Also wtf is that girl talking about..."when you dance on their graves [rejoicing books that fail] you're also dancing on your own grave."
??????
Apparently, if you're a writer who grave-dances over Lindy West's dismal sales, you're cheering on your own demise as well—because If Lindy West's book failed to sell, your book won't sell, either.
Which is stupid, because every writer has a different story to tell, and every book is different, and just because one relatively well-known writer's book was a flop doesn't mean that some unknown writer won't come out with a banger.
It’s simply a way for freaks and uggos to very clearly show the world they are liberal. That’s it.
Problem Glasses are an easy way to broadcast, "I'm quirky (while being totally normal and ideologically conformist); I'm creative (no); I don't think about men at all when making personal style choices (except in how I might repulse them); and I'm okay if you think they're ugly (because I already know I am, and the glasses are just clowning to cover the wound)."
As an Old, I remember when getting glasses was hella expensive, so you only had one pair (maybe two if you were rich), but Zenni and other cheap optical vendors online have made it affordable enough to have multiple pairs of ugly "character" glasses that don't represent a years-long commitment that has to be entered carefully. Fat girls (like Anna O'Brien and Lindy West) love character glasses, because unless you're Jaimie Weisberg-tier buttergolem, they're among the few fashion accessories that still fit.
Basically, consoomerism as self-expression and identity-building for people with a weak sense of self and identities that change when the next thing comes along strikes again.
Her book isn’t tanking in sales because she’s poly, or because her man is black or his girl is skinny. Not even because she’s fat! Her book is failing because she writes in a way that reads as one long whine and it’s exhausting.
Lefty women are fine with whining and victim narratives. It's just that they aren't going to look at West's story and see her as a victim they can root for.
Lindy West's book is tanking in sales because here's a sold fact: the overwhelming majority of women, especially here in the West, do not want to share their beloved with another person. Lefties can smile and say, "Oh, polyamory is a totally valid choice!", but very,
very few women have actually chosen polyamory for themselves. The vast majority would reject it if their partner suggested it, and would want to leave him if he insisted on it.
Lindy West clearly did not want to be part of a polycule; she married her husband believing that it would be a monogamous, sexually exclusive relationship. And when he told her he wanted to bring another woman into it, and that it would be the end of their marriage (and that she would be racist) if she refused to allow and embrace that, she did what she had to do in order to hold on to the one man who would have her. She literally brainwashed herself into thinking that was acceptable (even if she hasn't successfully managed to
feel that way). She's a woman with all the financial means to walk away fom her spouse pulling a "gotcha" on her, and she capitulated in order to hang on to him. It's a pitiful tale of female disempowerment, made worse by the fact she does it all to herself.
Women don't want to read that story. They just fucking don't—not unless the ending is about how the narrator grew a spine, overcame her self-brainwashing and terror of being alone, and got the fuck out.
but if you are a fat white woman and you think that you are special because a black man wants to date you
, please please PLEASE, there’s stuff that you need to unpack”
