Female-aimed Trends That You Hate? - Sperg about recent trends you despise from media, make-up, social, etc

[fist_of_khonshu]

I think that part of this is due to a decline in media literacy and people trying too hard to be socially correct. An example that immediately comes to mind is The Coffin of Andy and Leyley. People got mad cuz it features incest, even though incest was used as a way to express the degeneracy of the sibling's relationship. A lack of media literacy and self-policing makes us dumber as a population, as it eliminates free thought and the nuanced exploration of controversial idea

Super late to the gist but I actually am working on a paper similar to this topic for a class im in. However, it's on how Superhero Media reflects the decline of our modern society. It's not done and needs more work and polishing. But Ive added it below.


The current state of superhero media can be described in simple terms as uninspired and complacent. Utilizing overused and outdated formulas, in which it did help create, with no regard for telling a compelling or thought provoking story. Instead, it would rather have the viewer remain complacent and be reinforced with ideas that are a comfort to the viewer rather than challenge their narratives or viewpoints.
Some would counter this by saying the current state of superhero media does, in fact, have substance and nuance. While this is true, it is a rarity in the formula. Most often or not you will see superhero media utilize plots and themes that seem deep, but when explored on a deeper level have little to prop up this talking point. Rather, the viewer is spoon fed the narrative and is told that it is deep and complex so that they have little to nothing to think about.

One could blame the Marvel Cinematic Universe for this problem in media, as it did set the groundwork for these formulas and treating the viewer as if they are not capable of independent thought. Comics, while always having been political, never only just explored what modern society viewed as “the right thing to do.”. In fact, a lot of our beloved reformed characters are creations that started with the intent to criticize or understand the opposition of society at the time of their conception. This understanding led to writing that redeemed or reformed these characters into better assets over the course of their existence.
This type of complexity and understanding of characters and themes is little to none in the current era of comic book adaptations and writing. Black and white viewpoints have seeped into the space and corrupted it for the worse in terms of storytelling and creativity in the form of understanding ideologies that we may not agree with. This is not an argument for accepting these viewpoints, however the education and understanding of why these views are harmful can lead us to a path where we are better equipped to criticize or handle them.

The current era of comic book media would rather spoon feed us fluffy, nice stories about domestic life, gender identity or government corruption rather than actually have something to say. While those topics can be important, there are other issues, ideologies and topics we can use comics to explore and criticize or even lift up.
In a world where it's “Us Against Them”, compassion is lost and this shows in our media as we lose sight of our connections with other people and our capabilities to understand how people may fall into these lines of thinking. It is inherently dangerous, and shows in our lack of diverse media topics especially in comics, to forget that we should always educate and see others viewpoints in order to better criticize and understand them.

 

[pork and beans]

Slick hair updos and blush are leaving women BALD AND RED….. PEOPLE WAKE UP

 

[Free the Pedos]

I absolutely hate how everyone online ad directed towards women is filmed as if it’s an influencer making a totally organic product review.
“So today??? I’m going to see if I can pack for my whole vacation??? just using Stitchfix.”

“I always thought I was using top quality hair products???? Then I found FLURM.”

 

[Mukhrani]

There's this really great doc called About Face where famous supermodels from the past are interviewed and Isabella Rosilini says something on the matter along the lines of "I wonder if this isn't the new 'Foot Binding.'"

I've always thought she's one of the few women of that age group in film who still looks like a human being and not some half-plastic monstrosity. I don't know, her face has this warm, kind quality to it that plastic surgery seems to chisel away - she looks like she's turning into a grandmother. The fact that almost nobody else her age in Hollywood does is very creepy and off-putting. I feel bad for the fact that actresses feel pressured to do it in their 30s to 50s because they feel like they are aging out of a lot of roles only to be discarded when they start to inevitably look weird. It's really sick.

I think a huge part of that has to do with how everything has to be publicized in some way. Even kindergartens need to have social media accounts that post videos of your kids without your knowledge. Your kid can't just join the cheerleading squad and be a cheerleader at her school the cheerleading squad also NEEDS to have an Instagram account where everyone can see her dancing including a bunch of creeps.

This makes me want to scream. I hate social media so much it's unreal - everything in life has to be a fucking spectacle, so nobody acts natural or just enjoys the moment. Everything is for the camera, all of your peers forming some sort of digital panopticon. It's genuinely enraging, especially for children.

 

[Super Guido]

The expectation that women have to grovel to every protected minority group in existence, particularly trannies.

Yeah, I don't really like how it feels like any circles around one thing or another inevitably intersects with some other horse shit cause. Oh you wanted autistic women talking about their experience? Here's one of them saying we need to punch Nazis! Let's dogpile onto that woman who called the black kid the gamer word! Wooooo you need to be on 24/7 - all activism, all the time!

 

[NoReturn]

This is a weird one: Women being expected to implement horizontal leadership when in positions of authority.

e.g. The teacher says girl A is the leader of the group, but girl B feels bad if girl A is too direct and just says something like "Tim you do X, Babs you do Y." so the teacher sits down A to give her a lecture about paying better attention to B's feelings and "working collaboratively".​

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Why do the men get to implement vertical leadership but the women have to do horizontal?

Often when I see this irl, it's framed as "Well the leader is a bitch. She's not being considerate. She's bad at her job." but as much as I don't want to pull the "You wouldn't say that if she were a man" card, I really haven't ever seen this happen to men to the same degree; not in school nor the professional world. I've also never ever in my life seen an ad on LinkedIn talking about special "collaborative leadership" classes for men.

 

[1-800]

" Hi everyone, today I'm going to be reviewing the pink sparkle lip tint by Whogivesafuck and I totally was not paid by said company to do this! *Puts on lip thing* Oh my god... I'm literally obsessed... Like, this totally just changed my life. Walk, don't run, girls."

It's always the same damn thing. They're "obsessed" with every makeup or bag they receive, it always "changes their life" in some way, it's so fake and irritating. I'm convinced those rich influencer hags aren't even real people with a real upbringing, that they just spawned in a lab or something. And why do these stupid companies always give free shit to these rich cunts anyway? Imagine how much more endearing it'd look if they gave free products or influencer trips to regular hard-working women like teachers or nurses... It makes me want to never buy from the company they're advertising for when they blow it on people that do nothing to deserve any good favors. And you know what's the saddest part? Women actually fucking buy into these stupid influencer games. My mom, I love her, but she's always wasting money she can't afford to waste on buying products she doesn't even use, all because some rich hag on TikTok told her to. She bought this liquid eyeliner one time, it was the Colourpop x Twilight one and I believe it was dark blue and had some shimmer. The thing is, she never in her life used liquid eyeliner, never uses colored eyeliner besides black or brown, never uses shimmer in her makeup looks, and she's never wanted to use any of those things either. And did she ever use that eyeliner? No, and it's in my makeup bin now. She does this all the time and refuses to listen to my reasoning to consume less over the paid hags on TikTok running undisclosed ads. Total influencer death.

 

[BunchaBabyDucks]

I’m not even gonna read the other eleven pages before I post this but I know the bimbo-core shit has been mentioned I am still saying thats the one I hate. It’s promoted by troons half the time too.

 

[Dysnomia]

This trend has always confused me because I see people report a mix of genuine red flags (heavy drinker, disrespectful to others, gets in fights, etc.) and totally random stuff like "eats fruit yogurt" or "owns an orange shirt" and idk I just feel like that's not on the same level but you do you if that's a non-negotiable I guess. I'm all for women standing up for their comfort and safety but I also think it could be a bit unhealthy to fixate on frivolous details or to tinfoil about what an innocuous behavior "really indicates".

Honestly I may just be too autistic to get this trend. It all kinda goes over my head because I just don't regularly think about men in a "would I want to date or marry him" lens and don't care. I don't really feel like I have a generalized "type", I love one person and that's the extent to which I think about it. Mainstream attitudes towards dating have never made sense to me.

There's a Fresh Prince episode like this. Hilary finds the perfect guy. But she just can't because he has a mole. I just thought of this because all the retarded nitpicking I see about literally nothingburgers is ridiculous. If you find a decent, stable person that you really like you are gonna have to put up with some quirks. And also not forget that you have ones too and they might annoy others.

 

[Arbiter]

Mentioned before, but cosmetic surgery and other permanent/invasive cosmetic procedures. And in addition to the procedures themselves, the trend pushed on women to accept the practice and not be judgemental about it. It's not PC for us to be against cosmetic surgery. I am so done with hearing "I would never get it myself, but if you want to, more power to you", "you do you", "live and let live", "if it's not hurting anyone, who am I to judge", "whatever makes you happy" etc etc. I'm especially tired of these plastic surgeon influencers who try to act "body positive" or whatever, always making it a point to say "she looked so beautiful before and after. I don't want my clients to feel like they need to get anything done, but if that is what will make them happier, then I am here to help them." Their entire business only exists to prey on people's insecurities. I don't like people being led down the path to hurting their perfectly healthy, functional bodies they were blessed with. So many perfect noses that could breathe and smell ruined in pursuit of a tiny ski-slope one. So many healthy, strong jawbones shaved away. That image of the tower of jawbones displayed in a Korean plastic surgery office stays with me. People don't even look like their ethnicity anymore.

Related, how do you feel about the growing popularity of breast reduction surgery? On one hand, I want to support it if it's truly for the health and wellbeing of the women getting it (back pain, painful breasts). The absolute malding it causes men is also really funny. But on the other hand, I worry there are women doing it out of societal pressure and looks-based insecurity (feels like they look ugly, it's trendy to be smaller, can't find clothes that fit right because clothes nowadays are all shitty fast fashion, wanting to escape being sexualized by men). That last point makes me nervous that breast reduction surgeries are acting as top-surgery-lite for a lot of women. I wonder if perhaps our rising obesity rates, especially childhood obesity, along with rising ovarian disorder rates and whatever other endocrine disruptors we are exposed to cause breasts to grow larger and faster than normal, and at an earlier age, leading to physical discomfort. I wish we could prevent the issue from happening in the first place rather than needing to resort to surgery down the line.

 

[Super Guido]

So many perfect noses that could breathe and smell ruined in pursuit of a tiny ski-slope one.

That feel when you can't breathe through your nose, and surgery isn't guaranteed to fix the issues causing it.

I was going to get a skin lightening treatment to remove a medical condition evident on my face, but I decided not to, partially because it creeped me out how he kept sending me promotional emails for CoolSculpting. If your "doctor" advertises vanity treatments, run.

 

[Chocolate Starfish]

Two things I have noticed that have been pissing me off:

1. The glorification of being a stay-at-home wife/girlfriend/whatever. I get that the economy is shit right now and childcare is expensive, so being a stay-at-home mom might be the financially smart choice (plus you get to be with your child during their formative years). But I've seen women online say that they only want to be a stay-at-home trophy wife. Ignoring the possibility of financial abuse, if your spouse dies or gets injured, you're fucked. It's also a lot more difficult than they realize. Also being a stay-at-home girlfriend is retarded. If you're not married or engaged don't do that shit. He can dump you and you'll be jobless without any legal recourse.
2. Polyamory. Men who have no acting like they're Saudi princes, and they manage to get some women who will just go along with it? And you can't criticize it because it's treated the same as bashing gays. On the flip-side, women who have a harem of dudes is cringe but it's written off as being a #girlboss. I don't get it.

 

[Fishcat]

The glorification of being a stay-at-home wife/girlfriend/whatever. I get that the economy is shit right now and childcare is expensive, so being a stay-at-home mom might be the financially smart choice (plus you get to be with your child during their formative years). But I've seen women online say that they only want to be a stay-at-home trophy wife. Ignoring the possibility of financial abuse, if your spouse dies or gets injured, you're fucked. It's also a lot more difficult than they realize. Also being a stay-at-home girlfriend is retarded. If you're not married or engaged don't do that shit. He can dump you and you'll be jobless without any legal recourse.

I am in full support of women who only work in the home and think it is ideal for at least one parent to be around to parent the child, but the trending romanticization/sexualization of the whole thing makes me kind of MATI. It is very difficult and challenging despite how rewarding and important it can be, it's not just baking pies or whatever frivolous nonsense all day long. Being an active parent is a big job and I think that both careermaxxers who only care about their job and larpers who treat household labor as a cute social media aesthetic are more similar than they think in that they both contribute to the problem of kids being parented by the iPad because their parents are too absorbed in something else to be present in the children's lives.
I also think the whole politicized "women should NEVER be stay-at-home" "women should NEVER work outside the home" slapfight is dumb because it really depends on the family's circumstances. A woman with many kids who has no good job opportunities and who'd have to pay $$$ for childcare is different from a woman who has a great job and relatives to help watch her only child for free, for example. Agreed to never be a stay-at-home gf though; if he can't commit then neither should you.

Polyamory

I have never seen one of these that didn't have a slew of petty drama and infighting and poor mental health. These people think that having three 2 star relationships makes up for the fact that they're too immature to have a single 5 star relationship.

 

[Señora Airi]

Girl, you cut their balls off and now you're complaining?

Time to insert the CS Lewis quote:

I think that part of this is due to a decline in media literacy and people trying too hard to be socially correct. An example that immediately comes to mind is The Coffin of Andy and Leyley. People got mad cuz it features incest, even though incest was used as a way to express the degeneracy of the sibling's relationship. A lack of media literacy and self-policing makes us dumber as a population, as it eliminates free thought and the nuanced exploration of controversial ideas.

Using a black comedy vn (a niche media within the niche of gaming and anime) to preach "media literacy" then talk nothing about Leyley as a character, but rather bring up the incest bit, is peak troon gooner.

I’m not even gonna read the other eleven pages before I post this but I know the bimbo-core shit has been mentioned I am still saying thats the one I hate. It’s promoted by troons half the time too.

Outside of troons and gooners, I don't know anybody who likes bimbo-core. But of course, since those are the two types of people terminally online, that stuff's gonna be spread.

Two things I have noticed that have been pissing me off:

1. The glorification of being a stay-at-home wife/girlfriend/whatever. I get that the economy is shit right now and childcare is expensive, so being a stay-at-home mom might be the financially smart choice (plus you get to be with your child during their formative years). But I've seen women online say that they only want to be a stay-at-home trophy wife. Ignoring the possibility of financial abuse, if your spouse dies or gets injured, you're fucked. It's also a lot more difficult than they realize. Also being a stay-at-home girlfriend is retarded. If you're not married or engaged don't do that shit. He can dump you and you'll be jobless without any legal recourse.
2. Polyamory. Men who have no acting like they're Saudi princes, and they manage to get some women who will just go along with it? And you can't criticize it because it's treated the same as bashing gays. On the flip-side, women who have a harem of dudes is cringe but it's written off as being a #girlboss. I don't get it.

(moid perspective for both):
1. I think people look at the term "stay at home" and think they'll just live like they were as a bachelor/bachelorette, playing games and doomscrolling all day, and not being a homemaker. They don't realize how much work day in day out gets put into raising good kids and keeping the home afloat.

2. Something I've noticed is that any objection to polygamy, polyamory, swinging, etc., is handwaved away and the objector is told to "grow up". As if using multiple people's bodies merely to get off is a "mature" way to have a relationship and not just a narcissist emotionally abusing their lover(s).

 

[BunchaBabyDucks]

Outside of troons and gooners, I don't know anybody who likes bimbo-core. But of course, since those are the two types of people terminally online, that stuff's gonna be spread.

I personally think some of it used to pushed by Shien and Dollskill and other adjacent fast fashion brands to sell some of their cheap slutwear.

 

[NoReturn]

That image of the tower of jawbones displayed in a Korean plastic surgery office stays with me. People don't even look like their ethnicity anymore.

For those who haven't seen:

Also, when looking up that photo, I learned there are surgeons who are just paying the fines to keep the towers instead of taking them down.

Related, how do you feel about the growing popularity of breast reduction surgery? On one hand, I want to support it if it's truly for the health and wellbeing of the women getting it (back pain, painful breasts). The absolute malding it causes men is also really funny. But on the other hand, I worry there are women doing it out of societal pressure and looks-based insecurity (feels like they look ugly, it's trendy to be smaller, can't find clothes that fit right because clothes nowadays are all shitty fast fashion, wanting to escape being sexualized by men). That last point makes me nervous that breast reduction surgeries are acting as top-surgery-lite for a lot of women. I wonder if perhaps our rising obesity rates, especially childhood obesity, along with rising ovarian disorder rates and whatever other endocrine disruptors we are exposed to cause breasts to grow larger and faster than normal, and at an earlier age, leading to physical discomfort. I wish we could prevent the issue from happening in the first place rather than needing to resort to surgery down the line.

Spoiler: Personal

You know how sometimes on this site you see people saying things like "I would have been trooned out if I were a kid now"? That's how I feel about breast reduction surgery. I never did it, and I'm glad I didn't, but in my younger years if someone had mentioned it to me, I would have gone for it.

One of the single-worst things I've seen over the last 15 years re: bodies is the idea that if you don't change something, you're consenting to being seen and treated a certain way. Like if you have large breasts but don't want to be oggled, that you're being irresponsible or unreasonable for not getting them reduced or removed. "Clearly" they say "You must secretly want to be treated this way, or you would have taken action to change it. It's not like it's difficult these days! Get top surgery! Get a reduction!" Everyone has access to plastic surgery now, so any way you look is treated like something you've implicitly chosen.

 

[Fishcat]

It's not PC for us to be against cosmetic surgery. I am so done with hearing "I would never get it myself, but if you want to, more power to you", "you do you", "live and let live", "if it's not hurting anyone, who am I to judge", "whatever makes you happy" etc etc.

I don't think this is a recent trend unfortunately but I hate the expectation to prioritize maintaining a veneer of harmony and non-criticism even when stupid nonsense is going on. Unless it would have significant ramifications (i.e., more than a random person being offended) I refuse to take a neutral position on astroturfed trends. I don't care if people think it makes me a deviant or bully, if someone is promoting a dumb psyop, you should call it out as such and take confidence in your own choices instead of pussyfooting around going all "ohh well this is what personally makes me feel good b-but um it's totally your own choice hehe!". There is a difference between a frivolous differences of preference like someone liking a different ice cream flavor, and someone promoting actively harmful ideas and generating social pressure. The idolization of this mindset that everyone makes their individual choices in a vacuum and that you have no right to care as long as they aren't directly puppeteering your life has led to a lot of destruction as people get laxer about what's ok to agree to disagree on.

I've seen some liberal men using this mindset for some hot topic social issues (e.g., disgusting stuff at pride parades near kids) but it is way more pervasive among women, who also have more policing over utterly unimportant standards. It is also really regressive because when people push back against a dominant norm, even people who agree with them will start trying to drag them down over punching up. Dumb example but I saw a woman making a silly lighthearted meme about how it's tragic when women remove their bush and other women started crawling out of the woodwork to scold her about body shaming the lovely women who CHOOSE to get Braxillian waxes and weird hypotheticals like "but what if someone has a condition where they can't grow one?? They're still beautiful!!" Obviously this is not as serious as the aforementioned predators being permitted around kids thing but it illustrates the underlying mindset of social noninterventionism.

breast reduction surgery

I feel the same as you on this topic. There are also women struggling because the bra industry is garbage and they are not actually wearing or able to easily find their ideal size (I stand by this calculator although their community is pozzed). It's really common for young women of all body types to feel insecure or uncomfortable about their breasts at some point so it's concerning to turn to a irreversible and invasive operation because of that. I support people who have legitimate medical complications but if the issue is just discomfort and dislike then I really think it's best to exhaust other options first. No hate if someone does decide on it after careful consideration.

I have a harsher view on elective hysterectomies and I do not like how I've seen them promoted casually a few times with disdain for doctors who hesitate to approve it. This is dangerous because the female body is not just "small man body with extra pieces for babymaking", the whole thing cycles around the reproductive organs and their perpetual function in the endocrine system even if you never get pregnant. A lot of people want hysterectomies out of ignorance for biology and I get that menstrual issues can really suck, but periods are important vital signs and there are other treatments to try before going scorched earth on yourself. You are also going from the frying pan into the fire because you can end up with way scarier issues like intestinal organs spilling out from the vagina (forgot the name of this but saw a terrifying photo of it). I don't know how bad your periods are but there is zero way it gets worse than that. This is a surgery that you should only be getting if you have a severe health issue and simply not wanting children is not a good enough reason.

 

[2mm and 99 others]

For those who haven't seen:

Faces fine? He should be burned at stake. How does this not make the clients turn on a heel and run away? Apart from usual disgust, this makes me feel contempt for people who just can't live as their own race, in a country where everyone is Asian - and even more for those who push this trend. I can hate ghetto culture just like almost every farmer and their dog, but at least it's niggers being proud of their natural niggerly features.
And the pieces are so damn large?

As for the breast reduction surgery, I cannot and I will not judge. Ngl, with my clothing sensory issues I wouldn't want to be one of those on the ''before'' pics, and not only because of the looks.

 

[NoReturn]

As for the breast reduction surgery, I cannot and I will not judge. Ngl, with my clothing sensory issues I wouldn't want to be one of those on the ''before'' pics, and not only because of the looks.

I understand going from H+ to something like a D or C, but we're seeing things like:


(What does this person think "ETA" means?)

 

[Arbiter]

(What does this person think "ETA" means?)

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