How are you doing? - Kiwi Farms Wellness Check

There's over a foot of snow outside, and I'm not even gonna bother getting the snowblower out until tomorrow. I was hungry, craving donuts, and I'm snowed in. I decided to try something my granddad used to do on mornings before we'd go fishing. Skillet donuts! Basically, just baking mix biscuits, use a shotglass to cut out the hole because you fry those bastards, too. Fried in a bit of oil, and covered in powdered sugar or cinnamon and sugar mix. Not the healthiest thing I've ever ate, but I enjoyed them just as much as I did when I was a kid, and they scratched the donut itch. I'm gonna look for a glaze recipe if I try again. Or maybe a honey glaze, because I've still got a big jar of honey to work through. I got my big ass fake fireplace roaring, and I'm cozy. I've never had a more relaxing blizzard.
 
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Feeling good, still sore in my thighs and ass from my last workout. Combination of squats and leg press, no naughty stuff. Anyway, it's a wonderful feeling that you are growing bigger and stronger.
I was actually dead tired and went to bed early yesterday, instead of going jogging. But still. I've only slept like 3-4 hours. I didn't fall asleep again after waking up, so I went to the gym for my cardio.

But I began to think that I maybe have gotten stronger in my legs. Since I began jogging. I mean, I'm happy about that. But I thought it was all about heart health and that stuff, not strength :thinking:
 
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I feel guilty for calling in to work. But at the same time, I live on a hill and my driveway is still iced over. The car me and my boyfriend are using was also iced over. We couldn't get into the driver's side at all. It probably sounds weak to people up north but down here we still aren't used to or equipped for icy roads. Let alone all the other people on the roads. We /could/ maybe make it. But better safe than sorry.

I've only ever called out once when my car literally would not start. I'm a pretty dependable worker so it's not like I'm flaky normally. I just feel so bad doing it.

I'm also worried it'll make my car's repairs take longer. But that's just to be expected. I just want to be able to drive my old girl again, dangit.
 
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Not a local said:
I've been having a hard time finding a real goal or meaning in my life. It feels like everything I strive for and accomplish, while great, doesn't make me feel anything for long. I'm not a nihilist, or suffering mental issues. I just don't know what I truly desire to become.

It's hard to explain, and I'm not great at conveying my emotions. Hopefully some solitary introspection will help me find some answers.
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If I can give some unsolicited advice, sometimes it matters more that you do something well than what it actually is you do. I suspect that you're pulling out your frame of reference on any given idea or task so wide that it just seems to have no inherent value in the wider scheme of things.

The truth is, if you pull back far enough, almost anything you do will seem small. The trick is to look closer in. Instead of looking around and seeing pointlessness in something, look at the details and focus on improving your skills or improving what you're working on. Perspective is a tool.

If you're able to do things but it doesn't give you a sense of accomplishment, then change to doing things with other people. You will find more meaning in something you have done when you see it has meaning for others or makes you a part of something bigger.
 
Double-post because I don't want to follow advice to someone struggling a little with "I'm doing well". Seems crass. So putting it in a new post.

I'm doing well.

I think I'm doing well. My natural (well, learned) caution makes me wary of saying that but last year I made a big life decision and so far it seems to be going not awful. And might work out. There's been a lot of things which should be stressful happen in my life. Are kind of stressful. But instead of focusing on that I've focused on my ability to handle those things. And held to the perspective that I can see they aren't permanent. I feel like I've been overcoming obstacles on an obstacle course. Can't PL specifics but it's a change in mindset from how I used to feel set upon by such events.

I'm not saying I could keep this up forever but I wont have to. Right now, I'm just thinking: "you haven't let this get to you, well done." I feel slightly proud of myself, which is a new sensation. Makes me want to help others feel the same.
 
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Ended a friendship today that has been turning toxic for the last few weeks now. I tried to keep it reasonable and civil whilst also giving my reason (I was hurt over an argument we'd had and their reaction to it - they immediately turned something I was upset about on me before straight up telling me to go fuck myself. I was pretty shocked by how aggressive they were and how quickly I had to scramble to save our friendship. Since then I've thought about it and realised that's not how friends treat each other). They've told me they'll respect my decision but it doesn't feel any less painful.
Also after I said it was for the best, they responded with 'kk' which pretty much confirms everything I thought.
It's going to make life awkward because we work together and it's extremely painful right now but what can you do?
 
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Rudol von Stroheim said:
Ended a friendship today that has been turning toxic for the last few weeks now. I tried to keep it reasonable and civil whilst also giving my reason (I was hurt over an argument we'd had and their reaction to it - they immediately turned something I was upset about on me before straight up telling me to go fuck myself. I was pretty shocked by how aggressive they were and how quickly I had to scramble to save our friendship. Since then I've thought about it and realised that's not how friends treat each other). They've told me they'll respect my decision but it doesn't feel any less painful.
Also after I said it was for the best, they responded with 'kk' which pretty much confirms everything I thought.
It's going to make life awkward because we work together and it's extremely painful right now but what can you do?
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To be honest, those are pretty selfish responses. I mean maybe it's just defenisiveness hiding similar hurt but it doesn't really sound like it if they put no effort into trying to preserve the friendship and they go straight to attack when they've hurt you. That latter in particular is a dead giveaway for a toxic relationship or friendship.

You sound like a decent sort - you will make other friends.
 
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I sprained my back on Thursday evening and spent almost the entirety of yesterday in bed. Couldn't bend, just turning over was agony. Peed into the toilet standing up which isn't as clean or easy when you don't have a fleshy tube to point into the bowl.

I have problems with my back every now and then thanks to stupidly trying to lift a lawnmower into my car years ago - it felt like I'd done that again.

I'm better now but my left lower side is still sore.
 
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>Night before, i was up to my eyes in work and finally got home after the tyke and the wife were asleep.
>Didn't eat, just got into bed with her and slept off the exhaustion
>Today: toured a new apartment complex for us to move to with the son in a new city, Skipped breakfast and lunch
>Finally done, fucking famished
>Stopped at the Grocery, got a rotisserie chicken and a bottle of 14 Hands red (augh yea, one of THOSE days)
>Got home and demolished most of the chicken and was swigging the wine straight from the bottle
>Wife walked in after getting the son to a friend's house for a blessed play-date
>oh, shit.
>"Yea, me too."
>Had to make another grocery run

It's that kind of feel. IDK how to sum it up any easier.
 
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My doctors have proven themselves to be useless once again. I feel backed into a corner and I just don’t have any strength to keep fighting anymore when getting out of bed is an ordeal.

On an upside I’ve been able to rehome a lot of my reptiles to people who can do better than me.
 
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Passed by a McDonalds and saw this “Land Air and Sea burger” abomination, so of course I had to try it:

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They just gave me 3 separate burgers instead of the single affront to god like I ordered. I think I may have been screwed…
 
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naaaaiiiiillllll!!! said:
Passed by a McDonalds and saw this “Land Air and Sea burger” abomination, so of course I had to try it:

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They just gave me 3 separate burgers instead of the single affront to god like I ordered. I think I may have been screwed…
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That’s part of their new dumb marketing thing. They can’t even be bothered to put it together for you and you get stuck with food waste.
 
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