Experiences with Transexuals in the Real World

[Power Word Birb]

I just feel bad for the trans people I meet in real life because it seems like such a hassle to have to deal with hating your body, being associated with a bunch of fucking loons, and probably never looking like they want to look, but on the other hand that applies to the vast majority of people so I don't think they're 'abnormal'.

I get annoyed when people like Fire or LeftistMuslimObama pretend to be women for a fetish and magically become immune from criticism like 'you're a fucking creep' or 'you actually don't know what it's like to be born as and grow up as a woman and thus your opinions on women are wrong, you dumb assholes' or 'stop acting like what you think a fourteen year old girl acts like you giant man-hulk'.

But I've never seen a disaster like that in real life, although I'm sure if I hung out at the feminism center on campus I would meet many beautiful ladies I could offend by not sucking their dicks, so. Maybe if I get bored!

 

[Bassomatic]

There's two I knew personally and one I met randomly, the last one reminds me how many are just gross people.

The two I know, one was long time buddy, we've always fucked with cars, guns etc. Not super close but pals. They told me about it, and are really cool about me knowing them so long as one name/sex. So really nothings changed in our friendship, has a good sense of humor about it good career head on shoulders hates trenders etc. Apparently they've dealt with it since a kid I legit think they are in the super rare GID group.

The other was a study buddy when I was taking my MBA, kinda out of the blue walking in the hall dude drops it on me. They dropped out pretty quickly after that and became/is a fall down drunk all the time who's kinda done nothing in regards to anything be it career or transition.

Last was the one time I bumped into a wild tranny in the street and this is the gross one that makes my blood boil. I was walking home and this skinny taller than I black man in a wig, dress and heels who just asked me "top or bottom?" I honestly didn't register what that meant. They asked again and it clicked.
I gave them some choice words about how I would pound them in the pavement but I didn't want aids or something along those lines.

Shit like that is why people hate trannies.

 

[keksz]

I was walking home and this skinny taller than I black man in a wig, dress and heels

This triggered a not-so-distant memory in me of when I was at a bus stop late night maybe a year or two ago. This 30-something black bald dude was shirtless and wearing a bra. Not ugly, for a dude, young, slim and all. It was freezing that night - I mean as low as temperatures get around here but every single person in the bus stop (which is a pretty big one with a good number of people even late at night) was wearing a coat or similar. Except this guy, wearing no shirt at all but a bra.

When I got there, on my way back home from a friend's gathering he was already talking to everyone at the stop in a loud voice, clearly thirsty for attention. I can't remember what he was talking about but I'm pretty sure it was something about being gay or trans, because... well, because just imagine the scene, how could he be raving on about anything else like politics or sports? lol

It was probably a Friday night but he didn't seem drunk or intoxicated - he was talking normally, but just so fucking out of place and uncalled for. Everyone was just ignoring him and probably silently thanking the gods when their buses arrived. I was, in all likelihood, a lot higher than he was and I tend to attract some attention for myself so I was pretty much freaking out that my bus never seemed to arrive and the clock was ticking until he'd decide to talk to me. Not sure if a trans or just weird story, but shared.

 

[BT 075]

So a while ago I was staying with some relatives in the million dollar apartment of our transsexual friend, who is quite well-to-do. One of our mutual friends had gotten sick and our tranny friend, knowing her place around town better, offered to help me buy medicines for said friend. Walking down the street with the tranny was very uncomfortable. Got some snickers from people who thought we were a couple and at the drug store, people must have thoughts the medicines we bought were to combat some terrible disease I caught off her. Never again.

Trannies and whoever is assumed to sleep with them are still seen as freaks by most of society, I noticed. It was a very uncomfortable feeling. Back in the safety of the apartment, the transsexual related some stories to us about the guys she used to date. One was a bodyguard, another a cook in a high end restaurant. All relationships were very short-lived and while there are many pictures on her Facebook with female and semi-female friends, there's none with guys. So, no guys were comfortable enough to be associated with her, seen by friends and family with her. Kinda sad but understandable to me, having spent just half an hour walking down the street with a tranny.

I now understand the plight of transsexuals. They surely are a sad bunch. Infertile, their birth gender almost always obvious to the beholder and somewhat grotesque, they are like a puzzle with some pieces removed and forcibly jammed in by an angry toddler. I pity men like the guy who married Brianna Wu, because no matter how you twist or turn it, people will always snicker at you behind your back or in your face because you're "that guy who's banging a chick who used to be a dude". But at least the guy can still run for the hill, the tranny has to live this reality.

So, yeah, it's pretty fucked up being a tranny or being seen with a tranny.

 

[keksz]

Which is why it's such a fucking terrible thing for all these transtrenders we see popping up everywhere else in the forums by the dozen to transition with zero effort put into it and make the lives of people with actual dysphoria a lot harder by association. The mere fact that they do it just to stand out for attention and to be able to play the victim card everyday is a vile mockery of what people who become trans suffer every day because they really were born in the wrong body.

I'm sure most real trans people would give an arm and a leg to just feel comfortable in their natural body and not have to suffer prejudice every single day of their lives. Meanwhile transtrenders do it because being a freak sounds plenty fun and they're awfully bored of being their same old selves

I can't even

I don't know any transgender people, much less people with actual gender dysphoria so I'm skeptic but I like to think that there must be some of them out there. I'd hate to eventually come to the conclusion that every trans is a transtrender.

 

[Fareal]

Know/mates with a few, all MtF. All good folks. One passes really well and is stealth. She does fine apart from her dating life; her surgery didn't heal that well and she had a revision. There's a lot of scarring and stuff and in that respect, she doesn't pass for female at birth. Had a lot of painful and sometimes scary experiences around that She now tells dates before they get to the deed and a lot of them don't react well. Really shitty for her because she's good people.

The others have more trouble because they don't pass that well, a couple don't pass at all. One, an older woman, and me became pals because we rode the same bus every morning and I was literally the only person who would ever sit next to her on the bus. People would stand rather than sit next to this shy older lady with a cheap wig and not much idea about clothes and makeup. It was sad as fuck. We got to talking, I tried to give advice when asked for it. Still see her around occasionally (she moved a couple of miles) and we chat but things aren't really getting better. Bumped into her in the supermarket last time I saw her and there were some kids openly giving her abuse. She's shy and also vulnerable and always on her own so she didn't feel she could say anything back. Shitty way to treat someone who's just out buying beans

A bit of kindness would go a long way, trans folk in the overwhelming majority aren't doing anything to anyone and just trying to quietly live their lives. Not kind to constantly draw attention to them when they're just going about their business and not doing anything to anyone.

 

[Halberd Sonichu]

My first ever encounter with a trans person was at my job two weeks ago. He had brought his young daughter with him and you known what he was actually doing his job as parent. Then he order his roost beef like a normal person and continue shopping. Its a nice reminder that trans folk can be normal too. been reading too much about the freak ones.

 

[Philosophy Zombie]

I saw a fucking tranny in the mirror once.

He didn't pass at all. I was just going to walk by him, but the first thing he did is try to smack me. He was aiming for my face and didn't make it there, but he covered my fist in blood.

He practically instantaneously disappeared after that. I assumed that since I didn't see him any more I had won, so I just went on my way and never saw him again. In hindsight I should have called the cops.

 

[DoctorJimmyRay]

I've met enough to know that there is a night and day difference between a person transitioning genders die to gender dysphoria, and the "people" who wind up with their own threads here.

Spoiler: Engage Powerleveling

My brother is in the process of becoming my sister. He's been to enough counseling and therapy to know just how serious his identity disconnect is. I've been to a couple sessions with him to get a better idea of what he's experiencing. A bunch of people are worried he overreacting to depression, or that he got a bunch of crazy LGBT people poisoning his mind.

By he knows just what he's doing and why he's doing it. He's convinced me that he is making the correct choice (as far as such things can be said to be 'correct'). He isn't doing anything other than self-creating as far as I'm concerned.

He has a few gay and tranny friends and they're no different than any other person. They're just as disgusted by these self diagnosing, ultra-leftist tumblr/twitter nutters as anyone here is. They introduced me to more than one tranny person living their life just like anyone else would, without screaming about "privilege", "triggers" or anything else or would expect one of our catalogued rat kings to shriek while using LGBT issues as a shield for their derision. They were as delightfully irreverant and vile as I could ever be.

One of them was even a parent, who's only real gripe was that they're constantly terrified that their kid would have it rough in school for having a father that was once a woman (though, unsurprisingly, turns out that kids don't really care about that kind of stuff).

They didn't demand the rest of the world change its understanding of gender, biology, or psychology. They only wanted what any other person in our society wants: that they be respected as self creating people with their own viewpoints and understandings.

Compared with what we see here from those who would try and use transexuality (or any other kind of traditionally marginalized type) as a means to make themselves immune from criticism, it is simply a night and day difference.

This isn't to say that there weren't plenty of crazy ones, though. There was this one guy there who would tell anyone who would listen that white males were the cause of all evil, and that if we simply didn't let them vote or hold office or own businesses, then we'd create a utopia. But that's to be expected. Every group has its crazies, in appropriately proportional numbers.

The point of all this is that I've had the pleasure of knowing more than one person who is living proof that what transexuality is and what, regularly and justifiably, gets laughed at here are two different things entirely.

That there are crazy trannies doesn't mean that trannies are inherently mentally unstable. But rather, there are always unthinking morons in every type of social group or type.

 

[Jackal]

I've met a lot, and with the rare exception they've all been fabulous people. I think there's a vast disconnect between real trans people and the "trannies" of Kiwi Farms (and more aptly, tumblr). Let me see if I can explain.

Real trans people experience sex dysphoria - a sort of disagreement between the body and brain on what's supposed to be there and what isn't. There are a lot of theories about where dysphoria comes from, but the bottom line is that it's a real medical condition that requires treatment, i.e. hormones and/or surgery. Now, these people very rarely have any desire to talk about being trans outside of close friend circles, LGBT clubs, and maybe their personal blogs. Much like depression, it is a struggle to be dealt with and soldiered through with the help of doctors and loved ones alike. It is a mere facet of their personality, and not their entire life; they exist as people outside of their identity, with hobbies, interests, and even genuine senses of humor. If they're shit people, it's not because they're trans; it's because they're just shit in general. Most of them are perfectly normal, though.

Then we get into the transtrenders, the trannies who have so many threads here. More often than not, they have no dysphoria - they've just confused liking to crossdress with wanting to be the opposite sex. Oftentimes they will even yell at you for daring to insinuate that dysphoria is a requirement to being medically considered trans (many think calling transsexualism a medical condition is, in itself, somehow transphobic). Now, these people become obsessed with their identity, so much so that you can't have a conversation without them bringing it up. They must, in some way, inform you that they are trans. It's so very vitally important that you know. Why? Because it's all that they are. They build themselves around fake identities and make callout posts about you if you dare question them. Their hobbies are being trans. Their interests are trans things. Their sense of humor regularly amounts to "die cis scum" and little else. They are about as abnormal as it gets.

And see, the latter classification there also happen to be the vocal minority. They shout and yell over real trans people - who are usually too busy living life and dealing with their issues to be yelling in the first place - until all outsiders see is them. And then the entire community gets a bad name, all trans people are seen as attention-seeking faggots, and nobody takes the time to learn about real trans people because why would you want to immerse yourself in that much crazy?

I'm all for outing crazy fucks for what they are, but I feel so bad for the genuine trans community. They deal with enough shit as it is without these insane aspies being credited as part of their community.

 

[QT 219]

Honestly, IRL trans people are pretty cool and we really do feature the worst of the worst on this site.

This pretty much sums up all of my experience with transpeople. The ones online that are screaming about words like "trap" and pronouns and shit are the ones that don't pass for either sex, refuse to make an attempt to pass and are usually huge dramafags. Transpeople in person are actually quite refreshing.

 

[Lackadaisy]

Not sure if he/she is actually transsexual, but there's this person in one of my clssses this semester who insists on being called "Alice" with some serious stubble and man voice.
...Though I am jealous of his/her haircut and cute boots...

 

[Xarpho]

Besides in passing (or rather, "not-passing" in public areas), there was only one person in college who I was 75% sure was TS, and that person didn't make a big deal out of it (I don't she mentioned it at all) nor had the "circus freak" appearance that Tumblrites and SA goons have.

 

[AnOminous]

Besides in passing (or rather, "not-passing" in public areas), there was only one person in college who I was 75% sure was TS, and that person didn't make a big deal out of it (I don't she mentioned it at all) nor had the "circus freak" appearance that Tumblrites and SA goons have.

That's because trenders want to be noticed as something freakish and bizarre so they dare someone to say something so they can then get mad about it. It's their sole form of entertainment other than children's cartoons.

 

[JSGOTI]

I'm about 95% sure the creator of a board game I got to demo at PAX this morning is a trans man, and honestly, all the power to them, because outside of their voice and their tiny height, you wouldn't know. Pretty cool guy, and I'm excited for the board game as well.

 

[Lackadaisy]

There's this girl I see around sometimes who I'm not sure is trans. She's like 6'3" and has kind of a man jaw but has a feminine voice and walk style. I'm kinda jealous of how tall she is tbh

 

[Mr. Burgers]

When I first started a job in San Francisco, I encountered a transvestite/crossdresser. I don't think they were actually transsexual at all, though I do not have too much knowledge of that. My own weird-ass opinion is that it has to do with unisex names but that's just me. I've known girls named Jesse like myself, and others named Charley and Bobbie.

I was going to the bathroom and I had a shocked look when I saw someone in a dress with earrings get into the bathroom. "Yes, you're in the right bathroom!" he said in a very loud overly effeminate voice even though I never said anything to him.

I support gay rights 100% but people like that... I don't respect them or their attitudes.

 

[feedtheoctopus]

College roommate, totally normal guy, big, brawny, massive beard (fo' real mountain man shit). Got drunk with me once and somebody said something about dicks and he said "I got a big ass silicone dick". And I'm like "what?" and he's like "used to be a woman. Now I have a giant silicone dick". And I'm like "did that hurt?" and he's like "nah not really" and I'm like "oh" and long story short I did not study for my exam because I was very drunk and talking about my roommate's shiny new penis. Well, I don't know if it was shiny or not. Probably not. But new it was indeed. Dude got laid a lot. Girls seemed to like it. So good work, Doctor so and so.

 

[Mariposa Electrique]

There's this girl I see around sometimes who I'm not sure is trans. She's like 6'3" and has kind of a man jaw but has a feminine voice and walk style. I'm kinda jealous of how tall she is tbh

I've met so many women you could wear had a penis, but they're just genetically predisposed to monstrous bone growth or have severe hormone imbalances.

I support gay rights 100% but people like that... I don't respect them or their attitudes.

The good thing is he was using the proper restroom. Crossdressers and transgenders are not not transsexuals.

Then we get into the transtrenders, the trannies who have so many threads here. More often than not, they have no dysphoria - they've just confused liking to crossdress with wanting to be the opposite sex. Oftentimes they will even yell at you for daring to insinuate that dysphoria is a requirement to being medically considered trans (many think calling transsexualism a medical condition is, in itself, somehow transphobic). Now, these people become obsessed with their identity, so much so that you can't have a conversation without them bringing it up. They must, in some way, inform you that they are trans. It's so very vitally important that you know. Why? Because it's all that they are. They build themselves around fake identities and make callout posts about you if you dare question them. Their hobbies are being trans.

Lol, this sounds just like OPL, they either have to announce they are "trans" or more importantly "lesbian" because they have no personality or life experience outside of crossdressing or confusion.

 

[Tehshigelisok]

I know two MtF transgenders over the internet. I follow one of the two on Twitter, and have noticed how happy she seems now that she's officially gotten her name changed. A lot of her tweets seem to show that she's just happy about the change, and seems to be well accepted by her peers. I haven't heard a word from her that seemed even slightly hateful or ego-stroking. Likewise with the art livestreams I frequent: both the artists and other commisioners in the chats always seem to be unanimously supportive of her.

It should also be noted that she is a furry. Even before she officially became female, her fursona was female. And she occasionally bought commissioned art of the fursona in transgender-specific situations, such as deciding what bathroom to use. But most of the time, it was her fursona transforming in some way, either human to fursona, or fursona to another species.

This got me thinking as to the nature of the art she gets. While some people I know who get transformation art seem to treat it as a fetish (such as a guy I mentioned in this post), I wonder if she uses transformation art as a cathartic expression of her desire to be something else. Especially given that she's mixed it with art of trans-specific situations. I could probably be reading too much into this, but just some food for thought.