Experiences with Transexuals in the Real World

[SourDiesel]

Most of the transsexual people I've met in my life have been normal too. I've met a number in my travels and yeah, generally normal people suffering from a problem they are trying to solve. But I've also met a lot of 'transgenders' and those people are not limited to the internet and are completely insane and unreasonable.

But the general public doesn't know one from the other and the insane people are unfortunately running the asylum at his point. It's all lolcows until you realize that actual laws are made around this stuff. That's what actually scares me about all this crap. The bathroom thing is a tell, first of all. As most point out on all sides of this debate, real transsexual people have been using the washrooms they want to for a long time and no one noticed. This is true. Because real transsexual women tend to pass as the sex they want to. They try very hard and usually are very feminine in the first place. Which is why it shouldn't be an issue now. But it is. Because it isn't about transsexual people, is it? It's about non-passing wierdos that think biological sex is a social construct - which is not at all limited to teenage tumblrites.

There's this dude Stefonknee (Steph-on-knee - yes, that is his REAL chosen name) Wolscht and he is the creepiest creeper you've ever seen. He left his wife and kids to live with a 'kinktser' couple he met on fetlife so he could live full time as a six year old girl and now spends his time (inbetween taking it up the ass by his 'daddy') crying about his oppreeeessshun as a trans woman. A lot of people took that shit deadly seriously.

There was that time not too long ago there was this woman who was kicked out of Planet Fitness because she complained about a man in the change rooms and they responded with a policy that people use the changeroom based on their "sincere, self-reported gender identity". Well, who's to say who's being "sincere"? I guess it doesn't really matter because staff aren't allowed to use judgement anyway. They want a free for all and it isn't limited to change rooms. Two women were kicked out of a homeless shelter for the same reason this past week because one of them was an abuse survivor and didn't want to room up with the dude with a dick in her homeless shelter. Which is a real concern because apparently, it does happen.

The end result, you realize is that in some places Chris-chan himself could literally sit in a YWCA changeroom at this point with his dick out drooling at women and little girls for hours and there is basically nothing anyone could do about it unless and until he actually touched someone. Trust he isn't the only insane autistic out there that is capable of poorly applying lipstick. I have a problem with this. So do most sane transsexuals. But it's real and it's ludicrous.

I haven't even touched on the push to let literal children medically transition or teenage boys with eyeliner competing against teen girls in sports and (obvs) winning which has a very real consequence of scholarship loss for female athletes. That whole ridiculous bullshit with that professor over the law that's being created that will make it a crime to misgender someone. The list goes on. All fucking crazy, all totally real.

Anyway, long post, but I really wish this was just a hilarious internet meme but these idiots are definitely ruining some real shit.

 

[Emperor Julian]

I know two, they seem okay. I recall we where having a party and the guys had gravitated to the tv and werewatching UFC with a couple of beers. The main tranny I know who we'll call Steve MtF was overtly anxious about joining in with the guys and had clung to his GF all night. Eventually one of my mates encouraged him to drink with us, it's kinda sad how he fealt as though he was instruding on male spaces when we were quite happy to consider him one of the guys.
The closest I've got to tumbler trans was at a gaming society where a bat shit SJW punched a 15 year old because he stated it would be weird being in the wrong body since the Girdle of Femininity/Masculinity was brought up in a d&d game...she was 23. Considering his parents where big movers and shakers in the LGBT crowd and local politics, not mention the incident occured in at one of the larger local roleplay societies it pretty much anihilated her social life in one go.

 

[Mrs Paul]

To be fair, it's not always someone's fault if they fail to pass. I mean, some people are just uber tall, or broad, or whatever. But then, it's really no different from being ugly, if you stop and think about it.

 

[Lackadaisy]

To be fair, it's not always someone's fault if they fail to pass. I mean, some people are just uber tall, or broad, or whatever. But then, it's really no different from being ugly, if you stop and think about it.

I assume someone's just unfortunate looking before I assume they're a tranny.

 

[A-tistic]

Ive seen just one tranny ever here in Sweden and that was in highschool. It was easy to see he was a guy but at least he made some effort I guess. My friend (male) claimed he tried to hit on him once. Lol.

I've been in Thailand a few times though and there you would see ladyboys every damn day. Me and the thai girl I was dating liked to compete in who could point out the most of them. Some she recognized I would not have spotted myself. The majority are easy to spot but some pass so well you can't believe it.

 

[Abethedemon]

I went to high school and became good friends with a transwoman. I actually knew her before she transitioned. She never changed her name because it was gender neutral, so it wasn't too hard. She makes weird transgressive art films that are hard to understand and are filled to the brim with abstract humor, but hey, I think that's cool. I contributed some music to one of her films.

 

[HickoryDickory]

I've met a few. Oddly enough most were FtM's who I couldn't tell if they were trans or just butch at first. (They were working their ways to starting T) One I hated because he was just a terrible person who beat up his Mom. (Amongst other things)

One MtF that sticks out in my mind is one I shared gym space and activity groups with. She is in her 50's and transitioned late, so there's not much that can be done there looks-wise... But, she tries. She has really nice clothes and boots and some of the ladies gave her new cosmetics for Christmas during Secret Santa. She's accepted, but unlike the transtrenders here, she's been in therapy and diagnosed. She's also married in a long-term relationship.

Ah, and one MtF that I served a number of times. She's active in local politics, and sometimes has a few women hanging around with her... Mostly as self-described bodyguards, but I think they're just making her more vulnerable. One time I was serving them, the ladies would loudly talk about how this person was trans and they would protect her, and it's like... It isn't helping her letting everyone know. Most people ignore others when they're out shopping. -- I felt bad for her that day because she was visibly uncomfortable, other days she'd come in by herself and be fine.

 

[Abethedemon]

A couple of years ago, in my anthropology class we had a MtF transwoman who was one of my professor's former students speak about polyamory. She transitioned very, very late and didn't look very convincing, but she was still quite nice, if not a bit cringy.

 

[beansntoast]

I only ever had closer contact with two trannys, both ftm. one was a coworker in his 40 I'd guess, recently started t. overall pleasant person, just had a weird fixation on sex... like he'd talk a lot about his "manly urgess" and he tried to act VERY stereotypically male. it was weird and I liekd him more when he acted like a normal person and not like a stereotype.

the other I mentioned in another post here, was pre everything, somewhere betwen 18-20 and I hit on him bc I thought he was a cute girl (I was 21 at the time) and yeah after realising my error we just talked a bit and he kinda drifted of into a monologue about how much he loves cock and how much he wants one so that was awkward

otherwise I guess I see a lot of of transvestites when clubbing but yeah never anything closer than some drunk small talk, like yeah you look cool, nice party blabla

one of my gay friends seems to run into gender specials and trannys a lot bc he complains pretty often how he can't go cock hunting in gay clubs anymore without offending at least one person it pisses him off big time. poor guy just wants a quick fuck and if you look like a dude he's gonna treat you like dude, he can't smell your special pronouns, hetty

our political organisations at university esp the feminist stuff seems to be overrun by the tumblr type people so I stay far away from them

edit: wow I've heard about the Stefonknee guy before but never associated that name with the person, I thought the name was just some weird spelling quirk of a steven universe character

 

[Grog]

I saw my first tranny today.
At first I thought she (he) was a really ugly girl, with strange facial features, like a white-abbo hybrid, then she (he) started talking and I thought that was a really rough voice for a girl, then I realized what it was.

Although maybe it really was an abbo.

 

[Gym Leader Elesa]

I encountered one in the wilds of Costa Rica, once, but when I shined the flashlight in its direction it just made a loud hissing noise and ran off into the night. It passed pretty well during the new moon, and you couldn't even tell its claws were caked in grave dirt at those hours.

 

[Tragi-Chan]

There was one I met who took me by surprise because she actually passed really well. To the extent that it wasn't until I'd been talking to her for about ten minutes that I actually realised she was trans. She had the natural advantage of being quite short and slim to begin with, with a fairly androgynous face. She was also quite subtle - like, she wore women's clothes, but things like a strappy top and jeans rather than going for something in bright pink or whatever. She wore makeup, but didn't slather it on like a drag queen.

Nice person, but she'd grown up in a very traditional community and had a lot of issues arising from that. I later heard from people she was living with that she'd always been very effeminate and been physically abused on a fairly regular basis until she ran away at 15. Apparently she'd also been sexually abused, and was celibate.

Since running away, she'd come out as trans, got herself a job and generally built a pretty decent life for herself. This is why the likes of the Rat King don't remotely impress me - when someone's legitimately gone through some really terrible shit, been forced to cut themselves off from everyone they've ever known and still managed to build a decent life for themselves, a 40-year-old in a floral dress whining about how they can't work due to oppression and PTSD is pretty pathetic.

 

[shibbolethal]

one thing i've noticed is that if your only/first exposure to trans (or gay, or autistic, or whatever) people is online (especially on kiwifarms) it's a lot more likely you're going to have a negative opinion of them already because the internet showcases the worst of the worst.
every trans person i've met irl has been completely normal and very nice.
i'm pretty sure that almost everybody who lives in even a somewhat liberal (or even mildly conservative) environment has seen/met a trans person. its just that not all of them look like vade or chris so you wouldn't know.

 

[Angry New Ager]

As an adult, I've lived in a series of very liberal big cities and college towns, so I've met a lot of trans people over the years. All of them are just trying to live their lives without attracting negative attention or stirring up drama, because all too often there will be something in the news about a trans person getting beat up or killed, and they don't want to end up that way. All of them have stories of harassment and abuse; some had family members who threatened to kill them for "shaming" the family. And even in an ultra-liberal urban bubble, there is always going to be someone willing to give them an extra double-ration of shit just for existing. So if they can get through a day without somebody spotting them as trans and making an issue of it, it's been a good day.

They've all been nice people. But considering how much day-to-day discrimination they still face, they pretty much have to be, because people who discriminate tend to project an individual's behavior onto the entire group. Be ultra-polite to a bigot, and you might get them to see that you're a fellow human being--or at least avoid worse trouble. Give them the response they deserve, however, and it becomes confirmation that all trans people are crazy or degenerate, ruining society. It could even be dangerous--because let's face it, the kind of person who is willing to antagonize a complete stranger because they're not a convincing enough man or woman has a lot of screws loose.

For years, virtually all trans people I met were MtF; I also knew a lot of very butch dykes, some of whom even adopted male names, but they didn't identify as men. That's changed a bit in the last decade; I still don't see a lot of transmen, but I am seeing more of them. The few transmen I do know IRL are all in their 20s, and are in relationships with women. One has a classic "butch dyke" appearance, and due to his body shape people assume that's what he is. The others are more bookish/nerdy types. Given that bottom surgery for transmen is generally unsuccessful, none of them have any plans to undergo it. They're on T, and they dress and act and identify themselves as men, but they accept that there are limits to how far transitioning can successfully go.

Most of the transwomen I know manage to pass reasonably well, and they put a lot of effort into it. Needless to say, the younger they started on hormones, the better they pass. The older ones (who are now in their 60s, and didn't start transitioning until after 40) just look like grandmas, as long as you don't look too close at their hands. The two I know who don't pass at all are both legit disabled; one is really sick, really fucking poor, and can't get hormones; the other is physically unable to keep up with the level of grooming expected of women (on top of holding a job and keeping up with basic tasks of living).

So having known all of these trans people IRL, I go on Tumblr and am reminded of that old New Yorker cartoon with the punchline, "On the internet, nobody knows you're a dog." The Tumblr kids can proclaim themselves to be anything they like, and try on any identity that seems more interesting and dramatic than who they actually are, and act out all kinds of crazy dramatic fantasies, and nobody needs to know that they're really just bog-standard awkward teenagers or anxious university students.

 

[Morose_Obesity]

Here in Chicago I almost feel being a cishet poonhound is an anamoly. I see them fairly regular and I'm meh.It's probably my proximity to "Boystown". At this point I could see aliens land and just get pissed that they'd end up on welfare and be shitty neighbors.

 

[Sissy]

Being trans made my life a nightmare, and I didn't meet a single good or worthwhile person in any of the various communities I visited across the USA