Not very vanilla! Quite into BDSM, actually. Which is how this story begins with fetish modelling.
I've mentioned here that I'm a model. Most of the time It's art, cosplay, fantasy, stuff like that. And nude work, very occasionally light erotic stuff. I have a friend who does fetish modelling, and I've been sort of interested in it--as a theme, for the aesthetic, not the porn. I've had offers for that, and it isn't my thing. But some fetish stuff interests me and after going as an escort to a shoot with my friend (an escort is someone the model brings along who isn't involved but is just for safety/comfort), one of the photographers wanted to work with me.
Now this guy was a foot fetish guy, which is whatever, I don't have to be into it in order to do the work. He also wanted to do video, he does face-kicking (don't ask...) and..... tied-up-and-tickled. I don't do tickling. I can't. It triggers violent panic in me. It's almost like PTSD. I tell people it triggers panic attacks and usually they back off. I told Fetish Photographer this, and declared it was non-negotiable. He said that was fine and my friend and I set up the shoot.
The day of, the guy decided he wanted to get me to get tied up and tickled. I said no. He told me he wanted to use a really ticklish girl. And that he was counting on doing it today. That nothing could be 'that bad' and he was sure I'd be a convert once I tried it and no one is scared of tickling. And that he hoped I was going to be 'flexible' because you have to try new things in 'this business' and word of mouth can make or break you, in a threatening I-can-ruin-you kind of way, which is dumb because I already have five years of photographers who gladly give glowing references. And then he was only going to pay us about half of what we'd already agreed on, on top of being so awful.
We left. He is apparently trying to beg my friend for my contact info because he wants to 'clear up this misunderstanding' and 'get back to a working relationship'. (Guess all those references were as good as I said they'd be, huh?) But there's no misunderstanding. Fetish photographers who don't respect boundaries are dangerous.