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I somehow managed to cut my thumb when plying off my 3d print off my bed. The west has crestfallen. :lossmanjack:
I'm sorry to hear that.

If it makes you feel better, may you laugh at the retarded ways I managed to injure ways.

Managed to break a toe once because I stubbed it super hard on something during a power outage. Gave myself a hand-sized bruise on my thigh because I somehow got my foot caught in the sheets of my bed and flung myself onto the hardwood floor. That hurt a lot but I'm far more confused on how the hell I even did that.

Also decent day. Got some cleaning done, will take the rest tomorrow as I got lazy and it's election day today for the European Parliament. Yay.....

I don't have faith in any of our politicians but I am of the mindset that I at least earn the right to bitch and moan about whatever stupid bullshit the cunts on the top of fuck shit mountain decide to do if I vote on the cunts who at least signal values that align with my own.

Also I sent a text to foster brother regarding the no contact order. I was generous, not trashing the bitch at fault but just stating that her behaviors are damaging to me and I'm cutting all contact to protect myself. And that I trust and care about him hence why I am telling him about this and he can ask me anything he wants if he needs to.

I am nervous about his reaction. He's a chill and mellow dude with a work history of people with severe mental illnesses and disabilities including orphaned children so realistically I shouldn't worry. But you never know. The bitch is his momma after all.

He also has kids so that often entails inviting the whole family over for birthday parties. I am not risking the chance of being in the same room as them. I'll come by another day.
 
I am too white for this weather, even my scalp is sunburned.
it's election day today for the European Parliament. Yay.....
Took my grandma to the voting cabin earlier today (i did not vote, no valid papers and fuck voting in the first place), highlight of her day. "Oh, it was so exciting in there!", guess when you're that old you get your kick out of the most mundane things, probably because you are happy that you are still able to do them.
The bitch is his momma after all.
Ah, so he's her biological child? I read it as him being another child fostered together with you before. Hope it goes well for you and he does not take it in a bad way.
 
I am too white for this weather, even my scalp is sunburned.
I would offer you our weather but it's been cloudy and raining on and off and I quite like that so uh....no deal.
Took my grandma to the voting cabin earlier today (i did not vote, no valid papers and fuck voting in the first place), highlight of her day. "Oh, it was so exciting in there!", guess when you're that old you get your kick out of the most mundane things, probably because you are happy that you are still able to do them.
Huh, I guess the rules are different in Germany. Here, they just ask for your date of birth. And offer you candy.

Bless your grandmother, she sounds sweet and wholesome.
Ah, so he's her biological child? I read it as him being another child fostered together with you before. Hope it goes well for you and he does not take it in a bad way.
Yes. She has two of them.

She has also fostered 32 children including me but me and another one were the only ones to keep contact. Now it will only be the one, who happens to be her favorite.

And that's not to mention the tens of "part-time" foster kids.
 
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Now it will only be the one, who happens to be her favorite.
Shieeet, makes me wonder how she did treat the non-favorites after reading how she treated you.
Bless your grandmother, she sounds sweet and wholesome
She is but today was another day where i got reminded how much she has gotten on in years. Covid times really fucked her up, she was always a very active person, even in her advanced age, and was suddenly denied virtually every of her activities and that did a number on her. It's like she aged ten years in the span of two. She recently had her birthday and today she told me her new plan is reaching a hundred years, as long as she stays as mentally fit as she is now i salute that.
 
guess when you're that old you get your kick out of the most mundane things
They do. My grandma breaks down her trips to the grocery store, Dollar General, and the post office in detail when I go to help them with stuff around the house. It doesn't bother me since I know they can't get out much anymore and they want to be able to contribute to the "what have you been up to?" conversations with the rest of the family.

Speaking of, they tie into my thread tax. I love my grandparents, and bless their hearts because they try to save every single animal out there, but I wish they'd slow down on that with them getting up there in age. They took in a horse and a donkey from a rescue that needed someone with the land to take them. Both of the animals are old so they're not much use for anything besides being a money drain. I'll admit that I have a bias against horses. 99% of the people who think they want some have never dealt with them before. Unless you actually have cattle, which my grandparents haven't had for years now, horses are a giant money drain. Hay is stupid expensive, their feed is expensive, their vet bills are stupid expensive. Pretty much ditto for the donkey, they make great guard animals for farms because they'll run off or fight whatever isn't supposed to be there, but right now these are just two money sinks for them. I go over to actually take the hay and feed in for them, but damn it's just a lot of money to be throwing down when you're retired.
 
I’ve been using a nail bitterant to help break a lifelong nail biting habit; today I’m cooking for other people so I cleaned it off my nails, and now I’m just struggling to fight the compulsion to bite my nails. It’s weird, because I hate it and think it’s gross but my brain is so goddamn focused on how they’re the perfect length to bite. It’s fucking weird.
 
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I’ve been using a mail bitterant to help break a lifelong mail biting habit; today I’m cooking for other people so I cleaned it off my nails, and now I’m just struggling to fight the compulsion to bite my nails. It’s weird, because I hate it and think it’s gross but my brain is so goddamn focused on how they’re the perfect length to bite. It’s fucking weird.
All body-focused repetitive behaviors are an absolute bitch to break because they are so primal and deep-rooted. People who don't have any problematic ones always struggle to get it.
I recommend you keep using the nail bitterant longer than you think you need to- like, several months longer. Because it's very easy to relapse and undo months of habit-building within a day or two of "I won't take it that serious today."



I have been once again possessed by the demon that tells me to make a variety YouTube channel and that it would be "fun."
 
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Yesterday, I just celebrated my birthday with co-workers and friends. Feeling happy lately, especially how things are go smoothly. For the thing I said last month, it was a success! A baby boy, and we fucking love this little gremlin a lot. Now staying in the hospital and working with my stuff in the hospital for 10 days or so until my wife and our son will be properly ejected from said hospital. I was pretty joyous and hyped for my brother's arrival to my city this mid-June, as well as his kin. Will also spend two weeks with him and his girlfriend and going on vacation with them. I might occasionally join him to have some beer, but I prefer to be sober instead of drunk driving. Had everything needed for my little gremlin, so I await for parenthood to begin.
 
Today while running some errands I suffered a bit of a medical mishap. I nearly fainted but luckily some people rushed in to help me out. I even got a free cookie from the staff.

The world is full of kind, lovely, and helpful strangers. :)
The rule is the bigger the city the less likely it is you encounter friendly strangers (who actually are friendly strangers and not the kind you should beware).
 
I almost died today and it was in the lamest way possible.

I was on the phone and wanted a quick snack so I grabbed a pickled onion. Bit into it and started to swallow and immediately knew something was wrong. I had wedged a large chunk of onion in my throat and blocked my air way. I couldn't breathe at all but I wasn't choking in the normal way. Started to feel myself lose consciousness and the person on the phone was shouting my name. Managed to dislodge it just as I turned to the door ready to make a dash for my neighbors to get help. I do not recommend almost dying for a quick snack. Luckily my suicide risk is going to go down soon as I'm starting a new diet to help a medical condition. I won't be able to eat onions for a couple of months. Which is also a shame as onions are one of my favorite foods... When they're not trying to kill me.
 
... I was in the second biggest city in the U.S.

Guess I just got lucky.
You got lucky indeed.
I almost died today and it was in the lamest way possible.

I was on the phone and wanted a quick snack so I grabbed a pickled onion. Bit into it and started to swallow and immediately knew something was wrong. I had wedged a large chunk of onion in my throat and blocked my air way. I couldn't breathe at all but I wasn't choking in the normal way. Started to feel myself lose consciousness and the person on the phone was shouting my name. Managed to dislodge it just as I turned to the door ready to make a dash for my neighbors to get help. I do not recommend almost dying for a quick snack. Luckily my suicide risk is going to go down soon as I'm starting a new diet to help a medical condition. I won't be able to eat onions for a couple of months. Which is also a shame as onions are one of my favorite foods... When they're not trying to kill me.
So were you! Wow, incredible. Choking is a horrible sensation. Glad you are alive.
 
I almost died today and it was in the lamest way possible.
Don't feel too bad, pretty sure we've all been there/had equally lame ways we almost put ourselves into the forever box or at least almost knocked ourselves out. I still have one in particular that's one of my 11pm "I know we should go to bed, how about we remember this awful cringe moment instead" moments. Glad you survived that.
 
Doing well, my birthday's coming up next week and I'm floating ideas on how to spend it. A friend of mine had the itch to get a Disneyland Magic Key (basically an annual pass) and tried to convince me to get one for my birthday using the usual excuses to justify the price. I was slightly convinced to do it but it went belly-up when we saw that Disney stopped selling 'em two weeks ago.

Now I'm just considering getting the shit I need for my gaming laptop's display rig and a low-to-mid tier 3D printer for around the same price (and maybe a little more) as the $849 USD Enchant Key I was eyeballing.
 
A down-step can be a blessing in disguise. You've sounded stressed and discontent with this place for awhile. If it's a lower-key position or set of expectations, use the reduced stress and hopefully extra time to take care of business, keep looking for some thing else, kill it at the "new" job, spend more time with family and personal interests, and yeah, if you have a good side hustle in mind, put energy there.
Yep all good advice there. I've been reconnecting with some old colleagues who may be able to help me out too, so hopefully I can find something, and trying to come up with a good side business. Meanwhile I'm actually wondering if I should keep considering a masters degree in my field or if I should try going for an MBA. I would probably hate it, but it's an MBA, how hard can it be?
 
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