if i ever need to go get exotic strange while keeping her in my pocket all i need to do is make a sob story.
 
From recollection, every time a woman said she wanted to go on break is so she could cheat on you guilt free and angle her breakup with you while setting up the next relationship riding the other guy during your "break", people will go through the dumbest selfish mental gymnastics to stack things in their favor instead of just ripping off the bandaid properly and not leave the other in hopeful suspense.
Of course, it's obviously what it means.

If they just need space, they can do so without "having a break", as this is just a period for "experimenting" elsewhere. As you say it may also be an excuse to justify her behaviour, just like being polyamorous (AKA a whore, whether male or female).
 
If someone wants to take a break the relationship is over and even if they come back it will eventually break down.
On the other hand if either of you simply wish to do certain hobbies by themselves or hang out with friends it is most likely genuine and healthy for the both of you.
 
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