Wow, that's insane for a laptop. No wonder it gets so hot for you! My Windows laptop "only" has a 110W charger, and it needs less than 65W since that's what the phone charger I use with it provides, and it can still run at full power and charge simultaneously. The M2 Max tops out at 79W, but I don't know whether that's peak or sustained. I suspect sustained is considerably less, since Apple have always preferred low noise over good cooling and the MBP has so much less vent area than my Windows laptop. 79W is still very much for a laptop, but considering it'll idle at 9W, that's still very far ahead of the competition. My 7840HS is the strongest contender for a M2 Max on the market, and it's so extremely far behind I get depressed. My idle wattage is 20W, more than double, for a processor that is only very slightly stronger in cinebench and fairly much weaker in geekbench. And with nowhere near the battery life or slimness of the MBP. And the MBP has twice as much L2 cache as my Lenovo has L3, and three times the L1 cache (which to be fair it needs, since ARM). I can run Linux on my laptop and get a comfy UI, but you don't need to resort to that on the MBP, it's just perfect out of the box.
So jealous of you.