Hiding an addiction issue from family. How well does it usually work for you? - Asking for both POV

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It's always a worry of mine. Somehow turns out fine, but I think many are catching on. Even if they don't say anything.

I drink a lot less when on holiday with family. But I still drink a lot.Like a lot by any standard. To me, it's obvious I am taking every occasion and overdo it anytime. Or hide it.

I have to drink everyday. Not drinking for a while is fine, but I'll find excuses to go out and do so, or entice others to do with me, finish every wine bottle in the fridge, drain liquor offered by friends my family does not drink etc....

I always have the excuse of "it's my only holidays in X so I enjoy it" when I am literally scaling down. What is outrageous to them is me being restrained.

After a few years, I am sure my sibling knows something is wrong, but it's just comment in passing. My parents, I am not sure.

At the end of the day, and I know many say this, I am functionnal, so it's not like people have any other reason to worry for me. I am just the "larger than life type" in many people's mind
 
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I got addiction issues as well and echo the others, be open about it, at least with your parents and siblings. You think they will give you shit because of it? You already admit you have a problem so it can't be an ego thing, right? Sooner or later you reach a point with drinking where you can't hide it anymore if you want to or not.
 
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Families and everyone else don't give a fuck about you or uour addiction. They give a fuck if/when it impacts them and their lives. As long as you keep the paycheck rolling in, stay out of legal trouble, keep the external people that would pester your family about it away, and don't be a raging shitlord at home, they will let you get away with it. You're not 'hiding' it, but they don't give a shit.

As long as you can keep it level, you're golden.
 
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Families and everyone else don't give a fuck about you or uour addiction. They give a fuck if/when it impacts them and their lives. As long as you keep the paycheck rolling in, stay out of legal trouble, keep the external people that would pester your family about it away, and don't be a raging shitlord at home, they will let you get away with it. You're not 'hiding' it, but they don't give a shit.

As long as you can keep it level, you're golden.
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OP didn't say he wanted to get rid of his addiction you pearl clutching bitch.
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Honestly as long as I function, I dont see the point. I tried to explain to them I had issues before and they were dismissive. They dont see the bigger picture. I don't feel like trying again to open up.

It's very true that people don't care in absolute. I guess I care about them judging me. Even if implicitly.
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I got addiction issues as well and echo the others, be open about it, at least with your parents and siblings. You think they will give you shit because of it? You already admit you have a problem so it can't be an ego thing, right? Sooner or later you reach a point with drinking where you can't hide it anymore if you want to or not.
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I am reaching that point, but still clever enough to make it work so far. Next year I don't see it.

I am not even afraid of jusgement more that they will prevent me from me from drinking, get me comited and ruin my business in the process
 
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They've probably talked about it plenty amongst themselves, but assume you're functional and an adult so there's nothing they can do about it if they want to. When you die prematurely they'll wonder if they should have said something.
 
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I was the last one to know that I had a problem. It was painfully obvious to everyone around me. "I'm working hard; it's my money; I'm only hurting myself; it's only on weekends..." I used to tell myself a lot of lies. But once I have a drink, I can't stop drinking until the drink is gone. That whole self-control thing goes right out the window. So, today I don't drink or take any mind altering drugs. That's just me, though.
 
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This depends on your self control.

If you are good at it, you can space it out until it has no impact. I drink, but seldom to any excess. A beer after a tiring day every few days won't kill you.

But if you can't stop yourself, going cold turkey maybe the only option.

Sometimes I go for a week without booze, the next week it is a bottle of wine on Tuesday and 3 beers on Saturday.
 
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First off, they know. They just haven't said anything yet. Nobody is as good at hiding it as they think they are and people talk about it when you're not around. This doesn't only go for your family. You've slurred words around friends and acquaintances and they've smelled it on your breath. Maybe even at work.

Secondly, every day your ability to manage it and keep it concealed diminishes. The clock is ticking. You're in a steep dive at full throttle and quickly approaching the terrain. Pull up.

There's very good news, though. You get to decide when things get much easier. It could even be today. All you have to do is make the decision to stop and start doing the work to stay stopped.
 
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